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samwisethewitch · 6 months
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*takes your face gently in my hands and looks sincerely into your eyes* listen. your home does not need to look like a showroom. homes are meant to be lived in, and that means a certain amount of mess. it's okay if there is clutter on your desk or if you don't remember the last time you cleaned your oven. mess is morally neutral. but at the same time, you deserve to live in an environment that is safe and comfortable, and that means someone has to clean sometimes. things like mold, spoiled food, and dirty litter boxes are genuine health hazards and need to be dealt with before they make someone sick. think of cleaning less as "my home needs to be completely spotless" and more as "I am an animal and I need a habitat that is free of hazardous material." it's okay. *kisses you on the forehead and tucks you into a blanket*
(and of course it is always acceptable and even good for you to ask someone else to help you with cleaning if it's physically or mentally difficult for you. even if you're paying them to do it.)
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exbusinesspartner · 1 year
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philosophybits · 1 year
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[Housework] is undoubtedly a great blessing, too, because it keeps me sane, it forces me to live a regular life & is in general good for me although I curse it every day.
Ludwig Wittgenstein, "Letter to Lee Malcolm (5 June 1948)"
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luthienne · 6 months
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Mahmoud Darwish, from The Butterfly's Burden; "Housework" (tr. from the Arabic by Fady Joudah)
[Text ID: how much of me is you, my love]
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haggishlyhagging · 8 months
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"The housewife is a nobody," says Philip Slater, and almost everyone agrees. Her work is menial labor. Even more status-degrading is the unpaid nature of her job. Few deny the economic as well as the sociological importance of housework and homemaking. Housework is part of the great infrastructure on which, as David Riesman has reminded us, the entire superstructure of the economy and the government rests. If women did not supply the services of taking care of the living arrangements of workers, industry would have to do so, as in the case of lumber camps, ships, and the military. But housewives are not in the labor force. They are not paid for the services that they perform.
The low status of the wife's work has ramifications all through her marriage. Since her husband's work is not only higher in status but usually competitive, as hers is not, and he has to meet certain clothing and grooming standards or lose his job, his needs have to be catered to. If there has to be a choice, his new suit is more important than hers. This, quite apart from whatever personal or institutional prestige his work confers, tends to put him in a position of status superiority to the wife.
Housework is a dead-end job; there is no chance of promotion. One cannot grow in it. There is a saying that passes as wit to the effect that Washington is full of talented men and the women they married when they were young. The couple who began their marriage at the same stages of their development find themselves far apart in later years. "Persons who took the initiative in seeking divorce," Nelson Foote has noted, "in explaining their experience, and likewise observers of broken marriages, speak frequently of a mate's having outgrown the other. It is the husband who usually outgrows the wife." Not only does the wife not grow, but the nonspecialized and detailed nature of housework may actually have a deteriorating effect on her mind, as Mary Roberts Coolidge observed long ago, rendering her incapable of prolonged concentration on any single task. No wonder that after hours of passive, often solitary, absorption in television and radio soap operas, she comes to seem dumb as well as dull.
-Jessie Bernard, The Future of Marriage
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j-nn-ly · 1 year
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I enjoy doing housework, ironing, washing, cooking, dishwashing. Whenever I get one of those questionnaires and they ask what is your profession, I always put down housewife. It's an admirable profession, why apologize for it? You aren't stupid because you're a housewife. When you're stirring the jam you can read Shakespeare.
