#im nonbinary flux

[imgayasinfuckyou]

Still around? I have confessions.

HOLY SHIT! HI YES I AM!! I’m not very active as I’d like to be but lay it on me sweetheart

[noodlez4breakfast]

grahhhh here is my about me post

☢️ namez u can call me;; sayori, toby, bonnie, dina, tori, chara, miku, ghoulia, cyber, akane, yakui, napoleon, vamiwa, nyacifier, noodle, or poptart <3

💚 I AM HAPPILY TAKEN !!!

i am 14 yearz old

🧁 gender;; (switchez ALOT) boyflux, boyspike, nonbinary flux, transmascfem, demi bigender, genderflux ++xenogender

☕️ s3x;; axab (inters3x)

🌇 pronounzzz;; it/itz + xenoz or neoz

(use any other pronounz and i will block u or give u a warning)

🎀 my aestheticz;; gurokawa,, scemo,, oddcore,, lovecore,, gyaru,, rokku gyaru,, vamp (bahaha),, toxiccore,, shinora,, romantic goth (yes i listen to the music.)

💊 other aestheticz i like but i dont really use::

casinocore, angelcore, creepycute, cutegore, scene, vampirecore, nostalgiacore, fallcore, wintercore, halloweencore, kawaiirock, cleancore, tropicalcore, morute, themeparkcore, goshikku gyaru, harujuku, jojifuku, dark decora, olderbrothercore,, cybercore,, robotcore,, masc bimbocore,, masc mcbling,, morute,, drugcore,, hadeko,, clowncore

(also im educated on aestheticz, so if u have questionz ask me)

🩹 my s3xuality;; pomoromantic and as3xual

i was born without taste and smell (i have ageusia!!!!)

but i 💚 taco bell and monster energy drinkz

i like horror and comedy moviez/showz !!

+ i somewhat like anime,, not really big on it tho

💉 i have a tiny typing quirk

z=s

kool=cool

lob=love

epik=epic

omh= oh my hell

i sometimez use f instead of g (ex. somethinf, thinkinf)

when im being silly i might say::

jelp=help wjat=what jello=hello mrow=meow

🪦 my personality typez are;;

INFP,, INTP,, ISTP,, and ENTP

i stim and im proud of it !!!

IM A SELF SHIPPER !!!!! 😍😍 (i ship myself with characterz)

also i have asthma, diabetez (type 2.) and i cant have gluten (idk i felt like mentioning that) AND IM VEGETARIAN.

code stuff ⚰️

• not using my typing quirk meanz im either being serious or i feel uncomfortable using it around u

• saying cool without a k meanz i dont rlly think itz kool

• blocking you for no reason ?? it might be because of a episode im having or i feel uncomfortable around u srry </3

other disorderz I have u might want to know about;;

synesthesia

bpd

DiD

stpd

selective mutism

dpdr

tourettez

maladaptive daydream disorder

ppD

schizophrenia

+ several anxiety disorderz

💤 other fictionkinz of mine (I have over 200 but here are my top onez)

kyle broflovski from south park

sayori from ddlc

ghoulia yelps from monster high

tavros and karkat from homestuck

hatsune miku from vocaloid

akane owari from danganronpa

derpy hooves from mlp

wendy from final destination 3

aubery from omori

tord and tori from eddsworld

bonnie from fnaf

judge angel from creepypasta

lulu from creepypasta

ticci toby from creepypasta

midori gurin from yandere simulator

++ WAYYY more

I am also a otherkin !! I have too many otherkin typez to name but here are the main onez:

zombie

vampire

whether kin (tornado)

angel kin

++ otherz

anyway thatz all 4 now o_O

[nerves-nebula]

My legs hurt and I’m mad cuz I feel like I got cornered into identifying as trans masc when I’m not a man and don’t really identify with masculinity. I just couldn’t find any better words for what I am.

Trans neutral means nothing to me, I don’t get it unfortunately so it’s not useful to me. Besides, im not neutral anyway. other micro labels don’t really spark with me either, despite my best efforts. (except for Maverique, and that’s only because it was the nicest sounding third gender/not man or woman related gender I could find. And it wasn’t made by a white person. But nobody fucking knows what a Maverique is.)

