#household: taylor

[meliesims]

The house got new paint and a bigger garden.

[honeyspotpie]

Hey thinking about how in both timelines all Nick ever wanted was to make his father proud. Adapting and modeling his personality after his father, be it Glenn or Jodie. Because the only thing he ever wanted was his father's love. Thinking about how we can assume that Glenn did the same thing to appease Bill. Thinking about the fact that Taylor also wanted his father's love but never changed or remodeled his own personality and interests to receive said love. Thinking about the fact that he realized that his own sense of self is far more important than receiving artificial feelings of pride from a man who didn't even bother to get to know him. He finally broke the cycle. Yeah

[wavesoutbeingtossed]

The whole discourse about the privacy/secrecy/support thing has been sitting with me for a few days (I mean other than it always does to a certain degree) thanks to all the excellent discussion happening and I know I'm not saying anything that hasn't been said a million times before, but I think what we're seeing and what we're going to learn (e.g. from TTPD) is that it wasn't just the support issue, but how it was shown/handled.

We've all gone out of our way to show that introversion =/= lack of support. Someone can be shy, reserved, etc. and still show up for their partner, whether in public or at home. To chalk any of the differences up to the clash between introversion and extroversion is unfair to folks who count themselves among either tbh.

@thisisctrying said something the other day that hit the nail on the head about how if that support had been offered in private, there very well may not have been a Joever to begin with, or at least not at this point in time. (Sorry for loosely paraphrasing, and for namedropping you! Long time listener, first time poster.)

If this were a case where the "shy" partner said, "I am really uncomfortable with the spotlight personally and do not want to court it, but I will support you in your ambitions and offer you whatever you need to make them happen and make the glare bearable," I suspect that would have gone a long way to making Taylor feel seen and comfortable in pursuing her goals in the way that she now has. Again, that might have been more akin to the balance that seemed to have been struck around 2019 from what we can see, but even speaking in a general sense, there are lots of couples out there, celebrity or not, that have similar approaches where there are highly driven people and busy careers involved.

(A famous example being Dolly Parton's marriage. Tbh I know next to nothing about her and Carl, but she's always heralded as an example in this regard, because her husband is famously uncomfortable with the spotlight and hasn't accompanied her to public events in decades, but she's said that she never minded that because that was always work to her, and what was important was that he supported her in pursuing all her career goals and basically ensured she had a place to call home to return to at the end of the day.)

We're kind of in a brave new world with her current relationship because it felt like, at least at the start, we were maybe watching her figure out her boundaries in real time as to what she was comfortable with or not and adjust accordingly. Like so many have said, I fully believe the extreme privacy thing was initially driven by herself and her experiences in 2016, and she needed that quiet time to recover from all of the things and figure out how to exist in the world again.

Stating the obvious, it seemed like eventually privacy was equated with secrecy, turning the relationship and the celebrity into the elephant in the room and something to never be spoken of to the outside world. People are free to choose whatever works best for themselves and their relationships, and for some the separate public lives might work, but the “kept me like a secret but I kept you like an oath” theme is all over her work and it’s clear that it’s a sore spot for her, because she’s been made to feel shame just for the life she leads so many times in the past.

What I’m trying to say is that it’s pretty obvious something Not Great was happening behind the scenes, which didn’t just amount to “she wanted to be a public celebrity and he wanted to be a private hermit.” (Also, in case anyone forgot, this is a person who also chose a public-facing career who also has to engage in press for it, but I digress.) As her career reached new heights post-folklore, if she had the support at home to do all the things without judgment and with encouragement, and in turn offer the same support to her partner, she may have very well lived just fine with that, not unlike Dolly Parton’s case.

By reading between the lines in all the press since, as well as comments on tour and general ~vibes~ with TTPD teasers, it seems like one of the issues was that that was likely not the case. There was all the stuff that we saw — the reticence to acknowledge each other in the media (particularly on one side), the lack of public support even at events at which they were both in attendance for their respective jobs, the great lengths they went to not to be photographed together at events they attended yet no problem taking pictures with other friends and coworkers, the jobs that separated them, the withdrawing from the public even for work accomplishments, etc. Which could all be manageable if a couple chooses to do so together and are not inherently a sign of trouble in themselves.

But what we’re seeing now I think is a reflection of the things we weren’t seeing then, and it seems to indicate some very deep hurt. (I know, call me Captain Obvious.) And like so many have been saying, it feels likely that that part of that hurt is rooted in that very lack of private support where a person would expect it from their partner. Obviously as a Taylor fan blog I’m going to be more inclined to understand her side of a story, but tbh, it’s also because… this is sooooooo common, and something I’ve experienced in my friend group. (@taylortruther is right when she says most breakups are the same one way or another lol.)

