#im not having that discourse wit strangers on the internet

[astarionspocketpussy]

im trans so all of the characters get to be funky about gender as a treat. 

Shadowheart is a trans woman in my heart. I don't know I think something about her just screams that to me, you know? And I think the idea that she transitions socially quite young, young enough that the name her parents call her when they see her was a name she chose herself, I think that just scratches an itch in my brain. Extra points for the fact that Shar's games means she likely can't remember so much of her own journey with gender, how strange and uncomfortable and isolating that would feel. Its just a story I think is interesting and would be fun to explore thematically. 

Gale is a trans guy because I'm projecting. Those enchanted underwear he has? Magic packer. Also something about his personality just screams trans guy to me. Again, projecting. 

Wyll is also a trans guy. This is because A) I like him and he's cool, so he gets my highest honor- the trans-ification bean. And B) because it makes his relationship to heroism and his ideals have such a nice texture. His gentlemanly, heroic beliefs become both an expression of how fundamentally good he is and also a fun bit of gender expression. He's playing the role of the dashing princely figure both because he wants to help people and because that's what manhood is to him. Also it colors his relationship with his dad in a way I really like. 

Karlach for me is like. She could be anything. Trans woman, nonbinary, cis, genderqueer, literally anything goes. She just has a fun gender expression and I think she's best taken as just, like. Her gender is that she's Karlach. 

Lae'zel is cis to me. But her culture has very different rules and I feel like her relationship with gender would reflect that. I feel like she'd be a cis woman, but insofar as she doesn't really want to be anything else. Like, she doesn't dislike womanhood it just doesn't matter to her as much as cool weapons and dragons do. And I like that, its fun to examine gender in that way. 

Astarion is also cis to me. I've seen headcanons that I like well enough but I don't know, I just cannot help but see him as cis. I think he has a funky relationship with gender and expression, but he's ultimately a guy. He'd love drag though. He gives me that vibe. The performance would be appealing to him. Maybe he doesn't do drag himself but he'd love the scene. 

Halsin is nonbinary to me and I will not be accepting criticism at this time.  This is just me blatantly pointing the tran-ification beam at a character I like and I do not care. 

[armillary-spheres-lover]

Why cant I have bi memes w/o them coming from panphobic blogs

Can please some bi non-panphobic blogs rb this im struggling to find spaces were there isnt ficking discourse every 2 seconds. Its not good for my mental health. I just want people to love each other tysm

@definitely-a-living-human do you have some to suggest? sorry you're one of the few safe bi blogs ive recently interacted w so you crossed my mind but if you dont want to its fine

Edit: really I'm spending more time on aroace blogs than bi blogs now because they're so explicitly inclusive and warm and nice it's wonderful just scrolling down

Bi panphobes can fuck off they dont make bi spaces comfortable for anyone not even the very same bi people they claim to protect (source: me. I do not feel welcomed nor safe. even if im bi myself).

It's like seeing your boyfriend yelling and abuse a random stranger for no reason. of course you're gonna fear you're the next even if they're claiming It's just to protect you. It shows that as soon as you do anything that rubs them the wrong way you're def gonna be on the receving end of abuse as well. Its not a healthy enviroment. It keeps you walking on eggshells. Its not something Im going to deal w. I did not w real people in my life who I previously loved, Im not doing it for a random idiot on the internet. Fuck off

(oh of course the same is true for any exclusionist, this is just smth ive directly witnessed and affects me directly)

[sui-senka]

The dumbest post

I think y’all should be here to witness the dumbest post I’ll ever make, as I’m not all about getting into discourse and that, and any other self-identifying Vergil lovers please come here:

@creepyscritches, @brasspetalsx, @fandomhell97, @breezeinmonochromenight, @kaldea88, @xalmasyx, @hornyangrybean, @noir-sorrow, @catspook, @xenontrioxide, @zilla-may-cry, @boobble, @vergilshusband, @tifaroni, @littlebluewraith, @im-a-clown, @genovaempera, @neodicronus, @thelessiknowtheworse, @thriilsy, @jestermania, @bunny-girl-sweetseek, @darka3363, @witchkiid, @45, @manadebutt, @magsamaire, @spaghetti-queerghetti, @clairexredfields, @204863-yunglynn, @yuri-subtext, @miss-soso-25, @josuke-kujo, @cameguisada, @trionfi, @glitteryhumanfiretrash, @lewdbunbun, @journalofsparda, @complacentdevil, @infernokid, @emogodmatthew, @brit-o-raptor, @salsa-and-chips, @gemstone-enema

I’d like y’all to bear witness, as I take down this bitch-ass clown. As I’ve blocked the person in question that I want to call out - please tag them into this post to have at them ;) Also - to the other people that didn’t get this, tag your mutuals and get them here.