I don’t feel masculine I feel like MYSELF. But what I am resembles masculinity the most to the outside world so I just went with it cuz no one was ever gonna see the monster I want to be anyway.

If I really had to pick i’d say I’m a butch maverique but not in a woman way or a masculinity way like I just exist adjacent to butchness.

I’m suddenly reminded of a video I saw on tiktok where someone explained that nonbinary was an umbrella term and they listed a whole host of identities for minutes on end and not once mentioned the idea of a third gender. All kinds of gender-fluid and flux and Agender and yet never actually touched in the idea of gender OUTSIDE of man or woman.

How does “no nonbinary isn’t always a third gender” always end with the complete neglect of anyone who actually exists WITH A GENDER that has nothing to do with men or women???

I’m going insane. Anyway I’m still bitter about how nobody ever gives a shit about my kind of trans person. Also the fact that whenever bigots like JKR explicitly go after trans ppl they just see as “confused girls” y’alls only response is TRANS WOMEN ARE WOMEN like you can’t actually engage with the active genocide against all of us if it gets you less attention I’m !!! I’m irritated!!!

I need to sleep but now I’m annoyed.

[jodistorian]

May I have my gender guessed too?? 💕

sure thing! <33

im getting aesthetigender vibes from u...the question is what subset?

youre a gloender aethergxrl! gxrls are multigender or genderflux <3

glossary: aethergender, a gender that feels very wide, commanding, breathtaking and powerful, linked to the vast expanse of space. can be used as aethergirl/boy/nonbinary etc

gloender, a fluid/flux gender that goes from light to dark or semi-dark to darker

[silverjirachi]

22 and 1 for the pride ask!

Hi thank you for sending an ask!!

1. what labels do you use?

Genderqueer, queer, nonbinary, genderfluid/genderflux, bisexual. I used to identify as asexual and i still am maybe on that spectrum a little bit but for the past few years i’ve been having horrible bouts of rampant bisexuality. i want to kiss everyone all the time it is very very bad

The gender sides of my ID are kind of always in flux. Honestly i call myself a femboy a lot. I like to use genderqueer as a coverall because while I feel I am a boy on the inside, I also still really enjoy dressing feminine and taking on a feminine role, but only circumstantially.

Not super comfy calling myself trans or transmasc bc my egg hasnt cracked and refuses to, but like im an egg calling myself an egg right now so…

They/them, maybe some day a he/they

22. How do you normally celebrate Pride?

I’ve actually never gone to a pride celebration bc I grew up in a very catholic home, but I live in a city now and am hoping to go to pride this year!! (It might be through work though).

Mostly I celebrate pride by wearing my silly little pronoun and bisexuality pins and doing my silly little gay shit. Writing my silly little gay fanfictions about my silly little gays.

I’m hoping to have a gender reveal party this year that’s gonna double as a housewarming to my malewife estate?

Ask me gay shit!

[witchings-ofkoi]

the reason i dont identify as bi anymore is kind of a load but i want it off my chest.

i used the label bi because back in 2020-ish i was still figuring myself out (i know myself way better now than i did then but im still figuring myself out.) but also because the label was kinda pushed on me. it works as an umbrella term but using it just felt so restrictive to my identity because, while sure i like guys, girls and enbies/people inbetween or outside the binary, my attraction is just so much more complicated and way less simple than that.

it was sorta pushed onto me by my then partner after i thought i was a transman and stopped identifying as a lesbian. i told them how i was feeling about my identity and they insisted i was bi, so for a while i went with it.

i went with "biromantic ace" among other labels, what labels i chose were heavily influenced by my partner at the time, because i thought they knew me better or something?

i felt so weird about it though, i really had felt comfortable identifying as trixic/sapphic/lesbian but then realised "no my attraction to guys isnt comp-het i really do like them" so i thought i had to stop using the label cuz at the time i felt comfortable to call myself a guy.

turns out, i like women in a queer way but not the same kind of queer way i like nonbinary people or men, for me my attraction to different genders is seperate to those genders in a gay towards that gender sort of way. i felt comfortable saying i was both a lesbian and a gay man, i still feel comfortable using those terms even though im NONBINARY not a transman like i thought.

