#heteronormativity

[animentality]

[cherrytea556]

Heteronormativity and Amatonormativity go hand in hand. You give the opposite sex one compliment then somehow people think you have a crush on them. Talk about complimentless ig.

[one-time-i-dreamt]

Timothée Chalamet offered me crystal meth and when I said no, he told me I had a very heteronormative way of thinking about meth.

[stonebutchooze]

I need to see other butches. I need to see other butches unapologetically masculine and shirtless and relaxed in nature. I need to see other butches on TV and in my books and in my shop and bar. I need butches whose masculinity is not apologised for by feminine or otherwise mainstreamly redeeming qualifiers, like whiteness, thinness, able bodied-ness, attractiveness, feminine faces, earrings, women's jeans and shoes. These things are all okay, but I need to see a butch character who's not been shaped to be acceptable for all audiences with reservations about queerness. I need a butch who's fat, hairy, deep voiced, who's older, who wear shirts and ripped jeans and boots instead of dapper suits. Butches who are on T, or have PCOS, butches who also identify as ftm, or as a woman no matter how they're seen. I need trans fem butches who are fucking ACCEPTED for however they show up in their bodies and clothes.

We need butches not sterilised and redeemed by cis/het normative bounds of expression.

[textk4kira]

I've noticed a trend behind the use of the label "transsexual" vs. "transgender".

Oftentimes transmedicalists use transsexual to differentiate themselves from the rest of the trans community.

It's disheartening and quick frankly, appaling.

You will not achieve acceptance in a cisheteronormative society by distancing yourselves from the "bad" or "confusing" trans folks.

Transsexual is a wonderful label, and we cannot allow transmedicalists to take ownership of it.

[bloggingboutburgers]

I have much to learn... Or I only have the one thing ig

[jennelikejennay]

Today I saw a comment saying that slash "erases friendship." Which, yeah, we've all heard it, it's stupid because you can still watch the original show that doesn't have the slash in it and interpret it as friendship if you want. (Though it may be difficult with TOS.)

But what about the ways that heteronormativity erases friendship?!

Are we going to forget that Spock and Uhura had a long-standing platonic friendship that the new movies tried to erase by making them kiss?

What about how in SNW Spock was building up a beautiful friendship with Chapel where they relied on each other for advice, until the writers decided to ruin it by having some aliens decide friendship wasn't a good enough relationship for them to care about?

Is Lower Decks going to ruin Rutherford and Tendi's beautiful platonic partnership by making them date? I don't think so but I do worry about it a little!

Remember how Picard and Crusher had a beautiful platonic relationship for seven years and that got ruined in ST: Picard?

How many genuine, close m/f friendships do you see in all of television and cinema where they don't get together at any point?

Look, to be clear, I don't think it ruins a friendship if the people end up pursuing a romance later, and you can definitely still be bffs after you get married.

But in terms of friendships that are fully platonic and given lots of screen time and development...we get those all the time with m/m, once in a while with f/f, and almost never with m/f.

It's not the gay shippers who are taking friendship away from you, look somewhere else!

[super-ace]

Once you start going against everything society ever said you should feel, it really is game over. Sexuality? A social construct. Virginity? A social construct. Romantic relationships? A social construct. Gender? A social contrast. 9 to 5 working day? A social construct. How a body should look? A social construct.

[aroacecatto]

the idea that the only purpose of life is to romance, reproduce then perish is so sad

[manichewitz]

nothing i hate more than ppl being like “men, its okay to be feminine, because women like feminine guys! its not gay to be feminine, its actually super duper attractive to women!!” like…believe it or not. but its actually okay for men to be feminine even if it is gay. its actually pretty important to understand that its okay for men to be both feminine and gay. and its also okay for men to be feminine irregardless of how attractive they are to other people. this should not be such a difficult concept for people to grasp

[shiftythrifting]

There are 1 million interpretations here…

[peachesfuzz]

No one is into heteronormativity more than the marauders fandom, I actually think they will die if one of the MLM couple isnt a short twink while the other is this 6ft masc guy who never smiles

show them two masc men together they will have a meltdown

??but who is girl bottom and boy top??