- Tasha Tudor
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thehousewitchery · 1 year
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blueberry cobbler & a cuppa coffee on this beautiful spring day
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barefoot-a-pregnant · 7 months
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philosophybitmaps · 2 months
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exhaled-spirals · 6 months
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« It’s very lovely that Dálen [inventor of the AGA stove] decided to find a way to relieve housewives and housekeepers from the burden of fire keeping. Yet when men see women performing the intense labor of care work, they often seem to think they’re seeing a problem that needs solving. The problem is “care work is labor intensive,” and their solution is often, “Here is an invention that will make it more efficient for women to do care work.” The inventions are nice, but care work is always labor intensive and rarely efficient, even with a radiant heat stove. You know what would help women more than any invention? A critical mass of men willing to do care work. »
— Anne Helen Petersen, in her Culture Study substack
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raining-tulips · 2 months
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A guide to get stains out of anything
As someone whose capsule wardrobe is 95% white and cares about ethical and sustainable fashion (so many of my pieces are investments) it’s important to keep my pieces maintained.
Over the years I’ve earned myself the title Queen of Stains by friends and family. I will be updating this list as I go on, remember, and discover more.
What to have in your arsenal:
Many of these things are so multi-useful they’re just good to have anyway!
Baking soda
Vinegar (i don't think it matters but white is best if you have lighter colored clothes)
Dawn dish soap
Rubbing alcohol
Hydrogen peroxide
Pink Stuff (linked here)
Old toothbrush for scrubbin'
Basics of stains:
Never put anything in the dryer unless you are happy with how removed the stain was. The heat will set the stain in and make it 1000% more difficult or impossible to remove. Air dry until you’re happy.
If a stain isn't lifting or removing, try another 15-30 minute sitting.
I usually add some baking soda to all loads of laundry to help brighten and freshen naturally - it also softens water and allows for less detergent to be needed.
The stains and their cure: (alphabetical)
Alcohol: I’ve tried this on Mikes Hard blueberry flavor but I assume it works for all alcohol. Dawn dish soap + vinegar. Let sit for 15 minutes then rinse. Then do dawn dish soap + rubbing alcohol and let sit for 15-30 minutes. Works on day-old stains. See wine for specific advice.
Blood: cold water. If you need more, cold water + hydrogen peroxide.
Chocolate: dawn dish soap + cold water. Do not/minimize scrubbing.
Grand Canyon Dirt (or red clay based dirt): the most difficult stain I’ve had. Many applications alternating between dawn dish soap and vinegar. Let sit for 15-30 minutes. Rinse. Will require multiple applications (took me two days to get the stains out and they are still faintly noticeable since I know where they are)
Generally Oily stains like chicken grease or food: dawn dish soap + laundry detergent
Lipstick: This was on a red liquid lipstick - dawn dish soap. Try to minimize scrubbing.
Soy sauce: dawn dish soap, a dash of laundry detergent, and hydrogen peroxide. Let sit for 15-30 minutes and rinse out. May require multiple applications.
Wine (red): I’ve used pink stuff to get rid of red wine stains from white bedsheets and cream colored apartment carpet. You have to do it ASAP and follow pink stuff instructions. If you don't have pink stuff, 3 parts Hyrogen peroixde, 1 part dish soap. After sitting for 15-30 minutes, rinse in cold water.
Yellow armpits: (Blue) Dawn dish soap, baking soda paste (mix baking soda with a lil bit of water). Scrub and let sit for 15-30 minutes. Add hydrogen peroxide after first rinse if its not gone. Works amazing on fresh stains if you can wash the armpits after a hike or workout. Old stains it will depend on the fabric and if its been washed and dried yet, but will usually lessen the stain.
I will continue this list as I go, so save for future reference.
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fotofetichegyn · 8 months
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liberaljane · 2 years
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Housework is real work. Pay up or shut up.
Colorful image that reads, 'housework is real work' with an iron, ironing board and button-up shirt. The bottom text reads, 'pay up or shut up.'
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haggishlyhagging · 7 months
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“It is a truism in the literature on working wives that although the husbands of working wives do help with household tasks, all too often wives continue to have responsibility for running the household. They rush home from work, shopping on the way, in order to have dinner on the table by six. They clean and tend to the laundry and do whatever has to be done in the evenings or on weekends. This is not role sharing.
