#have I helped ur research :^)

[lacunazai]

the disorder faking in this generation is genuinely wild. like.

[espurr-roba]

kairi as an ephemer descendant. is this anything.

[faaun]

and also just adding onto that, the recent wave of like armchair diagnosing ppl as npd is sooo annoying. Like its actually a serious condition, you CANNOT diagnose someone as npd with just one story or interaction. Sometimes ppl are not "narcissistic", they're just assholes? It feels like every second story i hear, there's ppl going "thats a narcissistic trait yk :/" and its like just bc its a narcissistic trait doesnt mean they have npd??

yes defintely !! it's so so harmful and i have not seen any other disorder (except maybe aspd?) get as much demonisation and hate as npd has and it is genuinely so heartbreaking bc it is a serious dissociative disorder that does Not inherently make anyone a bad person and yet !! like the term "narcissistic abuse" and also ppl just generally equating [mostly covert] abuse w narcissism is so immensely Harmful .

anyway i think we should bring back calling people mean, assholes, rude, gaslighters, abusers, etc instead of being like "my mother was a narc abuser so all ppl w npd are abusers and will never change!" etc etc bc it does 3 horrible things:

1) implies all people with npd are abusers

2) implies people with npd are not capable of self-improvement just like any other human being

3) offloads the horrible actions of abusers onto a disorder, thereby taking away the responsibility they had/choices they made in the situation and instead blames the (completely inaccurate + harmful!!) perceived invariability/ubiquitous evil of npd symptoms/traits .

"how to spot a narcissist" babe are we birdwatching now for ppl with a dissociative disorder or...???

[circuses-and-childhoodtrauma]

FRANTICALLY SCRAMBLING FOR MY OLD DREX AGE TIMELINE NOTES SO THAT I CAN SOMEHOW FIT IN THIS NEW INFO

DANGER FORCE FANDOM YOU WILL BE HEARING FROM ME SHORTLY BUT IM GOING CRAZY OVER HERE IN MY DREX CORNER *WHAT DO YOU MEAN MY GUY FATHERED A CHILD* ALSO THE LORE IMPLICATIONS AJD CHARACTER STRAIN THIS MUST CAUSE BETWEEN RAY AND DREX?.!

As usual the show will handle it in a funny way and then immediately after I will be here to post the dramatic angsty retelling for you guys bc that’s what I do. Figuring out this timeline is already making my head hurt but I’ll try to post it before the episode comes out

THIS IS WHAT BRINGS BACK MY DANGER FORCE OBSESSION??

[queenerdloser]

i'm not trying to be mean but if you're not american and you have no idea how the american voting system works, maybe just shut the fuck up about the 2024 election. thanks.

[the-one-who-lambs]

I just realized that this past month has given me so many people I need to credit in my thesis

[mqfx]

just sooooo funny how mq has to face down the enormity of his desires and EYE have to face the reality of writing that shit down as if I'm not as repressed as he is. we are in this shit together. talk about method writing!

[dapurinthos]

was searching for one of those pull-apart 3d model brains that they use in teaching sometime because i need it for a scene, so i'm trying to figure out the line between force-assisted healing and outright alchemy because one of the clone wars multimedia project novels (the approaching storm, aka THE most boring sw novel to me. i still haven't managed to complete it) has barriss outright healing two people of traumatic brain injuries severe enough that they started displaying different personalities & intelligence levels (like if someone reversed phineas gage's railway spike thought the head personality change).

it has me going ???? did she just grow them new neurons? it was literally a traumatic brain injury caused by a throw from a pack animal that also broke the character's back and took an eye, which barriss says she can't 'fix' because they've already healed that way.

anyway, found a model skull that looks like those puzzle balls from the 50¢ (is it a twoonie machine now?) machines that you had to cradle carefully in your fingers to put it back together. it's amazing. doesn't help with my 'alchemy is what????' problem. i suspect the bit i'm talking about isn't considered so because the book just has a 'rewiring your neurons' thing and I'm just ???? that's not how brain work ????

[twinknote]

vanicream… vanicream save me

[autistic-katara]

when i’m in an explaining something u don’t understand to someone who’s directly experienced it contest and my opponent is the mother of a trans guy

[opens-up-4-nobody]

Hi, do you have any general tips for getting into grad school lol?

I'm trying to get into a clinical psych phD program which I know is very different from what you're doing but hey, I'll take any advice youd like to share ! Also love your art :-)!

I'll just explain how i got to this point and hope theres something worth taking from that.

For me, I did my Masters 1st bc I hadn't done in the lab work until my last year of undergrad and I wasn't sure how I would handle working on a big project and I had a general idea of what I wanted to study but it was still kinda blurry. So, I thought ok 2 years on a project that seems ok, then 4+ on something I really wanna do based on what i learned from my masters. I found my Masters advisor through a string of talking to different people about my interests, reading her papers, and asking if she happened to be looking for students. I sort of stumbled into a good situation on a bit of luck

For my PhD I had a very narrow focus for what I was looking for in terms of research, so there were only like 5 ppl doing exactly what I wanted in english speaking countries. I found them all through reading a bunch of papers, stalking their lab websites and then emailing them like: Hey! I found u through reading X paper, ur research is so cool! Here is how it fits with my interests and here is what I've done that qualifies me to work with you (in as few words as I could manage). Are you accepting students into your lab? And then if they reply that they are: would u be willing to talk with me?