I’d also like to announce that @thephantomporg84 is now masquerading as @derelict-stranger, and I got a few messages a few days ago about how she was gonna take down her account, and how she wants me to block all of you, which is ridiculous as you are all blogs that I have known and followed way before her and also I don’t know you either. I told her that I didn’t want to be involved in her drama, but here I am. 

It’s kinda hard for me to make this post, as I genuinely thought that she was cool in the beginning - she helped to give me more DMC asks in my inbox, and she always reblogged my stuff, as I’ve been trying to make it with the big guys - like @myfairmidnightladyspade.

But I saw the stuff that she says online to you all, and I think I got some anon messages from her asking if I was a terf or not... and yeah - my heart broke. I feel like I have been deceived in some way. What I wanted to be there was someone who was cool, and funny to talk to, but turns out that person is petty, heartless, immature and straight up spiteful.

I may have to justify myself in why I got messages from her - I was only trying to console her, but to do it in a neutral way as I wanted no part in her drama.

Also - i’m probably not gonna show any evidence for how much she sucks cause there’s tags and anon posts dedicated to that sort of thing

I want you on tumblr, and you on Reddit to find her, and in the /v/ section of 4chan to block her and report her for all she’s done. I want you to wipe her existence from the internet until there is nothing left.

Now - I need to change the flow of the conversation by directing it to you, @derelict-stranger.

I’d like you to kindly log off, take a breather and think, for a second about the actions that you’ve done to the people that I’ve mentioned above. 

I’d also like to tell you that your suggestion to block all those people above is complete nonsense. Why would you make me block blogs who have perfectly decent and awesome content, and to those who I have talked to longer than you? why would you make me block blogs who I don’t know? Quit trying to get me on your side. I want no part in your drama like I said before, and stop trying to manipulate me into getting me to give a shit about you.

I’d also like to tell you that your situation is entirely self-inflicted. That you trying to talk to me won’t work, the only reason that people are apparently “attacking you” - is because you, in fact, are the instigator, are the catalyst of all this hatred.

You - @derelict-stranger, lack any ability whatsoever to disagree well. From where I’m looking, all of this started because you don’t like Vergil from the Devil May Cry games and you don’t like the plot of 5, which seems extremely stupid to me, as he’s only a small-ish part of 1, one of the best boss-fights in 3 and just a mere mention in 4. The fact that you need to incessantly attack content creators who merely like him is stupid. Either keep those opinions to yourself, ignore them, or do my favourite -> stick ‘em up your big stupid ass.

It’s also stupid that when people merely like him - you have to bring in your own shitty opinions. No one asked you what you thought, and I’m pretty sure you’re actively seeking out fights with people just to feel good about yourself. It’s also super hypocritical of you ragging on about how much Vergil sucks, when you go crazy for Kylo Ren, as they share some similarities in terms of their vibes and traits. (Yeah - I see you asking for smutty Kylo Ren x Reader requests online.....) Why do you get pissy when people like villainous fictional characters - do your knickers

What I just want to know is what kind of personal gratification you get when you actively hate on a character, and what kind of gratification you get when just because someone disagrees with you - that you have to result using death threats, rape threats, pedophilia threats, racism, slurs, and ableism,  transphobia, alt-right rhetoric, neo-Nazi shit, pro-Trump, and homophobic comments to content creators just doin’ their own thing. Is it just to feel like the bigger man, is it to make yourself sound smarter than the other person (Cause you don’t) - like what actually motivates you, what actually makes you want to shit on other people’s parades, huh? Sounds to me like you need to get a life.

The fact that you always need to play the victim is sad and pathetic too:

- That you’re on the spectrum: - Okay, there are a lot of people who are on the spectrum here on tumblr. But they don’t use it as an excuse to justify shitty behaviour especially if it’s unitentional. as I’m sure they and the people they know are. I’m sure they apologise and try to get on with life like how NT people do. As you know - a lot of people of the spectrum feel like they’re being treated as sub-human being babies that do nothing but screech all the time, and they’re taking action to change those perceptions. Your behaviours are not helping their cause.