One partner is resentful of the other’s success, or resentful that the other’s priorities begin to evolve as new experiences unlock new goals, or feels the other’s ambitions are not worthy of pursuit, and coupled with perhaps their own struggles in the same domain, it’s easy to see where that can chip away at the other partner’s morale and faith in the relationship. I know I’m just speculating here, but I also don’t think it’s totally unfounded. (Again, because a) I’m picking up what she’s putting down and b) it happens to sooooooo many women even among us dull normals.)

With all the pointed mentions about how much Taylor feels supported in her current relationship and how she in turn loves to offer the same show of support to not only her partner but other loved ones, how she’s stepped out more in the last year to a whole host of events, how she’s mentioned feeling like she locked herself away for years and she’s just proud of her partner and happy she can show up for him even if the chaos around it is unsettling, it paints a picture of what perhaps was happening before last year.

To feel like you’re all alone in carrying the weight of the relationship (or burden of it), of twisting yourself into knots to accommodate the other person’s boundaries (or insecurities) but not feeling reciprocity for your own has to be so painful. (The idea that it may have been even darker and to have a partner not only be unreceptive to your own needs but even perhaps resentful/dismissive/belittling of them is even more painful to think of. I guess we’ll find out when TTPD comes out if that was the case, too.)

At a certain point, that lack of acknowledgement will force your hand to be able to reclaim yourself. And it feels like the further removed Taylor in particular is from it, the more she moves from being sad about the life she felt she gave up by leaving, to angry at the life she felt she was giving up by staying. Especially being in a relationship now where it seems like everything comes much easier, where she can be open about the person she’s with and show up for them, all the stuff that seemed as challenging as climbing Mount Everest in her past is nothing more than a molehill at best in her current life.

TL;DR: I don’t think it’s privacy that inherently spells doom for a celebrity relationship like this; it’s the mutual support and respect that does. If Taylor had felt that in the later years of her previous relationship, I think we could be seeing a different, though not necessarily unfulfilled, person right now in 2024, who’d be happy on tour but whose personal life would look a little different. But it seems like by losing that support she lost parts of herself, and we’ve seen her reclaim that in spades in the last year, and perhaps to degrees she didn’t even realize she could from before all the Bad Stuff started happening in her young adulthood.

I know this was extremely long-winded and unnecessary, especially about total strangers we only know through scraps fed through the media, but I just always bristle at this idea that issues like these boil down to “personality differences,” as though one person wants to live in a city and the other on a remote island, or some shit like that. The whole support (and gender tbh) issue is one that’s just very close to my heart because again, I have seen it play out with so many of my friends in long term relationships and marriages and I just think people in relationships (and women in particular in some circles) deserve better than to feel like they’re being, well, tolerated.

[lakesbian]

piecing together some Things about taylor's bad night in chapter 6.9: - after danny locks taylor in a room and attempts to force her to be emotionally vulnerable in a maneuver that taylor explicitly compares to emma bullying her, he attempts to recover from his Tremendous Fuck Up by calling her "little owl," which was a pet name only her mother used for her. she flinches in response to this, because obviously her sole remaining parent treating her in a way she verbally refers to as "bullying power-abuse shit" and then attempting to gain back favor during the interaction by using a pet name that had always come only from her now-deceased parent is a horrible experience - as tumblr user ewingstan pointed out in response to this detail, taylor also recently experienced emma invoking her grief about her mother to hurt her - literally while walking home immediately before this scene she was thinking about her mother and desperately wishing she could receive her mother's advice

conclusion: Taylor Hebert's Tormentous Household. taylor hebert's tormentous frequent reminders of her grief. taylor hebert's tormentous experience having memories and people and places that should be safe continuously weaponized against her, intentionally or not.

[baesimss]

meet miracle andrews & her fiance yosef taylor.

yosef, a charming southern gentleman, has always desired a life outside of chestnut ridge and managing the family ranch. which is why he went to law school and leaped at the opportunity when the firm asked him to go to san sequoia for a 6 month temporary assignment. he was only looking for someone to keep him busy in the city when he signed up on the simda dating app... he had no clue that he'd end up meeting his soulmate and proposing to her within 5 months. though she was born & raised in san sequoia, miracle, a budding news anchor, has always felt like she was meant to be a southern belle. despite having never spent time around any animals, aside from her cat aurora, nor has she spent time on any farm. still, the thought of a peaceful southern life (with hot weather, iced tea, and politely veiled shade thrown towards the neighbors) has always sounded like a dream to her. so, it's no wonder that she was smitten the minute she stumbled upon yosef on simda--her real life cowboy prince charming! following their engagement, miracle immediately planned a "disco cowgirl", or as she likes to call it "champagne cowgirl", themed bachelorette weekend. she assumed the weekend was the closest she'd ever get to being an actual cowgirl.

but, just as yosef and miracle are planning for their future together, and even visiting open houses in san sequoia, yosef gets a devastating call that his mother's health is declining. he needs to return to chestnut ridge to be there for his family. & miracle is coming along! determined to be there for her fiance in his time of need, and excited for the opportunity to meet his family and experience the southern belle lifestyle. but is this champagne-taste city girl truly ready for life at the ranch?

