#i hate tiktok as y’all know and i really encourage as many people as possible to delete it

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it really sucks how you can’t even be a mildly to extremely quirky person (doubly so for people with visible disabilities or mental illness symptoms that manifest in “weird” ways) in public anymore because people dying for attention on the clock app have to turn you living your life into a spectacle,, leave weird people in public alone

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Wait, Ming is still getting hate? Wtf?

I actually had my tempers under control when people went beyond the limit with Abuela Alma. Now I’m just gonna let it out.

Look, I don’t want to sound offensive in this post, but if the story isn’t for you and/or you have nothing good to say, maybe keep it to yourself? Or just say it in a manner that isn’t offensive?? I was already so done with white chicks on TikTok and Twitter and YouTube who just kept going at Abuela like, “Oh mY gOd, her trauma isn’t an excuse for her abusive behaviour” LIKE JESUS FREAKING CHRIST!!! FIRST OF ALL, nobody, I mean nobody, not even Abuela, tried to justify her actions using her trauma. She literally said, “I was so afraid to lose it, until I lost sight of who our miracle was for. We’re all broken because of me.” She didn’t say that for ya’ll to shit on her just like that. And she apologised. Right there. With zero hesitation. Without having dumb internal battles with her pride and ego. And I don’t understand why that’s not hard for people to digest.

And now Ming. How do people just so easily say that she didn’t love her daughter when she was literally all about Mei’s safety and health, so much so she believed her daughter wouldn’t make a single mistake and blamed it on everyone else possible? Like, which movie did y’all watch?

And yes, the both of them were pressurising their children. Pushing them beyond their limits. And that’s the whole fucking point of the story!! To push their kids so that they ultimately end up erupting and telling the 2 that they weren’t doing the right thing. That was the WHOLE. GODDAMN. POINT.

These are 2 women that had horrible, painful, unhealed trauma which they internalised, ignored and lived with. And for what? For nothing but wishing for the best for their families. Hoping that being perfect, not making even a single, small, teeny-tiny mistake, would help their families live happily. That’s the strongest shit someone can do. And that’s kinda just how it is for minority families.

That’s kinda just how they live. I don’t live in the West, but I’ve heard too many irl stories to know that that’s just small communities and Asian and other immigrant families doing their best. Being perfect. To be acceptable in this new world that judges them for being different, physically and culturally and what not. It’s not easy for them to understand it and change it all in one night when that’s how they were raised and that’s just how they’ve been living their whole damn life.

Yes, both movies were targeted to specific demographics, just to be more pain-inducing 🥲 but why does nobody wanna point out that both Abuela Alma and Ming had their best intentions at heart? Please, as much as it’s embarrassing, Ming didn’t fight with a school security to give her daughter some sanitary napkins, chase her daughter across the city when she was running away in fear, and run on roads barefoot, worried about her daughter, for y’all to say she didn’t even care.

They’re both strong women, that carried themselves with an amazing deal of strength and grace, and ultimately realised their mistake and apologised(may I point out, in timelines where I, personally, wouldn’t really expect a parent to actually genuinely apologise, which just makes them even more human and likeable). And yes, ignoring your trauma is not a very encouraging action and rather unhealthy, but they really put their families (and in Abuela’s case, her entire fucking town) first and disrespecting that is just pathetic.

And on a personal note, am I the only ones that actually isn’t a big fan of elders apologising irl? Because, as much as I argue with my parents a lot and point out their mistakes, the only ever times I see them apologise, they truly mean it. And they just look so…broken…and it’s so painful…it literally breaks my heart to see my family that way…maybe that’s just me but idk…

So yeah, y’all better respect the two women. (Jeez, ya’ll had me losing my temper over a fucking animated movie)

(Yes I made something don’t make fun of me I was proud of this pic shutup)

[antiracistkaren]

September 18, 2020

So the word has come down upon high (from Trump himself) that Tiktok is (again) done as of this coming Sunday.

This time, I am a bit more wary. Why? Because Oracle is the company that bought TikTok, and the owner of Oracle--Larry Ellison, who is work $76 BILLION with a B--is “close” with Trump.

