#i honestly dont know which kind of people are worst the intentionally hostile kind who celebrate on twitter and making discount on their sho

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just talking about proship anti anti-anti shit and why i think a punitive stance on internet content doesnt work. dont misconstrue this. if you call yourself an anti-anti i hate you

honestly i think the real way we break the cycles of kids being traumatized/groomed by people/content on the internet isnt by trying to stifle all instances of that content because

-theres no clear line between Okay and Not Okay in an objective sense, partially because this is informed by cultural ideas of what's appropriate and not and there's never going to be one answer of what is and isn't appropriate that doesn't clash with another person's sense of that and that doesn't explicitly make one of them wrong;

-and more importantly, because the line at which something becomes a traumatic or vulnerable subject is completely different for each person. for some people even content that's benign in an objective sense can strike a bad chord for them personally.

i think the actual answer is by providing ANY kind of useful support structure for children and other vulnerable people especially on the internet, in a way that actually reaches out to people, for the same reason as that internet safety post about how conventional internet safety is filled with enough disrespectful and infantilizing lies about every internet friend being a 40-year old man looking for children that its difficult to respect the things that are true, because when people do offer support it's never in the right place, or enough of it, or not filled with assumptions that alienate its audience, and honestly the worst is that its an area that feels shameful to accept help for. partially because it IS shameful! the way people do psas toward tweens about harmful internet content on this site is so abrasive and demeaning to the people its supposedly trying to help! its not about helping its just about jerking yourself off about how good you are at sjw theater! nobody with any stance in particular treats kids or victims like rational people because internet discourse lacks the nuance to allow that children and victims both have full agency in their actions and can and will make bad decisions, AND that they deserve respect and sympathy and support regardless of making decisions you dont like. yelling at kids and then feeling smug about how no kids will listen to your correct opinions because theyre dipshits who intentionally do things the wrong way isnt activism!

i dont have like a 12-step plan on how to make the internet safer but i do feel that like most things the answer is increasing the pitiful amount of good before trying to stamp out the bad that exists in its place. even if the laws about internet content werent externally motivated for profit and subjugation of swers i just think that anything from the direction of trying to direct whats allowed and disallowed is not going to ever be capable of actually succeeding in making the internet a safe place the same way that i think incarceration wont fix all crime. i sure would fucking love to never have to quickly scroll past "underage" tags on porn ever again but i also think that if our current methods actually worked we would see them working by now

all i want is to see general culture and internet culture both become a less hostile space for children and victims. i want a broad internet culture that ALLOWS children to understand what being manipulated means and how to recognize it and what to do about it, and to know that they can go to people without feeling like its an admission of guilt that you found yourself in that situation even after hearing internet "safety" lectures, and to know that theyre safe around people. and in my personal perspective all the internet legislation of the last 10 years has made absolutely no difference for me. if i were 11 right now in 2021 and wanted to talk to someone about how the internet (among other things) made me hypersexual and made me fear my sexual safety around adults i wouldn't feel a single bit safer than i did then. the problem isnt a finite number of bad actors corrupting the internet that if we locked them all up wed all be saved, its that our entire culture is so hostile to victims of sexual violence and especially underage victims of sexual violence that

-it isnt hard for people to fall into habits that create sexual violence, and

-theres nothing to balance out that influence for both the perpetrators and the victims, and

-its hard for victims to even recognized they were victimized because the state of our society is already so entrenched in the normalization of sexual violence, and

-if they do recognize it theres nowhere for them to go other than back to that sexual violence. sequestering people away into therapy and self help and the whims of the medical system where outside people can pretend sexual violence doesnt exist while people are bounced between therapists who cant help them is not a support structure btw.

this whole discourse has gotten so out of control and radicalized into black and white arguments and knee jerk reactions and even for all that what do we have to show that were benefiting victims?? we're not! its all just outrage addiction! and its fucking ridiculous!! im tired of it!!!