my relationship with my gender and orientation are so messy and complicated the best way i can wrap my mind around it was to stop using the bi label and just start using a whole bunch that fit me so much better! gaybian, omni, abro, aroace flux, so on and so forth.

theres nothing wrong with having multiple labels, using masculine, neutral, feminine terms and such that contradict each other. if they work then they damn well work. use what youre comfortable with, not what others want you to conform to.

fuck it, just be you, be your queer self for you, who cares if people dont understand and get confused buy it. you dont owe anyone an explanation on your identity, its yours.

im autistic, i hate feeling restricted and masking, so finding the right labels for me was extremely important. now it actually feels like i can breath a bit easier in my own skin because i can understand myself even the slightest bit better.

if you wanna use bi because its the label youre most comfortable identifying with even if you dont fit everyone's definition of it, use it anyway. if you wanna use pan, poly, omni or literally anything you feel works for you then use it!

trust me when you allow yourself to be comfortable and experiment with labels, you not only find out more about yourself but feel at least slightly better about it too. and that slight bit betterness can go a long way, maybe even opening yourself up to other things.

your comfort matters, it really does. no one can dictate your identity and labels for you, only you can do that.

im proud of myself for getting here

im proud of you too <3

now go drink water this was a long post!

[transmascore]

i feel like im going insane. i have literally, literally, identified as everything in the lgbtq+ acronym. literally every single thing. ive "come out" as every sexuality, claimed i was every gender, and yet i still feel like im wrong. im so tired of not knowing who i am. i feel like a fraud and a fake, like an idiot for not knowing who i was when i was like 3 and just stucking with it forever. i wish i was just normal. do you have any advice for figuring it out?

I understand the frustration. It can be scary to not know who you are, and to want to have a definite answer - to have closure. Identity is a complex thing. 

My own understanding of myself has changed over time. From identifying as a woman, to nonbinary, to a man. From woman-leaning pansexual to gay. From feminine to masculine to feminine again. From using one set of pronouns to another, and then another. I've absolutely felt that imposter syndrome and that need to pin myself down as something specific. To know myself fully and feel stable in my identity. 

I don't want to claim that identity is fluid for everyone - there are people out there that find themselves day one and little changes for them. But I will say that, in general, part of life is that people are always changing. One's understanding of oneself evolves over time. We're not the same person at 30 as we were at 20, as we were at 15. I resent the notion of "a phase" as it's often used dismissively, and that's used to invalidate a person's identity and experiences. I don't really believe in "phases" so much as "this point in time is part of my journey."

When I said I was nonbinary at 17, that wasn't a lie. It wasn't a phase; it wasn't me faking anything. It was who I was at that time, my authentic self. Just as 10 years later, me living as a man is my authentic self. And in neither scenario am I taking up unnecessary space.  I understood myself as being attracted to women for most of my life, and that was my understanding of myself then. Now I'm a Kinsey 7.

My biggest piece of advice is to go with the ebb and flow, and not to beat yourself up about it. A big part of the queer journey, for most people I'd say, is to keep exploring until you find what sticks. What feels right to you in the here and now? What makes you feel happy and at peace with yourself? If you find yourself at a loss for an answer, that's okay. You don't need to have one. You can exist as you are without labeling it (unlabeled), or by using an umbrella term to signify that you're LGBT without getting into specifics (such as queer or genderqueer). 

There's also terminology out there, neologisms, that describe people whose understanding of their own sexuality and gender are in flux - like abrosexual and genderfluid. Because you're far from alone. Many people cycle through the acronym and aren't quite sure where they belong. Even if those specific words don't necessarily click with you, I recommend looking into their communities and speaking to the people in them. You may find answers and make friends with people in a similar situation.

Ultimately: You cannot be a fraud when it comes to your own gender and sexuality. If you come out as a lesbian one day and a gay man the next and a bisexual that afternoon - there's nothing wrong with that. You are you, whatever your understanding of the situation is at the time. 

Good luck on your journey, and take it one step at a time. Go easy on yourself. And if you can, do something nice for yourself today. Treat yourself! Figuring out who you are is hard work. ❤️

[polyamorouspunk]

Queer Stuff Thought Dump: Im genderfluid(?) sorta? Honestly Im not a fan of labels but its a good descriptor to get my point across.

