#gross gender

[angel-gender]

ʚ♡⃛ɞ GENDERGROSS ·.·♡·.

a gender related to grossness in any way! coined by me <3

[yuribalisms]

Physically restraining myself from posting a giant chunk of word vomit about gender

[dykepaldi]

no i take it for granted at this point but it genuinely is so nice that 13 was the way that she was. just the exact same non binary freak as before. i remember in 2017 even seeing queer people on here being like ‘aw omg she’s gonna do xyz traditionally feminine thing for the first time!!!1!’ no she’s not she’s going to eat soil. genuinely quite impressive that chibnall/the beeb got that right

[uncanny-tranny]

Don't get me wrong, I think it's perfectly acceptable that trans people don't always have certain surgeries and procedures, but I think something is to be said about the amount of trans people I have seen bash a certain gender-affirming procedure.

It's totally fine to not want some or any surgeries, but it's still transphobic to say "I think the results are ugly/look mutilated" or that trans surgery is "rudimentary" or "experimental" - even if you're also trans.

The idea that certain gender-affirming surgeries are mutilation or experimental is a classic form of transphobia, so it really does hurt seeing other trans people propelling those same talking points.

[whydoeseveryonewanttobangchan]

🎂 Keep going, baby… I’m sure you’re hungry… 🎂

✎ Pairing: Chan x gender neutral!reader

✎ Genre: Smut

✎ Summary: It’s not a special occasion, but Chan does have a special cake for you.

✎ CW: Established relationship, food play, (rough) blow job, general stickiness

✎ Word count: 1,036

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“Hey, babe, I’m home!” you call out from the entryway of your apartment.

You drop your purse and kick off your shoes and head to the kitchen for a snack. But once you round the corner, you see your boyfriend standing at the table behind a small cake. His lips are curled into a tiny grin, and it’s clear he’s up to something.

“Uhhh, cake?” you ask. “Happy……. birthaversary?”

You’re 99% sure you didn’t forget any big holiday, but the look on his face is making you nervous.

“Naur, you didn’t forget anything,” he answers, and then that sly smile returns. “Come here.”

You take slow steps toward him, taking in the scene in front of you. The table’s empty except for a lit candle and the cake. White and red frosted flowers frame the plain white top, which gives you no additional information about why it’s there. Chan’s leaning against the table with his hands on the edge of the wood, his body stiff.

You stop on the other side of the table and look him up and down one more time before giving in to intrigue.

“So, we can eat this cake, right? The special occasion isn’t that we have a cake and can’t eat it, right?” you ask, only half joking.

Chan erupts in a fit of giggles but cuts it short once he starts moving too much.

“Naur, we can definitely eat it,” he answers. “You should take the first bite, though.”

“Oh? Ok, then. Should I get a knife?”

“Naur, this is a mouth-only cake.”

Weird, but all right, you’re down. You know to expect these shenanigans now and then.

You lean over the table — maintaining eye contact to watch his expression — and pick up one of the iced roses with your tongue, tossing it back into your mouth. The black of his pupils overtakes almost every speck of deep brown in his irises.

“Keep going, baby,” Chan encourages. “I’m sure you’re hungry.”

Your jaw drops and you take a bigger bite this time. It’s vanilla, your favorite. He’s still looking down at you expectantly, so you keep going.

“Excited for you to get to the filling,” he murmurs. “You’re gonna love it.”

One eyebrow raises at that comment, but you’re already in too deep, so you just keep digging. Your nose and lips are coated in icing, and regardless of his plan, he better lick you clean once his little scene plays out.

But your next bite feels a little different, and it only takes a few seconds to figure out why. You meet his eyes again to confirm what you already know.

“Surprise…?” he says, his tone somewhere between mischievous and lustful.

You clear the rest of the layer, tossing the clumps of sponge and icing onto the table. A layer of cream is next, and now you can clearly see his cock twitching beneath it. Guess it’s time to try that filling he was talking about.

You flatten your tongue atop your bottom lip and run it across the cake, licking the icing off his shaft. His breath catches in his throat, and his head falls back. His hips make tiny circles, finally free to move after however long he spent trapped under sugar and cream. He deserves a little treat of his own.

You lift your chest off the table and lower to your knees. Your hands and face are coated in icing, but you try your best to look sexy as you duck down and crawl under the table toward Chan. After settling at his feet, you push on his hips to back him away from the table and out of the cake.

His long, thick cock looms above your head, the underside slick with cream and bits of cake. You take care of the densest layers first, starting at the back near his balls and clearing a path to his head. You swirl your tongue around the tip before taking most of him into the wet heat of your mouth.

