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aroacearchangel · 5 months
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hey. do whatever you want btw. it’s your identity. kiss people for fun. enjoy sex. nobody’s stopping you. being aro and/or ace doesn’t mean you have to be repulsed by romantic or sexual activities if you don’t want to.
and also! things only mean what you meant them to mean. you can have platonic sex and platonically make out with your friends. it’s true. just be sure to communicate so that everyone involved understands and you’re good.
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genderqueerdykes · 10 months
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aromantic and asexual people are not inherently "miserable" or "unhappier" than other people. we are not "missing out" on something- if we do not experience these feelings to begin with, we have nothing to "miss out" on. the only time that aromantic and asexual people are miserable is when we are forced into relationships or forced to believe we "need" to be in one to be complete. destroy this argument in your mind- aromantic and asexual people define our happiness. we are not inherently miserable, we are doing just fine
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sillysecretwriting · 3 months
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Being somewhere on both aro and ace spectrums and having a partner is such an odd type of erasure. Like up until accidentally starting to date my current partner, I'd always just say "I don't really date" if people asked about my romantic life and just left it there. I knew that I was so rarely romantically attracted to people, it wasn't never, but the number of people I've been romantically attracted to in my entire life is maybe three? My partner is one of the three, so I ended up having this cute person that I'm romantically attracted to and now share large portions of my life with, but my identity hasn't changed. Our relationship is the rarity, not the normal for me, but now when people ask, and I tell them I have a partner, that larger portion of me that doesn't always understand why other people are so set on having a partner or why there's so much stigma around being single, is just erased in that person's eyes.
I was happy alone and didn't feel like anything was missing. I'm also happy with my partner. But I just hate that the aro (and ace) spectrum parts of my identity become invisible as soon as I mention my partner.
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samsayswhatever · 3 months
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Shout out to the people who wake up a woman and go to bed a man. The the people who wear lipstick and have a beard. To the people whose gender is complicated. To the people who need a minute to think about it. To the people who don't really care. To the people who never stop thinking about it. To the people whose gender and sexuality are the same thing. To the people who like people in a way they can't explain. To the people who don't like anything. To the people with a thousand crushes. To the people who never had one.
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aceoffangirls · 1 year
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You know sometimes I doubt being on the aromantic spectrum but then I hear people talking about dating for fun or being in a relationship even if they know it won’t last and realise I would only be intrested in a romantic relationship if it would be endgame and would skip the dating aspect and just like be in love
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tomatosoupenjoyer · 3 months
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Or idk I'm arospec
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bisexualsafespace · 5 months
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smashing amatonormativity doesn't mean adding qpr's to amatonormativity
it means smashing amatonormativity! no relationship is inferior to another!!
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a qpr is that a platonic relationship that is "queer" as in different from more common platonic relationships.
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leresq · 3 months
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How and why is 'im not attracted to anyone' or 'im not attracted to most people' controversial on the eve of 2024 the year of our lord.
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The casual exlusionism within the AroAce community really affected how I view myself, because I'm in my mid-20s and I'm only just realizing that I might be Grey Aromantic too because I really enjoy romance in fiction, romance is one of my favorite genres.
the idea of having someone who understands you and will be there for you no matter what, who you want to spend the rest of your life with is a very appealing idea to me, especially with the trauma I've been through.
I'm not a fan of "happily ever after" romance, but realistic romance where we see couples still struggling with their own problems, but still have each other.
But I only just realized I've felt genuine romantic attraction so little, and most other times I have were hyperromantic trauma responses.
I have multiple partners across two DID systems, and I love them very much, but my romantic attraction is exclusively within those two systems. People outside of those systems, I haven't had any romantic attraction to since I was 13. There were a few hyperromantic crushes out of want or need for attention (as I'm a trauma survivor), but even those were sparse.
Even my break ups with some people only bothered me because of how they broke up with me, not that they broke up with me. Not that they severed a year (or more) long romantic relationship with me.
Aromanticism is more complicated than I initially thought, and the exclusionist behavior that is so common from inside and out only muddies the water and makes it difficult for AroAce people to accept themselves.
We need to learn to spread acceptance and that just because someone doesn't fit a perfect box, that doesn't mean they're not one of us.
AroAce is not a box, and it shouldn't be treated that way.
THIS POST IS ABOUT AROACES, NOT ALL ASPEC IDENTITIES, PLEASE DO NOT DERAIL!
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stonedregulus · 10 months
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“How can you write romance or smut when you’re aroace?”
Well, apart from aro & ace being spectrums and all the nuances that come with them—I also write about murder even though I’ve never planned or committed one. I write about cannibalism even though the idea of eating other people grosses me out. I write about brothers fucking even though I don’t have siblings and if I did I wouldn’t be into incest.
I think you're just forgetting the fundamentals of fiction which is that IT’S NOT REAL and that authors often write about characters that are very different from themselves.
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sagelemonaide · 1 year
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so i darkened some flags and they kinda look like if you looked at a pride flag and turned the brightness down on your device so here you go
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flags from top to bottom: first four are aroace, pansexual, grey aromantic, demigirl, polysexual, agender, abrosexual, neptunic, lesbian, community, asexual, transmasc, genderfluid, aroflux, and genderqueer
feel free to use any of these
i will be makin more, but feel free to comment ones i didn't do on this post!
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aroacearchangel · 7 months
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at any point in time i become so overwhelmed with adoration for my friends that I wanna kiss them but if it’s read as romantic i will feel violently ill
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aro-mantic-fairy · 1 year
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Where do you fall on the aromantic spectrum??
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goofygooberton · 8 months
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I hate it when people say certain acts of love and affection are proof of romantic feelings. It makes me feel really lost and empty, like the only way I can get a strong relationship is via romance. When in reality I’d do so much for my friends and care so deeply, and I don’t want romance with them at all.
I know y’all don’t mean no harm by it, so, this is me gently asking you to take a moment and think about what your words imply about the value of friendship vs romance.
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 Aromantic | Demisexual | Greyromantic
Asexual | Demiromantic | Greysexual
Originally I wanted to do just the ace one to give to a friend but then I remembered @internet-ghost did a thingy where fae drew a bunch of different prideflag ghosts which was a pretty fun project apparently so this is a collab now. There might be more pride flag cake slices in the making i don’t know yet we’ll see.
If there’s any specific flags you’d like to see as cake slices let me know and I’ll pass it on
Because this is a sideblog I can’t respond to your comment directly but yes @castiel-holmeshasthephonebox you can totally use one of these as your icon if you want to
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aceoffangirls · 1 year
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attraction is confusing, i now propose that if we can not tell if something is alterous, romantic, platonic, or queerplatonic we call it what the fuck is this or wtfit instead
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