- That you use depression as an excuse - I’m kinda sympathetic to the whole mental health issues thing. I have them too. In fact, I am a hot mess. But I don’t use that to excuse me hurting other people with intention, and I’m sure many others don’t either. At least 1/4 or 1/3 will have some mental health issues in their life, and yeah, it sucks, and it’s common but it doesn’t make them exempt from them being called out on their shitty acts. the fact that so many people are and can be mentally ill doesn’t make you special, and it doesn’t give you a free pass to attack others.

- The fact that you try to bait people into making anti-semitic comments, so you can call them anti-semitic. Dude, that’s low. I’m pretty sure that’s gaslighting and manipulation as well. You don’t get the right to use your religion/race in that way as a defence when you’re feeling attacked so that you come off a better person. I’m friends with many jewish people, and they’d never have the gall to do that. I know that your peeople have had it rough, but you can’t use that in an argument just to prove that the other one is a piece of shit, when it is in fact you. I’m muslim, a WOC, and ancestrally speaking, from a country that your so-beloved president essentially banned their right to seek a better life in the states. For as long as I can remember - I’ve seen news about my kind being universally hated, I’ve been brought up in a post-9/11 world where for as long as I can remember that me and our kind are the enemy (so I can sympathise) - but you don’t see me and other muslims here using those petty tactics that you use, because unlike you, we’re not myopic and we know that won’t get us anywhere.

I mean, this behaviour sounds bratty and childish - so I was thinking, she’ll probably grow out of it. Then I find that you’re in you’re mid-twenties, and I think “you really haven’t grown up at all, have you?”, and honestly it just makes the behaviour worse as you are resulting to middle school/high school tactics -> especially making me block all those people, calling them sociopaths and evil bitches. This ain’t high school or Mean Girls, moron, this is a fandom. A place where people can create, share, like and comment on content that makes you happy. I don’t think you understand what that means - cause all I see, and everyone sees is you spewing hatred everywhere. Fandoms are supposed to make you feel included, feel happy, feel safe, be a place to make friends. I don’t think you know that, and I don’t think you are even smart enough to realise that you are the reason why our fandom isn’t happy.

And honestly, at this point, the hatred you are getting is well deserved. You deserve to feel like shit if all you are going to do is make others feel like shit.

I don’t know what else to say but:

1. Get the hell away from our fandom

2. Get rid of your internet connection.

3. Get a life.

4. We don’t want you here.

5. You’re scum.

6. Go suck a dick, or flick a bean, whatever gets you off you troglodyte.

I liked you man, I really did. Then I saw how you treat others, and now I know I made a dumb life choice in making friends with you. If only you weren’t such a piece of shit, we could have been good friends.

I don’t want you here on tumblr. They don’t want you here. No-one wants or needs a toxic parasite like you on this website.

Yours sincerely,

sui-senka, who just sucked Vergil’s dick yesterday, and liked it.

[hvmelander]

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Send me a “ 🔥 “ for an unpopular opinion.

i think in some instances whats more important in media and in rp is not the topic but how its portrayed. theres nothing wrong with having specific boundaries and have topics you dont want to engage with. generally ive found people are mostly good at just curating their own dash and leaving people alone unless theres a good reason to warn people about their conduct or what theyre writing. i have sometimes seen in the rpc some weird assumptions being made about people based on topics or characters they write but without any regard to how they approach it. obviously im aware of this with this blog in particular, but i think its a broad minor issue in a lot of fandoms ive been in over the course of 12 years on tumblr especially. there are definitely bigger problems in rpc and fandom but it does crop up from time to time. ive seen it cause unnecessary conflicts and in the worst instances harassment. its odd to me that writers can be paid to write these topics, corporations can profit off of their inclusion in source material, but someone writing online for free because they enjoying writing is a bridge too far. it feels a lot like people are not able to really make a dent in what big budget media is putting out so instead of trying to tackle the larger target they glom on to someone their own size so to speak. rambling but whatever hopefully i got the point across

related to 1, i think a lot of the discourse that happens in the rpc rarely ends up being productive because tumblr rp is probably one of the worst places to try and have big, important discourses that dont end up with people spiralling out into some nasty shit. lots of us are anonymized strangers, some people dont show their face, many use aliases, and theres nothing wrong with this but i think it can make these discussions really difficult. its a problem online generally bc of how much easier it is to do and say things you never would irl because the other person isnt really a person to you bc of that layer of separation. also its easier to mistrust people bc its so easy for people to lie online and i think everyone has heard of secondhand, witnessed, or experienced firsthand some internet bullshit if not outright horror stories. an environment like that is not a great one for productive conversations about like.... ethics and politics. its not unique to tumblr or to rpers, twitter is a hellscape for similar reasons.