Anyways, I think its both weird and interesting that I can almost use my gender feels as a form of spidey-senses. Like if I feel very safe and comfortable and protected, I am more likely to feel femme. But in situations where either I feel unsafe or uncomfortable, or even just that I have to be the one protecting (like when I go to the bar with friends), I tend to feel more masc. and the more bad a situation is or the more stressed I am, the more masculine I feel. And sure there are other little nuances to my gender too, but over the past few years, I’ve found this to be a very good ‘gut instinct’ thing about people, and since I’ve started taking it into account, my life has been WAY less chaotic and I’ve felt femme more this year than I have in YEARS, and honestly its kinda nice? Like I bought a dress the other day because I *wanted* to? But yeah, I do find it odd that my gender can tip me off to a shitty situation way before my brain actually realizes it.

Yeah! So a while ago I found the term situational genderfluid and couldn’t find a flag for it, so I designed one that you can find by searching on Google or on here, because my environment and music and all this stuff influences my gender. I also don’t really like labels. I’m a trans guy. I’m a girl. I’m nonbinary. I’m genderqueer. I’m fluid-flux. I’m gendervague. Idk. But yeah I can influence what gender I am/whose fronting with certain things. The moment I decided to come out as not cos was the moment I was able to start embracing my femininity. Becoming a guy made me into the girl I am today or whatever. Cis me could never wear the clothes that not cis me wears as a girl (Savvy). That’s super cool your gender works like spidey-senses. Mine’s I think more like “I can control my gender at will” power. Wanna be a boy? Throw on that heavy metal bitch idc if you’re wearing Savvy’s clothes, suffer.

[the-black-reaperarc]

⚠️TW⚠️

Swearing, Misgendering, Voice Not Being Heard, and plain Ignorance

Mom says im to young to feel/know if im asexual... but i am its just the truth sometimes it fluctuates but im still ace. No other title fits me, when it does flux im nblm/nblw! And so to me i feel like I should say like 'wtf is wrong with you!?'

Mom wanted to know why I dislike being touched most days and in my head im like 'i dont know, i just cant explain it, it just hurts, im sorry.'

She has and does say the N-slur do much and it might not hurt or offend me but i need to say like 'you fucking "unintentional" racist'. Thats dehumanizing you also have no right to say the N-slur or the F-slur. Unintentional or not what the fuck is wrong with you!?

I shouldn't be so uncomfortable with speaking to you to the point where you have to force me to speak with you, you should realize how badly you fucking screwed up as a parent, when it gets to that point and you could atleast try and some-what fix it!

Stop asking me so many danm questions about it. Like idfk why i have to talk to get my point across that i doNT FUCKING LIKE TALKING (we can right it down/message each other)

Stop assuming thing like, that i still like dressing 'feminine', or that i would want kids just because *YOU* want biological grandchildren, or i still am ok with being called like your daughter/my deadname and stuff, fucking Christ! You have questions?, ask me! Is it that difficult!? Are you scared I wanna share called something else!?

Like a couple days abo when mom was helping me do something she said something like 'if you could go on something to stop your period, would you?" and im like yea and she goes 'even if it would damage your chance of getting pregnant?' and i was like 'yea' and when we were done she says something about having biological grandchildren, and I'm like wtf thats not "ok" to say something like that to your *nonbinary/transmasc* kid!

Like why do i feel like i cant fuckin' express myself, that shouldn't be how i feel on *OUR* house!?

May edit later <3

Have a good dusk/day/dawn/night

[catboy-sucking-girlcock]

venting lolololol. it's a small thing but i wanna get my feelings out somewhere

someone made a playful comment about how the character arc of one of their characters is "finding a trans girl to date and being in a lesbian relationship" and it kinda just made me feel,, hurt

the character in question is someone who my character interacts with a lot, so i couldn't help but feel like "but what about my character? what about all the ways that my character, who is queer and trans, has impacted your character??? has my character not also created an important character arc to your character???"

