#fenasks

[xeno-aligned]

I just wanted to asked if it’s ok for neurotypical people to use xenogenders as long as they’re being respectful and being mindful of the experiences some of the gender requires(hope that makes sense!)

xenogenders aren't neurodivergent exclusive (with the exception of neurogenders), anyone can use them!

[neurogender]

do you know any genders and orientations that are related to adhd and MADD

adhd: (I couldnt find any orientations, only genders!)

Focigender represents a gender identity that is influenced by or shifts with your hyperfixations/obsessions. It was primarily made with ADHD and BPD in mind but it’s free to be used by any neurodivergent person (including self-dxed) who experiences a similar strong focus on things. This includes autistic special interests and also multiply-diagnosed, undiagnosed and questioning people!

passiogender: a gender influenced by gender being a neurodivergent person’s special interest/hyperfixation (could be considered a subset of autigender/fascigender/chaotigender/etc.)

Foggender: A gender which is close to a certain gender, but cannot be directly pinpointed due to brainfog (a lack of concentration or wakefulness associated with ADHD, fibromyalgia, depression, etc.)

gendernimius: a gender that’s influenced by ones hyperactivity; a hyperactive, uncontrollable gender. only to be used by folx with adhd.

ADnurix: A gender that is caused by the Attention Deficit in ADHD. This gender is basically “Executive Dysfunction: Gender Edition”. It’s somewhere in the brain fog. You just don’t know where it is just yet. The gender was just here a second ago, I’ll find it, I swear. This term can only be used by people with ADHD.

fixigender: a fluid gender experienced by those with adhd which can fluctuate or intensify with a hyperfixation. can feel like it fades without a hyperfixation & can also depend on what the hyperfixation is!

madd:

dremegender / dremgender / dreamgender / draumgender: A gender influenced heavily by maladaptive daydreaming.

Mala-: An orientation which is created or influenced by maladaptive daydreaming or fantasy prone personalities.

escapigender: a gender that changes when experiencing escapism/maladaptive daydreams, or the lack/gain of a gender during. this definition is for people with maladaptive daydream/dissociative disorder or escapism only

paragender: A gender that is affected by one’s daydreams and the events that occur in one’s paracosms. more specifically by the way your parame(s)/paraself(paraselves) manifest. To be used by Maladaptive Daydreamers.

[neopronoun-radio]

Can I have ie/iem/ier/iers/iemself, o/oem/oir/oirs/oemself, and thxy/thxm/thxr/thxrs/thxmself? Please and thank you!

requests are closed at the moment, but feel free to send them in again when theyre open!

[xenobutch]

u can’t be butch and a man. doing that makes you a lesbophobe. it’s really disrespectful to equate masculine lesbians to men in the way that you’re doing. i’m a butch lesbian. butch lesbians aren’t men. butch lesbians are NEVER men. butch is an exclusively lesbian term for women and nonbinary lesbians. stop stealing from lesbians.

hey, my first discourse ask! congrats~

1) you can for sure be a butch and a man. source, me, a butch man. nah for real - butch has always been a term for all queer people. if you look at queer ball culture in the 80s, you’ll find people of all genders calling themselves butch. (paris is burning, anyone?)

2) i’m not a lesbian, so we’re in agreement in that butch lesbians aren’t men (unless they personally define themselves in that way)!

3) like i said in no.1, butch (and femme) is not a term that’s lesbian exclusive. it’s not even wlw exclusive. here’s a masterpost of links to essays that cover this. butch voices have a FAQ on this.

you can also look through my discourse tag to find more articles & essays.

[ask-pride-color-schemes]

So I have a question. I’m an Afab. I feel strong disassociation with male pronouns and mild-medium disassociation with female pronouns. I haven’t experimented with pronouns(I have anxiety and don’t want to bother ppl about it), but I feel better with like- no pronouns?? Does that make sense? Is there a term for this?

you can def use no pronouns! that’s called being nullpronouned, according to this post. one way you could do this is to have people use your name all the time, e.g. [name] went to the bookstore to buy a book for [name] and [name] was happy with [name]’s choice.

- x-a

[glenmoril]

So, I'd like a tarot reading please. I'd like to know when I'm going to get over my depression or if I ever will. btw my initials are ALP and my star sign thingy is a Taurus.

sure thing. before i start - i’m sorry you’re suffering from depression, i do too and i know its horrible.

 i pulled the ace of swords. the suit of aces represents new beginnings, so before we even get to the symbology and the swords aspect, things are looking up. this card signifies victory, strength, a sharp mind, and the potential for immense power & success. i’d say that yes, you will get over your depression, so congrats! good luck!

[alternonhuman]

what would i call my soulmates from my canon? like. just as an example, if i was kin with jim halpert.. what would i call pam? i'm kin with someone and.. i really miss my canon partner. i just have no idea what i'd actually call my partner. i know there's canonmate, but is there a word for something closer than that?

Sorry, I haven't heard of a word for that! Just soulmates would work fine, or even canonsoulmates?

[xeno-aligned]

hey Will, I'm low on spoons right now but I saw that you're the new host and person that runs this blog, so even if you're not as active I wanted to ask if you were stuck on the same arophobic stuff Morgan was?

this is what i think:

[id: a chart titled ‘the asexual spectrum (aspec)’. underneath the title is written: “asexual, aromantic, aplatonic, greyromantic, quoisexual, alloaro, akoi/lithromantic, demisexual, aegosexual... and many more!” next to each orientation is their respective flag. end id]

[xeno-aligned]

There are so many genders! I had no idea, this is making me so happy

:) im glad!

