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uncanny-tranny · 1 year

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Stealth doesn’t help the trans community. I'm not saying we have to be an activist, wear a t-shirt announcing our trans status, but we have an obligation to help advance the human rights of the trans community we belong to

These viewpoints, while I can appreciate them, tend not to recognize the full scope of why people are stealth in the first place.

If stealth is not right for you, don't be stealth. However, not recognizing the nuances of stealth doesn't help trans people either. You can be an advocate for trans people without being out because you don't need to be out to help the trans community. Additionally, nobody is obligated to know one's trans status. I'm pretty stealth in my real life because I owe nobody that information about my identity. And I do my best to make trans folks one of my primary interests in my life. These two things coexist in my life, and that's why these viewpoints are generally confusing to me. You don't need to be out - or let anybody know about your transness - in order to advance trans rights. Hell, you don't even need to be trans to do that.

Nobody should ever be obligated to be stealth. The expectation that trans people fade away in society is wholly asinine. However, that doesn't mean that stealth inherently is problematic. Stealth is not inherently adverse to trans rights.

#ask #anon #trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #i bring up myself because i think it's a relevant example #because i just happen to be stealth. it's pretty nuanced as to why i am but i am also a severely private person #and i don't share my personal information. but i will do my best to advocate for trans people in my real life #i have conversations with cis people all the time about transness for instance #that's what i mean #i can appreciate moving away from stealth as a requirement to living a trans life #i think it's incredibly reductionist to EXPECT that from us #but i also think it's reductionist to say that stealth is inherently bad #some of us (like myself) don't think anybody will be entitled to that part of us #it feels like people think 'if you're stealth you don't WANT us to have rights' and maybe that isn't what anon is saying...#...but people really lose the nuance into stealth and what it is and why people are stealth so that it's easier to sort you feel?#like people assume why we're stealth when it's like... the assumptions are either wrong or sorely lacking as to the reason #i really don't know why this is being asked of me though #i think this is the third or fourth ask about this topic with the same(ish) responses to the whole Stealth Thing #so i'm trying not to assume what anon is trying to say but i also want to recognize that i really don't agree #like what do you propose to somebody like me who already does work with trans rights and who is stealth irl?#do i just come out even though NOBODY in my life needs (or even deserves) to know?#that's what i'm talking about with this topic

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