in a way, it felt like they were unintentionally treating my character as someone whose queer identity is not impactful or meaningful because they are nonbinary/multigender/genderfuck/flux/fluid/etc.. and it also felt dismissive because like.. my character is also a trans girl. but because my character is multigender, ig this person didn't see my character as a "real" trans girl

and it also felt like they were dismissing the impact that the characters had with each other because they are not "romantic" with each other despite having an intimate relationship. im p sure it's amatonormativity that they didn't realise they were perpetuating. like.. they were treating "dating" or "romantic relationships" as a defining moment in someone's life (or in this case, it's a "character arc")

also, there's literally no reason why these two characters can't be considered to be in a "lesbian relationship" ????

which.. idk. it's literally just fictional characters. but i think all of this hurt me because it reminded me of myself and the experiences i've had with my queerness and relationships

a lot of people look at me and will categorise me as something that is "other" than a trans girl or trans boy. and they're not wrong for doing that, because i AM an "other" but i am ALSO a trans girl and a trans boy. im a lot of things at the same time, and it hurts when pieces of me are ignored

and similarly, it hurts when people dont view my relationship with them as something that is "impactful" or "important." like, why is it that "dating" is the only type of relationship that so many people consider to be worthy of keeping track of and counting? or to be considered a milestone in life? are the other relationships not important? why do i have to date you in order for you to consider me someone who has played an important role in your life? why does your character have to date someone in order to have a "character arc"?

[collgeruledzebra]

hmmmmmm

[queering-the-binary]

Hey all! I’ve had a pretty bad day and am super dysphoric, and I was thinking to myself about how cool it would be to have a post saved that has little affirmations in it, and how it sucks that that doesn’t exist. But then I realized- I can make that post! Reblog or comment on this post with a little positive message!

I’ll start it off- No matter what anybody says, you know yourself best, and I fully believe that you are who you say you are. The only person who can change your labels is you!

[chapst1ckmcdyke]

god, I’m rehashing my lesbian identity AGAIN why is this so hard????? 

[feralfens]

me: i use he/him right?

my gender: :v) yes

me: i also use they/them and ey/em right?

my gender: :vD yes

me: okay so what are you called

my gender: oh its [indiscernible chaotic sound] :^D

me : understandable, have a nice day

[sapphicrush-rpg]

hello! was wondering if anyone in the mhu story is transfeminine? i like it a lot, but im worried it's mostly centric on trans people who are more transmasc/nonbinary when it comes to trans representation, but i could be wrong!

Hey, thank you for this question! It's really important and I brought it up with the whole group to discuss.

For the extremely TL;DR version, yes, there is transfem rep in the game!

Putting a slightly longer version under the cut on some gender feelings from the whole group, and about this world at large 💓

All of us as a group discussed this question, and its importance, and we came away with a few major thoughts. In general, because of the way the sandbox world is created, there is no strict nature on the way gender is expressed or experienced. Characters never have to come out as queer or trans, because as part of making the experience safe for the players, it is expected and accepted that the characters can have fluid and flexible identities.

Part of the reason for this is because we have also been using this space as a playground to also experiment with our own genders - to learn what feels really good in ways we never would have thought (and the experiment has led us all to very exciting discoveries!). As a result, players have wanted to be open to the idea of lots of gender identities and expressions for their characters.

I say all of this while knowing that there is an extreme stigma to including trans women in queer spaces run by cis women, and many times, cis lesbians. I know it can feel like a cop out to say "any of these characters could be trans" but genuinely, as none of the characters have ever 'come out', all that matters is how they feel - therefore, if they feel trans, then that's what matters. I have written NPCs with many different gender expressions and identities, but "coming out" has never been important to the plot, or to the way we experience the game, so outlining them in a post has never felt necessary.

Gender is really cool and complicated, and we are a table of sapphics whose genders can be in flux! We understand and respect this question, and hope that this answers it for you.

[pinkfruitgender]

What's the difference of fluid/Flux

ill try my best to explain this but im a bit dumb so id recommend asking somebody who is smart like @ezgender or @neopronouns.

so a fluid gender identity moves between labels, like being fluid between boy/girl/nonbinary for example. you may feel like a girl one day and a boy the next day and a nonbinary gender the day after that.

alternatively, flux gender identities are identities that fluctuate but stay on the same base. so for example, if you're boyflux, you could feel 5% boy one day, 50% boy the next, etc.

i hope that makes sense? and is correct?