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[indeliblescarspivotalmarks]

fuck milk and cookies. i’m leaving out a large glass of white wine and a plate of chai sugar cookies cause i’d much rather have Taylor Swift break into my home than Santa Claus

[intercomkris]

forming family ( ??? )

anaya ; anaya is an intern at futuresim labs located in strangetown. working there for over 3 years now, anaya is slowly beginning to grow unpleasant with the secrets futuresim labs is holding off from the public. anaya hiding secrets from the townsfolk in the bay, what could futuresim be hiding? but most all being pregnant is what has her on edge the most. . . what could this mean for her unborn child?

taylor ; taylor is a rookie programmer, working at futuresim labs. though just starting 3 months ago, taylor is unaware of the secrets that the lab is hiding and most of all his fiancé. strangetown native, he's more than happy to be closer to his hometown. when will taylor discover the uncovered truth behind whats going on at the lab and most of all his wife. . . would he make the right decision for not only himself but his child?

[bucklavaa]

She wrote this for Season 6 Evan Buck Buckley and me

[mcxcuseme13]

After Sunday, no F1 for a month. Eras Tour is done until October. No football. Willson September 6th. School starts. Prepares for birthday. No concert or events.

December 8th. No F1 until March. Eras Tour final bow. Almost time for playoffs. No album releases. Finals. Birthday over. No concerts or events.

I'm sorry to whoever has to deal with the withdrawals. This is gonna be brutal

[sadlynotthevoid]

It's always 'KRS transmigrates', or 'the Soo's trasmigrates'. But what about 'Jour's reincarnation transmigrates back into TBOAH'?

Kid was just doing her own stuff until a monter attack happened and a creepy voice offered to help her not to die in exchange of delivering a doodle to some guy she doesn't know.

Of course, she said yes. Was that or dying, which is why the creepy voice is also a scammer and she'll smack they if they ever meet.

The next thing she knows, the sky is way closer than it should be and the floor is getting closer and closer and closer—

'Oh no! Did that stupid bastard send her to who knows where just to kill her?'

Luckily for her, a cute redhaired guy managed to catch her. 'Ja. Take that, creepy bastard voice.'

He also gives her good vibes and has nice hair. He's her new best friend, she decides.

Turns out, the doodle was also for the red haired cutie. Which means she fulfilled her part of the deal, different from some annoying voice.

...Maybe she could get a compensation?

For now, she'll just go with Cale, her new best friend, to his house. Because he's the best person ever and he said she could stay there and eat delicious food, and desserts, and teas—

She could get used to this.

[meliesims]

Time for family trees! They overlap a lot, but I sorted them into five main lineages: Ebba Moore, Mark Evans, Hazel Perry & Raul Jensen, Erika & Amin Clifford and Daisy & Carl Taylor. I didn't bother with last names, but there is obviously more than these five.

Some stats under the cut.

Town’s funds

§160,385

University is unlocked!

Unlocked careers

All service careers

Architecture

Criminal

Education

Gamer: The career is open to any Sim who owns a computer, tv + video game console and arcade game.

Journalism

Law: A position opens up every time a Sim gets furious at someone. To enter the career this way, a Sim needs to have studied Couples Counselling. The career is unlocked for everyone with a University degree in Political Science.

Law enforcement

Music

Politics

Slacker

Athletic

Business

Culinary

Military

Science

Medical

Oceanography

Adventure (new!)

Dance (new!)

Entertainment (new!)

Careers to be unlocked

Intelligence: After the top of the Law Enforcement and Military career have been reached.

[chin-chin-chu]

And now that I'm grown, I'm scared of ghosts (all the men who did me dirty)

[wavesoutbeingtossed]

Taylor "All I want to do is keep doing this" about her work Swift must be absolutely LIVING at being able to talk shop with her equally work-obsessed partner who is not only receptive but HUNGRY for the support

[dreadintensifies]

the most wild thing about watching the reason why raeliana ended up at the dukes mansion as a long time manhwa reader and fan is

i suddenly have a brand new respect and appreciation for manga readers who deal with anime only fans bullshit lmao, i dont love non colored visual media (it just dosent mesh well with my brain) so ive never been a big manga reader, but watching anime only fans of raeliana talk about the story is painful

[simsreaper]

| The Silvers’ have resided in the West for a very long time with generations spanning years and years, they live and die in the West. Carson Silvers and Flint Silvers have only had each other since they were in their teens after the tragic death of their parents. They’ve been through a lot together, even to the point where Flint witnessed the wedding of his brother to his wife, Taylor Silvers. Carson wants to uphold the family name and get big and out there and has even thought about becoming the next sheriff and getting Leon to step down. |

(pets under cut)

[deesi-academia]

ek favourite artist ki tour toh main bhi attend karna deserve karti hu