[filmnoirsbian]

Hey sorry if this seems dumb but could you maybe explain your tags on that last ace post? I guess I'm just confused by the whole scene

My tags: #ppl on this site rly are out for blood when it comes to teenagers who arent doing anything to anyone #like i identified as ace before i realized i was a lesbian and i was still living in a rly unhealthy conservative environment #and online was the only queer space i could turn to for support or information #and the amount of unnecessary vitriol i found that was truly over Nothing was soooo disheartening and distancing from the community #and its just like. fine. if someone says or does smth homophobic obviously correct them or whatever but #the amount that a lot of ppl went out of their way to just harrass aspecs who were for the most part questioning teenagers causing no harm #between like 2014 and 2017 #was absurd! #moving out and finding physical queer spaces and surrounding myself with queer people ended up chilling me out and grounding me in a way #online spaces never could #which leads me to believe a lot of the ppl aggressively partaking in this discourse get their queer presence primarily from online #which tbh is kinda dangerous bc it can disconnect u from the reality of what the lgbta community stands for and is like #like if all ur examples of queer spaces are anonymous or simulations then that doesnt rly give u a solid view #anyways! im not involving myself in this conversation anymore bc im 100% comfortable in my identity and place in the community now #which is smth i think the majority of these discoursers lack #but i still have some general thots on the why and how of the argumentBasically after witnessing the rise of this discourse and subsequent semi dissolving of it (its still like, around, but nowhere near as prevalent as it was 2 or 3 years ago), ive come to the conclusion that most of the diehard debaters involved dont have much of a physical, offline queer environment. While i love a lot of things about the lgbta communitys online presence, online queer spaces can be wildly different from physical queer spaces, particularly when it comes to things like infighting. Anything based on an anonymous platform will never give you the open faced support and guidance that actual people you can interact with face to face will. This pervasive idea of seeking validation from some strangers on the internet seems innocuous and well meaning but can be unhealthy and reckless. People shouldn't be losing their minds over a post of random pokemon doodles, just because their specific pride flag isn't there. Or because a flag that they think shouldn't be included, is. I recognize that sometimes due to extenuating circumstances, some people can only be out and open on social media. Ive been there. But rather than basing all of your queer theory and ideas and views about the lgbta community on fickle online interactions, you should keep striving to first and foremost find acceptance and validation within yourselves, and then from the peers and loved ones around you. Faceless people on the internet, as much as we can enjoy interacting with them, do not substitute as a real support system. This is not to say that friendships and relationships started online aren't just as real or important as ones started face to face, but ONLY depending on internet peers can be extremely isolating. Also, online queer spaces require a completely different type of socialization than physical ones, particularly on social media sites like tumblr. People here are more pointlessly aggressive about nonissues than i have ever seen in a gay club, or pride parade, or gsa meeting. Only being exposed to that kind of vitriolic bubble also isn't good. All of these elements combined is what leads us to things like the ace discourse, wherein for years many of the more popular lgbta bloggers on this site cared more about mocking and harrassing young straight aces, than supporting young lgbt aces who were feeling ostracized by our own community in the midst of all of it. And i cannot believe that those people would have let themselves become so consumed with anger towards this random group of (mostly) young, questioning teenagers looking for support, if they had felt fully comfortable and supported in their own identities and place in the community at large. The community does not have a limited number of seats. You don't have to fight for your place here. It's ok to feel unsure of yourself, but remember that others are feeling that too. We all have. None of this is meant to erase the ace bloggers who have said dumb or offensive things. By all means, correct them, and if they refuse to apologize and show growth, divorce them. Like we divorce racist gays, transphobic gays, etc. There is always room for education and betterment. Hope this sums it all up understandably!