[thriftdyke]

I feel like a lot of times ppl talk about gaining their parents’ acceptance of their lgbt identities by being like “but I’ll still have a normal life! I’ll still fall in love and get married, and yes you can still have grandchildren!” at least I’ve seen that a lot in like. Media. But I feel like we need to normalize being queer in a way that is Not equivalent to a “normal life, just with genders switched”. I would argue that queerness as a way of life is an inherent rejection of the norm. Same goes with “love is love” and “it doesn’t matter who you love or fuck” kind of statements, like sure that’s Nice, but for me queerness is not about Who I love or fuck. It’s about who I am and my outlook on life. It’s a way of revolutionizing how I define my relationships and what “family” means. I am probably never going to “settle down” or get married, I may never even have a traditional committed romantic partner or anything like an “average” sex life, I sure as hell do not want to live in a single family home with a sole partner and kids and be isolated from all sense of friends and community, and even if I woke up straight tomorrow, I am never ever touching a razor or wearing makeup to work again. You don’t necessarily have to be “queer” to have this perspective, and I’m definitely not saying that all queer people do or should live this way, but I would argue that it is a perspective that emerges from queerness and is deeply intertwined with queer history and culture. If I wasn’t a lesbian I would be a completely different person, and that’s not just because I would be loving or fucking men. It’s because I wouldn’t have had to completely deconstruct my relationship to womanhood and femininity and romance and monogomy and all of these things that are deeply ingrained in the structure of society. and I Want straight and cis people to have access to the freedom that comes from that deconstructing, but I think we do ourselves and them a great disservice by trying to make queerness palatable or “the same as” straight/cis-normative life

[queerism1969]

[mythicalartistx]

I know now without a doubt Kingdom Hearts is L—

No actually I think Kingdom Hearts is honestly purposely censored.

I used to be like well I don't think it's inherently the translators faults, Japanese is a tough language for people to know what it's referring to and likes to Americanized certain things like adding heteronormativity and romanizing things. People like romanticizing thingz so I can't exactly blame them it's part of westerners.

Like when you think of relationships most think of straight relationships so that probably what they thought of it's probably about even though the relationship doesn't really develop that much.

A lot of Action movies have the same problem when there is a male main character, there is always a forced romance with some side girl character when it's not a developed or good relationship it's just there to mark of the love interest category.

But now realizing how much Kingdom Hearts censors things, maybe they had an idea.

Some lines are WAY off from the original made to romanticized so much when the original wasn't even anything remotely like that or about a character in that way. And some scenes take out movements and edit it.

They change the entire meaning to censor things for American Audiences.

Nobody knows why.

And all I can think of is to make it have things that American Audiences would rather enjoy having romance in places unnecessarily or censoring things to be "safe"

I made a post about the Dream Drop Distance scene which gotten a crazy amount of attention only on the first few days it's at 300+notes, but the post was essentially about how when Sora was sleeping he tells Donald and Goofy it's his job to keep him on his toes and he puts his arm down in a fist. Then Riku moved his arm slightly to the left and put it in a fist again?

But the scene actually had Riku telling Donald and Goofy how he slapped Sora awake whenever he fell asleep on the beach and it shows Riku moving his hand in a slapping motion, not whatever that awkward motion was.

The thing is DDD was one of the side games and I thought they didn't pay much attention to the censoring in those. And given how gay DDD is and it wasn't as censoring their dynamic.

However, it got censored and it's like why? Did they think Audiences couldn't handle it?

Like it just seems like a silly thing he would do. It's kinda like how some people would pour water on someone to wake them up.

Like a teasing thing which he does A LOT and it probably wasn't that hard.

And other times I heard about how the language had some swearing or words that could be translated that way but of course since it's Disney the western version had to censor that.

The novels and manga actually still have more language in it.

And I think the main problem is Disney. They censor things a lot now.

They used to be more open to this kind of thing, but now they are soft and never take risks. I also heard how their team would edit things that would be in their original movie to tone it down for KH players.

It's kinda sad because there is definitely a lot of meaning to KH that is lost in translation. The battle with Vanitas is one in particular I had realized it's meaning is a bit more than the western version. The western version also simplifies things and tries to condense aspects as well. Xehanort's reason for everything is also worded very differently in the western version.

One of the reasons I look at fan translations is because it gives more meaning to certain events, not only because of dynamics and possible ships that are lost, but also explanations that are no longer there.

I'm so grateful for everyone who tries to retranslate things accurately and sometimes I use a site for certain things I'm curious but by no means do I speak their language and I get translation is hard, I really hope their future installments don't do this especially with KH4 and ML coming up in the next several years.

[heterorealism]