no, but really, we need to talk about the casual objectification that has become the fallback discourse of the internet: if you're pretty and dressed nicely, you're a slut. and if you're even vaguely outside of their body standard, you're fucking disgusting.
too-frequently, people position sex workers as being "the problem". they sneer you're addicted to pornography, you don't know what a real woman looks like. but real women are in pornography. the real bodies on display are not the issue here: the issue is that other people feel extremely confident when commenting on someone's physique.
2000's super-thin is slowly worming its way back into the public ideal. recently i saw someone get told to "go for a run", despite the fact she was on the thinner side of average. not that it would ever be appropriate to say that: but it's kind of like sticker shock when you see it. people think that is fat? holy shit. do they just have no idea about things?
but what are you going to do about it? that's the problem, right. because chances are - you're a normal person. we can say normalize carrying fat on your body, but we are not the billion-dollar diet industry. we are not the billion-dollar fashion industry. we are just, like. people. who are trying to make content on the internet, without being treated shittily.
as someone who has been on both sides of things: you are treated better when you are thin and pretty. this is statistically correct. i am not saying that you cannot be bullied for being thin; i'm saying there are objective institutional biases against certain bodytypes. there are videos of men and women who lost weight all saying: i now know for a fact exactly how much worse you're treated. in the comments, some asshole inevitably says something akin to you deserved to be dehumanized when you were fat.
which means that ... the easiest thing to do is be pretty and thin. it is the path of least resistance, because of course it is, because any time you post a picture of yourself without a thigh gap, someone immediately comments something like you need to try a diet.
the other half is also dehumanizing though, huh, just in a different way. when i put on makeup and nice clothes, i am told i slept my way to the top as a professional. do you know how many women in STEM have told me they purposefully dress to "unimpress" because they already struggle to be taken seriously and if they're ever considered pretty - it for some reason takes away from their authority.
so they make it seem like it's your fault. you, existing in a body - it's your fault! if you didn't want shitty comments, don't have a body. they position us against each other like chess pieces; vying for male attention we don't even need.
and i can be an authority on this unless you think i'm fat and unattractive. when i am pretty and thin, i'm an activist. when i am just a normal person who makes a good point: i am immediately dismissed. nobody fucking believes you if you're not seen as attractive. you literally lose value. you cease to exist.
but the whole time, it feels like - is anyone actually grounded the fuck in reality? the line of "pretty and thin" keeps shifting. nobody seems to understand what "a normal weight" even looks like, because it's not something that exists - you cannot tell a person's health by looking at their body. even if you think you could tell that, even if you're sure a person is dangerously overweight - people are not your dolls. they do not need to be dressed up or displayed properly to soothe your aesthetics. you aren't concerned for them, you're stealing their agency. you don't get to say if they're "allowed" to take pictures and post them on the internet - you don't get to tell them how to exist.
people hide behind "the obesity epidemic" without any actual qualifications. they crow things about "normalizing unhealthiness".
but it's bullshit. i have visible abs. there is a pair of parallel lines on my body, even when i'm relaxed; where my obliques meet my abdominal wall. i am proud of this because it means i'm strong, because i overcame an eating disorder only to be ripped as fuck. it is genetic and physical luck that i even get any definition, i'm pleased as punch.
but it does mean that my abdominal wall sticks out a little bit. the other day i posted a video of myself dancing, and, for a moment, my shirt slipped. you could see a little bit of my stomach. i was cartwheeling to the floor. moments before this, i'd had my foot over my head.
a guy slid into my DMs. a row of vomiting emojis prefaced: you should really lose some weight before you think about dancing.
i stared at it for a long time. there was a time when i would have been triggered by this, where it would have encouraged me to starve myself. i would have ignored the fact i'm flexible, agile, good at jumping: i would have lost the weight for a stranger's passing comment. i would have found myself and my body fucking disgusting.
and for what? to please what? because why? so that he can exist in this world without an unchallenged eyeball? what would my self-hatred even accomplish? usually i write paragraphs. obviously. on this particular occasion, in this body i've been at war with for ages: i just felt exhausted.
it shouldn't be even worth saying. it shouldn't be hard to explain. all of this emotional turmoil when he cannot even comprehend the most basic truth: i am not an object on display for him.