During meetings the questions I always ask (aside from questions abt their research) are: what's your lab space like? How hands on are you as an adviser? What do you like about what you do/what compelled you to take on X research? And then it's also good to ask about their other students (what research they're doing and if you could email them to ask if they like this adviser as a boss/whats it like at the school).

Honestly, I feel like the best advice I could give is treat an interview like it goes both ways. You don't want a boss that sucks so grill them a bit to try to figure out what they're like as a person. And it helps to let a little passion shine thru ✨️

Hope that helps? And good luck!!!

[faaun]

hi! this is unrelated to the situationship but i’ve been going through a crisis about whether i’m bi or a lesbian for like six months now lmao and iirc i think you went through something similar once, so i was just wondering if you had any tips or advice about how you figured it out? tysm!

hiii i did ! i went thru this crisis like 3 times b4 i figured out i was bi, it can genuinely rly be difficult to figure it out it :)

i'd say keep in mind that it's not important to have a label rn - just keep urself open to exploring new feelings ! but also if u want to figure it out faster, spending more time w both men and women - esp those u think you might find more attractive - might help ! for me it was having guy friends, going to clubs, dating, etc, but it can truly be anything :) since starting a hinge profile i've been seeing quite a few men that i found super pretty which confirmed things even further for me (if you go down this route remember that dating app algorithms take a while to adjust)

also remember that ur standards for men may be different, and you may have an intense preference for women which wouldn't make you any less bi ! similarly, if you genuinely cannot imagine a future or conceive of any romantic/sexual attraction between u and a man, then you may be a lesbian ! the point is that u can date ppl and find out !! ♡ also labels can change as u learn abt urself over time so it's all good if you can't land on one definitive label rn forever, it takes time and life reveals new things to us all the time 🩷

while i like knowing that men are like...within my dating pool now, since realising i'm bi basically nothing has changed for me bc i still find women so so much more attractive, so it's good to remember there truly is no rush ! take ur time experiment have fun x

[spitblaze]

ever start writing something and then drop it because you don't know how to write it, and also don't really know where you're going with it?

Anyway here's like four or five paragraphs of Neku and Beat hanging out and talking about writing rap lyrics

The sun beat down on the bustling city, a city full of art, full of culture, full of people. The unexpected heat wave sent a ripple through the crowds, redirecting destinations, changing plans, as people crowded towards shade, towards the inside of buildings, cafes and restaurants that offered cold drinks, shops that offered air conditioning, awnings and underpasses that offered shade. And as the living inhabitants of the Shibuya ward sought refuge from the sun, the less-than-alive followed suit in their own realm, the ‘Underground’ plane of existence that- while Neku wasn’t completely sure how or why- experienced the same weather as its ‘Realground’ counterpart, heat waves included.

At any rate, physics, metaphysics, thermodynamics, or meta-thermodynamics be damned, the two partners found themselves avoiding the sun by squatting in the shady alleyway of A-East. Being undead (or just regular dead? He wasn’t very sure) thankfully meant no need for hydration, but that didn’t necessarily translate to ‘no want’. Neku took another sip of the soda in his hands, still somewhat shocked that he never thought to try the vending machines while in the UG. He had assumed that the only places he could purchase things were storefronts with Reaper decals, but it wasn’t like a vending machine cares if it can see you or not. As long as it gets the money, it’ll give you what you want. 

It was Beat’s idea, really- he saw a vending machine, stuck a few hundred yen in, and got a sports drink. He hadn’t even considered the fact that he was dead, he just walked right up and did it. That was the thing about Beat- he was impulsive, and rarely thought before he did anything, assuming he had the mental capacity to do so. Neku could try and talk some sense into him, but it was hard to argue with the kind of results Beat got by just...doing what he does. Well. Most of the time, anyway.

“Shibuya...blew ya...nah, no…” Beat muttered under his breath, tapping intently on his phone. Neku raised an eyebrow in his direction, completely unnoticed. “Shot through ya...yeah, okay, hm…”

“Beat?” Neku finally asked.

“Whuh-huh?” Beat snapped to attention, almost startled.

Neku rolled his eyes. “You’ve been talking to yourself all afternoon. After Joshua, the last thing I need is for my partner to go insane on me.”

“Nah, yo, you got it all wrong.” Beat moved his legs from a squat to a crisscross on the ground, turning to face Neku rather than the street. “I’m thinkin’ up some rhymes.”

“What?”

“Aw, c’mon, Phones,” Beat sighed. “Rhymes, lyrics, somethin’ I can put to a rhythm. How you gonna wear those things on ya head all day and still not know what I’m talkin’ bout?”

Neku glared in response.

“Well, anyway,” he continued, completely undeterred, “I got struck with a bit of inspiration a while back, and I got some music stuff stewin’ now.”

Awfully big word for Beat, Neku thought. “What kind of stuff?”

“Aw, it ain’t much.” Beat looked up and scratched his head through his beanie. “When I get real stressed I like to put it into somethin’ more creative. Punchin’s cool, but sometimes you gotta use ya brain, right?”

[violentdevotion]

I had multiple dreams last night.

I had a bf </3

someone in my family got bit by a zombie </3

some guy made me explain narrative structure to him </3

[s-h-commatothetop-dynasty]

my family’s wrong, i do get bitches

i just don’t know who they are 💀

[muppetsnoopy]

had my wrap-up meeting for my internship toady and they were soo niceys to me 🥹🥹