He sucks in a sharp breath and gently places a hand on the back of your head. His other lifts some icing from your cheek and brings it to his lips for a taste.

“Mmm, so good. Just like that, baby,” he praises. “This feels amazing.”

His sticky fingers move pieces of hair from your face so he can watch the mess of sprinkles and cream and cake and pre-cum and saliva mix as you take him in and out of your mouth. Your own icing-coated hands push into his hips to encourage him to take the lead.

And he does, tightening his grip on your hair to steady you before plunging his cock in deeper and pounding the back of your throat. His breaths are uneven and shallow and you know he’s close.

“F-fuck, baby. Uh, oh, fuck,” he whines. “I’m almost…”

Tears well up and fall down your cheeks, adding salt to the sweet blend. You choking on his cock like this is one of his favorite things, and you try your best to stick it out for him. You want him to come. You need to make him feel good. It’s all you can even think of…

“FUCK!”

One last powerful thrust, and he’s filling your mouth with a mixture of his own. The sweet and bitter combination confuses your taste buds in the best way, and you eagerly swallow all he has to give.

“Holy shit, baby,” he breathes. “Get up here.”

He helps you to your feet and plants his lips on yours, finally adding his saliva to this fucked-up batter. He does his best to clean your face with his tongue, but at this point, a shower may be your only hope.

Chan closes your lips between his one more time and holds you close, resting his forehead on yours.

“Maybe this should be a new holiday, yeah?” he proposes. “Get one of these cakes same day next year?”

“I don’t know how you plan to get to my pussy through a cake, but I’m down to try if you are.”

He’s giggling again and brushing your sticky noses together.

“I’m sure I can figure it out.”

[sergle]

Just double checking, in case: u cis? would be a shame if u figured out later ur not and they gotta cut the tiddies AGAIN

I've Looked At My Gender from lots of angles and at the moment the idea of being anything except a woman is (retching noise), but life is long and whatever happens in my future, happens

[basementxdweller]

the only kind of sixpack strade should have is a sixpack of BEER. am i right girls or am i right

[aropride]

it sort of feels like people think they're ending misogyny/transmisogyny by ignoring transmasc problems or being a dick to trans men but that's just... not how it works. we can't fight transphobia without fighting transphobia against trans men and erasing or even being actively transphobic towards trans men is doing absolutely nothing for the fight against transmisogyny and is also actively harmful

[brutermonger]

WARNING ⚠️🩸⚠️

Very Ugly Puppies down there.. 💖😌

Love when the nose is uncannily "human" because animal snoots makes me want to Boop them.

Wolf Guy: Wolfen Crest.( Wolf Guy Ookami No Monshou) WHY can't we get a sequel to this manga? A gory seinen anime even.. ANYTHING! 😢 (amazing art by Yugo, Yuuki)

Had to post ugly dogman again. The design is just too Good 🤌

art by Itoh, Sei (Kouya Ni Kemono Doukokusu manga)

Am I the only one who actually Liked the American Werewolf in Paris designs.. ? Just Me.. ok

The Order 1886 designs by Tobias Kwan and I'll probably never own that $600 artbook 😅

Artist names are in the image description

[sharkgirldick]

Transphobes will find the thinnest logic possible to call a trans woman a pedophile and act like they said something with any actual weight.

[gentlemanbutch]

wishing every day that I knew what PCOS was as a young teen and that yes indeed it does fall under the intersex umbrella, cause it would have saved me years of silently wondering if I was intersex because I knew very deeply that I was not “typical,” and also wishing that the moment I was diagnosed with PCOS I wasn’t shamed for being “improperly female” and pushed toward feminizing hormone therapy and medication that my body literally couldn’t tolerate, especially because I was transmasc anyway.

[fishjoshi]

I don't think trans masc (or even other gender queer) people who discovered they we're trans through BL are talked about enough. Proud to have become the yaoi...

[mikesbasementbeets]

🌈 is 🌈 mike 🌈 a 🌈 good 🌈 kisser 🌈 ???