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However, the circumstances of war turned Qusai’s life upside down. These difficult conditions added more challenges to the life of this perseverant child. As his father, I feel helpless in the face of these enormous challenges, and I hope with all my heart that my son’s condition does not worsen under these current circumstances.
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These scams can be under the pretext for *getting medication*/*getting a group of people to a safer location* or whatever new variations that may pop up in the future!
Not all of these are telltale signs that the person is a scammer but just some things I have seen in common
1a. Their accounts are barely a week old and has liked nothing much but posts of people answering positively to their scams sent to your inbox
1b. Only liking/reblogging posts related to the scam they're trying to sell
2. Linking a *go fund me* but it actually leads you to their paypal account under a different name
3. Lack of precise information/vagueness. Their last few lines are always along the lines of; please donate/help where possible because all they care about is money!
4. You've interacted; reblogged/liked/commented with whatever content recently so they send you their stolen paragraph from an actual person who's in need of help. eg. Charity, free Gaza
5a. Inconsistent pronouns being used eg. Sometimes using 'i' and then switching to "them" or vice versa
5b. In addition to inconsistent pronouns, there could also be randomly placed quotation or exclamation marks - meaning they copied it from someone
6. You could also try reverse google searching the images/paragraph they use by simply putting quotation mark followed by the paragraph eg. "paragraph"
7. Copying the paragraph and pasting it on Tumblr search. You'll instantly find proof by looking at others posts
8. Always check against a vetted source to know if their account is reliable
Always report scammers posts and accounts too!
As always, don't be so trusting/gullible of everything you see online! Always check its legitimacy before liking/reblogging or asking others to help them out!
Not everyone is a scammer, but it's important donations go to people who actually need it!!
Reblogs are appreciated to help spread awareness 🙏🏼 With that said, Free Palestine, Congo, Haiti, Hawai’i, Sudan
hiii know i havent posted much art here lately but i am once again disabled and very broke, looking for anyone who may want one of these semi-monochrome rendered bust sketches :] $25+ depending on detail, and i can always do larger pieces, color, etc !
“In the war, I thought I was strong, that I would overcome any challenge. But when I was infected with Covid-19, I felt like the world stopped around me. Every day was a nightmare, the fear of suffocation, constant headaches, high fever, body pain, isolation, and the feeling of loneliness were ravishing me.” On the inside I was having moments where I didn't know if I would ever be able to breathe normally again. But thanks to the support of my loved ones and medical care, I will overcome the disease. Illness has taught me one thing; Strength does not lie in endurance alone, but rather in asking for help and cooperating with those around you.
Today, I stand before you to ask for your help, for myself, but also for those who suffer as I do. There are those who do not find enough support or care, and there are those who struggle alone in these difficult circumstances. Your small donation can make a big difference in someone else's life, just as the support you received did mine. I know the world is full of challenges, but I believe that one heart can make a difference. Thank you for your help and support.”
Vetted by @gazavetters, my number verified on the list is ( #100 )
Dr. Sarah Ghalayini, who asked for this video of hers to be shared, is a survivor of the brutal siege on Al Shifa Medical Complex during which she reported, despite her terror, on what was happening. She, like all healthcare workers in Gaza, is the definition of a hero. The support her GoFundMe received seems to have made her father very happy, but just when hope was on the horizon, his life was taken.
This is the pain, the unbearable grief, that Izzr431 inflicts daily. We can’t let ourselves become used to witnessing this grief that our politicians and corporations are complicit in creating. We need to sit with it, and act to stop the source of it.
Go to Dr. Ghalayini’s fundraiser below or @saraaghalayini on IG and show her and her grieving family some love. Go to her profile and post some words of support too.
Repost from @saraaghalayini
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I can no longer see you with my eyes or touch you with hands, but I will feel you in my heart forever Daddy 💔
Actually i was more like forced to make such a video cause all people insisted me to make such a video and know what’s happened 💔
please can you share the video on your story because I hope this video to reach many people to pray for my father, to see our suffering and to support us
I've mentioned this already but I recently got an infected tooth I need to go to a specialist about it! I have some money saved up but it will cost about an estimated $1k-$3K (since I don't have insurance OTL) and since I have school coming up, I can't really work during that time...
So I'm linking my kofi for anyone who'd like to help? I only need a portion of the cost so that I don't go in the red OwO' Any help would be super appreciated!