The husband may promise to do his share, and increasingly he does or, at least, agrees to. But he can make his contribution so grudgingly as to force the wife to conclude that she would rather do it herself. Pat Mainardi has shown how such reluctant sharers of the burden manage to renege. She has translated all of their dodges. Eleven are standard:
“I don't mind sharing the housework, but I don't do it very well. We should each do the things we're best at." MEANING: Unfortunately I’m no good at things like washing dishes or cooking. What I do best is a little light carpentry, changing light bulbs, moving furniture (how often do you move furniture?). ALSO MEANING: Historically the lower classes (black men and us) have had hundreds of years experience doing menial jobs. It would be a waste of manpower to train someone else to do them now. ALSO MEANING: I don't like the dull stupid boring jobs, so you should do them.
"I don't mind sharing the work, but you'll have to show me how to do it." MEANING: I ask a lot of questions and you'll have to show me everything every time I do it because I don't remember so good. Also don't try to sit down and read while I'm doing my jobs because I'm going to annoy hell out of you until it's easier to do them yourself.
"We used to be so happy!" (Said whenever it was his turn to do something.) MEANING: I used to be so happy. MEANING: Life without housework is bliss. No quarrel here. Perfect agreement.
“We have different standards, and why should I have to work to your standards? That's unfair." MEANING: If I begin to get bugged by the dirt and crap I will say, "This place sure is a sty" or "How can anyone live like this?" and wait for your reaction. I know that all women have a sore called "Guilt over a messy house" or "Household work is ultimately my responsibility." I know that men have caused that sore—if anyone visits and the place is a sty, they're not going to leave and say, "He sure is a lousy housekeeper." You'll take the rap in any case. I can outwait you. ALSO MEANING: I can provoke innumerable scenes over the housework issue. Eventually doing all the housework yourself will be less painful to you than trying to get me to do half. Or I'll suggest we get a maid. She will do my share of the work. You will do yours. It's woman's work.
"I've got nothing against sharing the housework, but you can't make me do it on your schedule." MEANING: Passive resistance. I'll do it when I damned well please, if at all. If my job is doing dishes, it's easier to do them once a week. If taking out laundry, once a month. If washing the floors, once a year. If you don't like it, do it yourself oftener, and then I won't do it at all.
"I hate it more than you. You don't mind it so much." MEANING: Housework is garbage work. It's the worst crap I've ever done. It's degrading and humiliating for someone of my intelligence to do it. But for someone of your intelligence. . . .
"Housework is too trivial to even talk about." MEANING: It's even more trivial to do. Housework is beneath my status. My purpose in life is to deal with matters of significance. Yours is to deal with matters of insignificance. You should do the housework.
"This problem of housework is not a man-woman problem. In any relationship between two people one is going to have a stronger personality and dominate. MEANING: That stronger personality had better be me.
"In animal societies, wolves, for example, the top animal is usually a male even where he is not chosen for brute strength but on the basis of cunning and intelligence. Isn't that interesting?" MEANING: I have historical, psychological, anthropological, and biological justification for keeping you down. How can you ask the top wolf to be equal?
"Women's Liberation isn't really a political movement." MEANING: The Revolution is coming too close to home. ALSO MEANING: I am only interested in how I am oppressed, not how I oppress others. Therefore the war, the draft, and the university are political. Women's Liberation is not.
"Man's accomplishments have always depended on getting help from other people, mostly women. What great man would have accomplished what he did if he had to do his own housework?" MEANING: Oppression is built into the system and I, as the white American male, receive the benefits of this system. I don't want to give them up.”
Jessie Bernard, The Future of Marriage
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justbusterkeaton · 11 months
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Buster Doing Household Chores
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tradmare · 3 months
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Today has been such a good busy day. I’ve been married for a week and now I’m getting my little house into order. All the laundry is about caught up and put away. There’s roast waiting on my husband when he gets home and the windows have been open all day airing my little house out ❤️ oh how I love this life, this home, my husband and my God
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