[cuntylittlesalmon]

I came across one of your posts criticising Delilah Green, and the radfem-esque rhetoric of Ashley Herring Blake's works. I agree, I completely despised her works. But every time one of my friends or I spoke about it, we were criticised on bookstagram and book twt. I was curious to know your thoughts on these books, if you are okay with it.

i am aaaaaaalways down to talk shit about bad books! i’ve felt completely isolated in the larger sapphic bookish spheres because i hated AHB’s work, i’m glad to have found another one of us 🫶

this’ll be under a cut because it’ll be incredibly long, as every instance of me criticizing these books has been

DGDC - delilah green doesn’t care

APDF - astrid parker doesn’t fail

AHB - ashley herring blake

SO!

these books suck. lmao. i don't think they're particularly interesting on the character-level, or the world-level, or the prose-level, or really anything at all. there are scenes here and there where i can see what AHB can do but she's too busy trying to seem like the funniest and the most progressive white cis woman out there--of course, without doing any of the actual work that comes with deconstructing the racist, transphobic, and homophobic ideology she grew up with as a person from the united states.

which leads me into my first complaint: everything to do with emery and their pronouns. every single thing in that scene felt like pandering, and the pronoun sharing aspect felt like word salad that needed to be edited down to a single sentence of "And then everyone else shared their pronouns". we're already deeply aware that every single person in this book sans emery is cis, i don't need that shoved into my face further with a cis woman expounding upon how she's terrified that she's going to fuck up somehow in sharing her own pronouns. unnecessary bullshit, since i'm guessing the point was to show that astrid is insecure, particularly around industry professionals, but with a slightly funny slant to it. this was not the place to show that, especially when there are so many other instances both before and after this part that show her anxieties better.

and frankly, in sharing this part with a friend, they thought it was astrid being insecure about getting emery's pronouns correct which....if your cute lil romcom protag can be see as an annoying and borderline transphobic cissie when they come face to face with a nonbinary person for the first time because your prose just sucks ass......maybe you shouldn't include that lol

and i think that leans in a lot to the "humor" of these books. at one point in ADPF, delilah makes a joke about fighting someone "like a lesbian", which in her eyes (and somewhat therefore AHB's eyes) means gazing disapprovingly at someone and making her mouth "look like a butthole" (paraphrasing, but not the butthole part. she really says butthole). i'm assuming this was supposed to be funny, but it fell so fucking flat with me. like, these books are supposed to be romcoms. romantic fucking comedies. but most of the humor is so deeply steeped in white millennialisms that it's actually unfunny unless you're like my gen x mother who spends 90% of her time on facebook.

which, i suppose that's my biggest gripe with the books, and with AHB herself. it's a lot of self-serving nonsense, with little to no introspection about why certain things are included versus not. i mean, i can say that about a lot of popular romance novels, but thats beside the point. there is no reckoning with institutions, despite all of the call backs to how rich people suck, or how white people suck, or how men suck. it's all so very wink-wink-nudge-nudge, "im in the know, can't you tell?", correct terminology wrong ideology kinda of stuff. ok yeah, white people as the institution suck. i think we all know that. but also, ashley, every single important character, every single side character (save a couple), and every single background character (save a couple), are all white. you are actively participating in the "white is default" ideology that you seemingly dislike and make fun of in your book. so which is it?

this disconnect between AHB's story choices (all white main cast, etc) and the prose-level choices is so fucking obvious throughout the entire body of both books:

the lesbian main characters cannot call themselves lesbians, but one will call themself dyke without a second thought.

the trans-positive lesbian main characters will talk about dating/being attracted to nonbinary people, but do not have any nonbinary friends, do not talk to any nonbinary people, and the one nonbinary character included thus far speaks one (maybe twice) just to give their pronouns.

the lesbian main characters call themselves butch (or are called so by other wlw (but not lesbian) characters) and yet are still conventionally feminine in their presentations.

men are the worst people in the world, and yet josh (an ex of claire from DGDC) is consistently trying to atone for his past harm, and within the story we're given, is like, an actually alright guy.

men are the worst people in the world, and yet the worst actions taken against iris was not by her ex-boyfriend, but by her butch girlfriend (which. i have a lot of thoughts on this).

the books say they believe one thing, but are never backed up with actually evidence that this is the case.

and so, when i say the books have some radfem-y bullshit in them, this is largely what im talking about. i have no clue if AHB herself is a radfem, or exactly what she believes in. im not combing through her twitter account because she as a person annoys me, and anyone promoting her work annoys me. but she is participating in some fucked up shit, and the fact that they are so beloved just makes my ass itch and i feel like i need to speak on it more than i already do now 💀

anyway. the radfem-y stuff.

the books use some pretty covert gender essentialism when it comes to the lesbian characters vs the bisexual woman characters. every single lesbian is said to be masculine (specifically butch) while every single bisexual woman (and every single ostensibly straight woman) is, while not called out as feminine, exclusively present femininely. which....is weird. i don't think i have to say why saving masculinity for lesbians (and men) is stereotypical, and kind of gross, especially coming from someone who isn't a lesbian.