And please only help if you can spare it; I wouldn't want to financially burden anyone with this! Also, anyone donating 4 or more kofis get a little thank you doodle request; just leave the prompt in a comment!
🍉I am Hala, a Palestinian from the besieged and destroyed Gaza Strip 😭😭. I fled the war with my husband to Egypt..
The story began on March 21, 2024 when my beautiful child was born.. He was a wonderful and special child.. Suddenly, a week after his birth, my child Abdul Aziz's belly swelled up a lot and I visited several doctors without discovering the reason.. After another week of the child's suffering, I took him to a specialized hospital and the doctors there discovered a blockage in Abdul Aziz's colon that prevented him from excreting stool.. It was decided to perform a surgical operation consisting of an opening in Abdul Aziz's belly to temporarily remove stool from his intestines until the affected part of the colon was removed in another complex surgical operation that cost thousands of dollars..😭😭
I am speaking to you now with great sadness about my child's condition and I ask you to help me and donate to me to collect the costs of the operation within a month from now.
I appeal to everyone who can donate any amount, no matter how small, because it will save my child and give us hope.
Please don't leave my son alone to suffer and struggle in these difficult days alone.. You can support my campaign by donating what you can or share my posts to reach others who can help us by raising the cost of the surgery you are helping in the life of an innocent child with your small contribution. ❤❤🍉🍉
Every donation makes a difference in his very difficult life
I just saw this post and I don't know what to do!!
This is just one case in more than 60 THOUSAND other injury cases!!
This is the father of Rashad Nofel. Rashad is 14yo and he's the last remaining child to his father. The Israeli Zionist occupation killed his mother and two other siblings and he lost one of his legs and the other one is filled with blisters and a "bad smell is coming out of it"
His father is saying that he wants him to be taken out of Gaza Strip to treat him. "He has to take medicine to sleep and still can't because he's sleeping in a corridor and people coming and going keep jostling him. He's my last child. He used to bring his siblings water and food before they were killed.... I lost my wife and two other children and he's last one I have"
Guess who has a fuckin migraine and no rescue meds
I haven’t had my rescue med in months.
My second-line rescue med is off the table, too, because it’s weed. (I really want weed. 😭)
I’m giving myself the homemade version of the hospital’s migraine cocktail: Advil (instead of toradol, another NSAID), Benadryl, and zofran.
So I’m gonna be out of service here in about 20-30 minutes, and I’m glad. Luckily, this is the first migraine I’ve had in a very long time, and I caught it early.
I would really appreciate it if you could help me by donating to save me and my family from the dangers of war and death in Gaza and escape to a safe place
Please share, repost or donate to my family 🙏
https://gofund.me/b60fb34d
Hello Asmaa,
May Allah SWT protect you and your family, i hope you will reach your goal soon InshaAllah ❤️
Asmaa and her family need to evacuate as soon as possible!!
🛑pleas don't scroll ‼️Hi, I hope you are well. My name is Mohammed Atallah, I live with my parents, six sisters, a little girl named Malak and a little boy named Ameer in North Gaza. I created this link to fund a bone graft in my left hand which was shot by an explosive bullet, to rebuild our destroyed home and to evacuate my family from Gaza to a safe place.And donate any amount to safe life .. I will appreciate your help❤️ Can you please help as much as you can . Press all buttons on my wall , I beg you to visit my page, view it, and donate via the link in the bio💔The campaign has been documented @90-ghost Donate and share widely 🆘🆘 Every euros will make a difference 🙏I urge you to donate. Even the smallest amount can make the biggest difference. Not only he needs to evacuate with his family, but he is in dire need for surgery! The IDF has shot his arm with an explosive bullet. Not a regular one. AN EXPLOSIVE ONE. So he needs to get it treated right away! Otherwise, he will get an infection and it may lead to amputation. WE DO NOT WANT THAT TO HAPPEN, DO WE DO?So contribute! Make sure to reblog and share his story if you are unable to do so. Please share on Twitter and tumbler and Instagram
HI ANYONE SEEING THIS. if you are able to donate to this gofundme please please please do. Mohammed needs donations in order to fund a bone graft surgery for his left hand that was shot by an explosive bullet. If you are unable to donate any interaction at all with this post or any on his blog can help.