According to the AP report written by O’Brien and Tardel, “Oracle co-founder Larry Ellison is unusual among tech executives for his public support of President Donald Trump, hosting a fundraiser for him in February at his Rancho Mirage, California, estate. The company also hired a former top aide to Vice President Mike Pence; its CEO, Safra Catz, also served on Trump’s transition team.“

That’s to say the least! We always need to be looking and seeing who the PEOPLE are being awarded business, and lucrative business at that, but we cannot ignore that fact that “...Oracle co-founder and chief executive Larry Ellison hosted a fundraiser for Trump at his Rancho Mirage, Calif., estate in February.“

Employees have been troubled by Ellison’s open support of President Trump. George Polisner, 57, who had worked at Oracle on and off since 1993, posted his resignation letter to LinkedIn after the company's co-CEO Safra Catz joined the Trump transition team and was said to have privately dined with the world leader. "I am not with President-elect Trump and I am not here to help him in any way," his public resignation post read. "In fact when his policies border on the unconstitutional, the criminal and the morally unjust I am here to oppose him in every possible and legal way. Therefore I must resign from this once great company."

These things are not occurring within a vacuum. We as a public must be clear-eyed about what is happening here.

I also want to share something that I wrote and posted on FaceBook in defense of TikTok as a community tool:

A Defense of TikTok, an essay

I know that it’s not cool to like TikTok as an elder Millennial. I am supposed to sit here and say that it’s not cool, and we invented the internet, and make jokes at my own expense about how old I am getting.

But I can’t seem to do that.

All y’all who are looking from the outside in at TikTok, seeing these fraught negotiations about getting bought, and securing data and are screaming for TikTok to get shut down; for those of you judging those of us on TikTok, I’d like to give you the view from the inside out, and why I will continue to fight for the existence of this, or an identical platform like it.

1. It creates a digital community in a time when social community cannot safely exist.

I, like most of my millennial brethren (and some Gen Xers and woke Boomers) downloaded this app because we noticed that the videos that were lifting us up out of our houses (in which we were trapped). It was a place where people were showing the inside of their own cells.

TikTok has created a community that feels real in a time when we all feel trapped. It’s better than TV in that you can engage with it. You’re limited on time, so you really must pare down your message if you’d like it to get engaged with. Yes, I am aware that this is a double-edged sword. Distilled messaging can be questioned, which is why responding to comments with clarifying videos in important.

The community that responds to these questions—your followers—are very good at pointing out your blind spots that strengthen your argument. This works for both sides.

In a time when we are all isolated, building a true digital community that is made up of uplifting content, empowering content, and ways to engage with communities you would have never seen make it a powerful tool in the pandemic.

2. TikTok’s hashtags encourage chasing diverse voices and similar voices, and diverse voices promotes compassion

Due to the nature of TikTok’s algorithm, it is possible to influence the content that TikTok serves your content to, and who serves their content to you. It CAN indeed create a vacuum, for as you tell TikTok who you are (by engaging with content), they’re also learning who you’re not. They will serve up content then that lines up with content you’ve engaged in.

However, because it’s cold and we are smarter than computers, it is simple to hijack a popular tag and expose a broad audience to an inclusive message, an educational clip on culture, a restful place to stay, and most recently: organizing voters of all ages.

So if you’re committed to diversify the voices in your life. If you’re hungry for an Indigenous point of view, you can seek it out. If you’re seeking out a homeless point of view, there’s millions of TikTok creators, but you must seek them out via their hashtags.

Tiktok has the power to introduce those of us who have the luxury of a nice private cell (in our homes) and personal corona virus pod (a car) to those of us who do not.

3. When community and compassion intersect, there is opportunity for change.

From the inside of TikTok, it feels like we [the users] are starting to break down some of these painful untruths that we’ve all accepted up until now. It feels like on the individual level, people are changing their minds.

When we build a community based on celebrating the individual, it is impossible for hate to thrive. TikTok has given those of us hurting from mental illness, depression, loneliness, anxiety and (Surprise!) Autism a place to talk about how hard this is. In Person! Safely.

And because we have started talking about how much of a toll this extended coronavirus pandemic is having on all of us, we’re starting to see that we are all connected right now. TikTok has this insidious way of showing you humanity, because it is intimate. It is you and one other person. You can happily support those you love, and leave those that aren’t for you.

TikTok is a target because of data. I know that. But I am begging us to find some other way, because the transformations that I am personally witnessing through this app are extraordinary and should be honored.

It’s hard to judge something from the outside. Please come on in and add your voice, and fight for your right to your data, too.

And in closing, if you’re hurting and need some face to face time with no pressure, then I would go to TikTok and find the Community you need, and then find a community that stretches you. And stick with it.

It is a tool that can help us in many ways if we choose to wield it wisely.