[xeno-aligned]

Do you know any terms for not knowing your gender or not having words to describe it

Vexgender or Vexegender: When one’s gender is in the non-binary/agender spectrum, but pinpointing it beyond that is impossible because the individual does not understand the concept of gender.

Turbogender: A gender that you have tried to figure out but is too confusing and tangled.

Virgender: A gender identity that is practically and particularly genderless. This usually happens when it is too stressful or difficult to have a gender.

Graygender or Gray Agender: Describes a person who is ambivalent about their gender identity/expression, but who identifies at least partially with a gender (defined or not) outside of the binary. They may experience a weak sense of gender, or have difficulty defining their gender, or just not be overly involved in gender as a concept.

Gendervoid or Voidgender: A gender identity defined by absence, a blank space or void where a gender might otherwise be.

Mimicnull: A gender that is purely mimicry and reaction to outside stimuli. You have no real baseline gender, just an absence where your gender would be. Designed for neurodivergent folks but anyone can use it. 

Seagender: a gender that is as deep and unknown as the ocean itself. It’s a gender that is mostly incomprehensible but slightly familiar in human terms.

[xeno-aligned]

how do i explain to my friend what neo pronouns are? hes having a hard time understanding it..

neopronouns are just words used to refer to someone, exactly like he/him & she/her, except they aren’t gendered. they’ve been used for a long time! there’s a info guide here you could send to your friend!

[xeno-aligned]

hi, are there any xeno/neurogenders related to overthinking/being indecisive about your gender so you can't quite pin it down? maybe influenced by adhd/anxiety? i've always liked the term foggender but i'm not sure if it 100% fits

quite a few!

Pendogender: “Never being satisfied with your gender no matter how well it fits due to self-doubt, causing one to compulsively search and seek out something that fits even better. Gender perfectionism. This term is exclusive to neurodivergent people only, specifically coined with people with anxiety disorders, OCD, and OCPD in mind.

Xumgender: Never being satisfied with your gender due to constant self-doubt or identity issues, causing one to compulsively search and seek out something that fits as perfect as possible–to find “the gender” or “the one truth”–though one will never be found due to one’s neurotype, because words will never be able to describe it, and/or its own properties paradox itself. This frequent anxiety and doubt even causes this gender to feel imperfect to the individual.

Kynigender: A gender which is not able to be pinpointed due to the stress of the questioning process causing anxiety.

Genderinimicus: A sentiogender which describes a gender experience that cannot be fully felt/comprehended/understood because each time one attempts to mediate on their gender and determine what it does or does not entail/encompass, they feel a great sense of unease or anxiety, they begin to panic, or they become greatly distressed/distraught (including feelings of anger/frustration/despair) over not being able to make the determination. Note that this is not a distress that comes solely from uncertainty, but is a gender experience that necessarily involves an anxious/panicked/distressed sense of one’s own gender. The experiencer is therefore at odds with their gender, and this is the only thing they can know for certain, even if they can approximate what else their gender encompasses. This is dissimilar to questioning or quoigender because it necessarily entails a dissatisfaction with one’s inability to fully grasp their gender. It is NOT just “IDK my gender” or “my gender is IDK”; it’s “I’m disappointed that I don’t know my gender because some emotional barrier is in the way, but I’d still like a term that describes that experience.”

Varumgender / Avarumgender: A gender for a person who feels that, while many terms may be used to describe their gender, they don’t feel like identifying with them may be right for them–due to uncertainty, anxiety, or just neurodivergency in general. Alternatively, a term for use where many labels may fit, and one’s gender may fit all the criteria for these labels, but the traits are all static and never seem to overwhelm each other.

Nesciogender: A gender one is not completely sure of due to one’s neurotype disallowing a clear understanding of the concept, but has a vague sense of what it could be; i.e. nescioboy, nescioagender, etc.

[neurogender]

heyyy is there a term for when you flux on the aspectrum bc of neeuodivergence, in particular depression or anxiety?

there’s adfectu-?

“ Adfectu-: Whether one is able to feel a kind of attraction depends on one’s state of mind; also describes someone whose sex repulsion fluctuates based on their state of mind. For survivors and neurodivergent people.”

you could also use arovague/acevague or neuro-

-vague: An orientation that is influenced, in whole or in part, by the person’s neurodivergence. Most commonly used as acevague/arovague.

Neuro- An umbrella term for when your neurodivergent condition affects your orientation, but it can be used as a standalone identity. Similar concept to neurogender.

[xeno-aligned]

There’s a gender that’s related to lanterns, the night and quiet but I can’t find

genderstille: a gender related to the night, quietness, lanterns, the moon, music, air, trees, and/or grass

[xeno-aligned]

Is there a term for someone who uses more than one term to describe their gender?

if you mean specifically someone who has one gender but uses multiple labels, then i don’t know of any, sorry. but if you mean someone who has multiple genders, then you could look into multigender, gendercollecter, etc

[xeno-aligned]

im f*ck/punkgender and i need to find the definition to explain it to a friend but i C A N N O T find it anywhere, so im wondering if you knew what it is? or help find it?

Genderpunk: A colloquial term for a culture of resistance against gendernormativity; an identity that in and of itself is a resistance against gender norms, homophobia and transphobia, oppression, and societal status. The term Genderpunk is not limited to trans people. Anyone can be genderpunk.

more info in the link - is this what ur after?