but wait! its worse! masculinity (regardless of how prescriptive vs. descriptive it is) in these books are very much associated with emotionally unavailability and callousness toward the feminine (emotional) counterpart. and really, its even worse when you compare difference within the lesbian characters (delilah, jordan, and iris' girlfriend).

delilah and jordan, when you actually examine them, are feminine presenting. they both wear red lipstick, eyeliner "sharp enough to kill a man", and in delilah's case, heels. the most masculine aspects about them is that they don't wear skirts or dresses. literally. whereas, iris's girlfriend in APDF, who only wears suits, has short cropped hair, never wears makeup, and has a stereotypically masculine job. jordan and delilah are love interests. they're allowed to grow into emotionally available people by their love for their feminine partners. the butch girlfriend, however, is a cheating piece of shit who's entire point is to set up iris' storyline for the third book in the series (a role that could've been done just as well by her ex boyfriend, who she dated in DGDC, instead of what feels like a very pointed and spiteful subplot).

so, it becomes very clear to me that masculinity is the worst thing you can have in these books. none of the men are given grace either, and i touched on it a bit earlier talking about josh. he was flaky as hell with claire and their daughter before the events of DGDC, and so claire (and by extension, her friends iris and astrid) are wary of him when he comes back into her and her daughter's lives. but, for all of that, josh isn't flaky in the book. like he very much steps up to be a good dad to his daughter. is the best? no, obviously. i dont think AHB is capable of writing a "good" character. but he literally doesn't abandon anyone, despite us being constantly told that thats what he does, to the point that when he ends up being unreachable for a couple of days, every single character freaks out and treats him like a monster. iris fucking punches him for this, even though he actually had a good reason. and im not one to defend men like 💀 i am very much a manhater, but like. cmon. it feels entirely unearned. and its that disconnect again. AHB wants you to believe that josh deserves this because he's a man, so of course he's going to be terrible, its what men do, despite him, like, not being terrible.

(and its even worse in APDF, where astrid is literally disgusted to be in his presence point blank, period, even though hes been like. consistently a decent guy.)

and my last piece in this, is natasha rojas. the otherworldly sexy and gorgeous latina host of the reality show in APDF, who literally wears a clitoris necklace. like not only is it leaning on racist stereotyping, but she's the ultimate feminine who wears a literal piece of the vagina. yonic imagery is cool and everything (genuinely, there should be more!) but this is not only extremely heavy handed in a brick-to-the-face kind of way, but also as the Ultimate Feminine, she's this deeply warm and caring and nurturing person, who is never posited as a antagonist or anything despite her positioning as a literal corporate player for HGTV (the hallmark of home renovation. every fucking person on that network is some flavor of conservative). she very much could've been a stand in for the capitalist homogenization of the housing market that HGTV absolutely caters toward, especially when you take into consideration astrid original plan for the house that she's renovating (taking it from very classically victorian to white and grey contemporary), but instead she's positioned as a mouthpiece for the glory of the clit and female sexuality only. which is fucking frustrating. and so fucking weird.

but yeah. AHB has a very white millennial liberal queer view of gender and presentation and sexuality, which in and of itself is very essentialist. but she tries to play out of her biases as a white and cis woman by making in-narrative jokes about it, but they fall completely flat because she has no idea what she's doing, and thus perpetuates the exact same shit she's trying to make fun of. she's got a lot of unchecked bigotry rattling around in that empty brain of hers, which when you're trying to write a feminist book, leans itself to radfem & white feminist ideology (which. lbr. are the fucking same but whatever).

ik this was long as hell but ty everyone who made it to the end for reading 😤🙏💓

[queenofmistresses]

BEN GROSS GETTING TURNED ON BY THE FACT YOUR ON TOP OF HIM WHILE MAKING OUT

gender neutral reader 🤗

A/N honestly love your mind, also this is incredibly short lol!

I’m not entirely sure how we got here. One minute we’re watching a movie together and the next, my lips are pressed on his and I’m not even sure what movie we’re watching.

Without really deciding to, I straddle his lap and take control of the situation. His hands are on my waist and I’m clutching his shirt tightly.

Then, I feel something beneath me, and I grin into the kiss. Apparently he’s enjoying this more than I thought. I take advantage of it and start grinding down on him, which just makes him moan into my mouth.

Fuck this is good