#gifted kid burnout

[brightlotusmoon]

[zebulontheplanet]

Hearing constantly about gifted autistic kids and people seeing it as THEE autistic trait has completely disregarded those who aren’t gifted and made a HUGE divide in the community. Seeing constantly “yeah autistic people are usually gifted” is so annoying because a VERY large chunk of autistic people, aren’t actually gifted and media has just put the gifted people at the front because they’re more palatable. The “autistic gifted kid burnout” has become more so a trend than anything and I’ve seen a lot of people assume they’re autistic because they are the “gifted kid burnout person” when that isn’t even a requirement for an autism diagnosis. You don’t have to be gifted to be autistic. You don’t have to be!!

Start putting the people who struggle more in the spotlight. Those with intellectual disabilities, those with learning disabilities, those with cognitive disabilities, those who are just generally stereotypically “dumb” and embrace it!

We need to have a very big discussion about this as a community and it needs to start today.

[mothmonologue]

My life is a constant cycle between "I need to rest before I burn out" and "I'm wasting my potential, I should work harder"

[feelingtheaster99]

Annabeth telling Percy, “There are things I don’t know!”

…Yeah that hit hard for me

[thoradvice]

you don't have to live up to other people's expectations of you to be worth something. you have inherent value, and inherently deserve love and kindness. you'll find meaning in life outside of academics or skills, for there is so much more out there.

it's okay if you aren't what your parents or teachers wanted. you're you, and that'll always be enough.

[holierthanth0u]

"gifted children" are not necessarily gifted... sometimes kids just get a burst of development in certain areas, and it evens out and stagnates over time. its just how some people develop, you are not "failed" because of it.

[macaulaytwins]

I hate college, I’m dropping out of college, college is the absolute bane of my— oh! my professor just praised me :) I love college, college makes me who I am, when college ends I’ll be so miserable I could die

[kefalion]

The tragedy of Anakin Skywalker

Gifted kid

- midichlorian count off the charts

- pod race winner. Only human who can do it

- builds a complex droid from scraps

Gifted teen

- one of the best swords men in the order even though he doesn’t practice much

- vows he will become the most powerful Jedi ever one day

20s

- burnout

Thank @intermundia for telling me to share this

[infiniteorangethethird]

being good at math & school but being shit at everything else truly is a specially crafted hell. Ppl will deny recognition for your academic achievements and the effort you put into your studies bc "well of course ur doing good you're smart that's just how you are" but then turn around and shit on you when you struggle in different areas bc "you should be able to do this you're smarter than that".

[theadderalltoyourstiles]

Pretty sure this has been done already , but i wanted to do it anyway .

Also there's MORE to add but there's no space :(

[snakeautistic]

As overplayed as the undiagnosed gifted kid to burned out neurodivergent narrative is, I fall into it perfectly. I have complicated feelings on being labeled as ‘gifted’ and placed into various advanced classes as a kid. Being “smart” was (and still, is, honestly) a deep rooted part of my identity. Any turn of events that makes me feel unintelligent deeply shakes my self esteem.

I think this is particularly potent for ND people because we think in behave in such divergent ways that our differences are considered an extension of our giftedness. In our minds being intelligent is the one good thing we have. We’re often mocked or looked down upon for not fitting in, so our only security is academic achievement.

I’d think admittedly very nasty things about the classmates that would ostracize me as a child. “It doesn’t matter what they think, because I’m so much smarter than them, and they’ll end up failing at life while I succeed” It hurt a lot to be excluded and at times laughed at. Basically little me was just coping extremely hard.

It’s dangerous to attribute success, whether academically or monetarily, to worth, but it’s something almost everyone is prone to. And in a society not designed for neurodivergent people, it’s much harder to meet that definition of success.

So you fail. And then what? Those around you have been sending the you the same messaging all your life- the one part of you that is worth anything at all is not enough.

[achillesreborn]

to the ones who were meant to beat the odds, meant to succeed where others had failed, who've felt the weight of expectation on their shoulders since they could hold their head up alone. those who know the feeling of peering eyes & judging whispers in their ears.

to those who were meant to be the best, & did not reach those hopes, you did wonderfully. your efforts are not in vain, no matter how bitter their words may be.

you tried. it wasn't easy, so you fought. search for that pride inside of yourself & once you find it, cling on hard. you've stayed, so you've won.

[chilli-talks-a-lot]

romanticize learning, not school

The education system (in the U.S. at least) sucks! School sucks!

High expectations get set on you and you exhaust yourself trying to achieve them

Often, it promotes unhealthy competition and causes you to compare yourself to other students, even though everyone has different skill sets and circumstances

Being neurodivergent makes it HELL

School doesn't DESERVE to be romanticized. Burnout sucks. You're not going "above and beyond," you're trying to push yourself into unbreathable altitudes.

Rather, consider romanticizing learning:

Researching because gaining knowledge is fun, you like how it feels to understand the world around you

Teaching because you want to spread that knowledge to others

Finding your own engaging methods

Giving yourself control. Learning because you want to.

[itsthetism]

when they think they can hurt me, but i have an emotionally immature mum and an emotionally unavailable dad

[jewelleria]

Dirty Laundry: Why Adults with ADHD Are So Ashamed and What We Can Do to Help by Richard Pink and Roxanne Emery

[gayvampyr]

schools won’t teach ~gifted kids~ shit like how to study or organize their time or really understand concepts because “it comes naturally to them” and then when they actually need those skills they wonder why the gifted kids don’t seem so gifted anymore