can't sleep (despite new meds + melatonin, boo), so I'm thinking about random shit. like: it's insane to me that I'm totally fine living on the ground floor now. it used to really freak me out. I hated being downstairs when we lived in a house. I always felt watched when I had my room on the ground floor. and every time I visited my dad at his ground floor apartment - where I was on my own except for maybe an hour a day - I had what I now know were panic attacks several times a day. so like, that's pretty crazy.
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i realised now that something i thought might be sociopathy was actually just dissociation. bc the ppl who did this in my life were not consistently unempathetic and uncaring towards others, it seemed to come and go, even if at times theyve been unempathetic and uncaring for months without a moment of caring, its that whole dissociative state thing. they do have the ability to care and feel deeply and be empathetic, in their true self, but they clock out and stop feeling and dissociate, bc theyre too scared or too overwhelmed and stressed out to handle bad feelings in a healthy way (and havent learnt coping methods to work on that). so they start acting what i felt was sociopathic with no empathy and care, due to the longterm dissociative state that is a reaction to avoiding handling bad feelings.
these specific ppl in my irl also tried to manipulate and twist situations and words to protect themselves, to paint other ppl as the bad guy even when things were 100% their own fault, just to avoid facing the feeling of having done something wrong or having held a wrong opinion, or facing guilt or shame or empathy ("i hurt someone, so now they feel hurt, and i dont want to empathise with that because it would be painful")
but they werent always like that. they are only like that when they are in a bad place aka when they are running away from reality and dissociating. when they reject facing bad feelings and thinking of others and empathy and consequences. when theyre grounded, not dissociated, theyre actually sweet and caring. so i think its rly not about the lack of empathy and consequence-thinking but the main issue just being the dissociation (and adhd fixations which also become a form of dissociation from reality - unable to think clearly or see the bigger picture, including other ppls feelings, when fixated on something and unable to snap out of it - tho this too has coping methods to learn to be able to handle it better, just like other dissociation does).
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i dont know if its just my dash and just me but i swear im always getting a ton of posts about how like roleplay and making stories with your friends are the most fulfilling thing for your soul, and im really glad youre having fun. but god i really dont get it. if people touch my toys i want to kill them get your own toys???? and it always surprises me not everyone feels this way
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im kinda jealous of how involved american colleges are. like your professors actually take a personal interest in you? my tutors all barely remember peoples names and most of them don’t even try. you have mandatory classes? i went to 1 class out of 13 for one of my units this semester because i couldn’t make myself go. you are failing or need extra credits? the professor can choose to give you some. maybe it’s just my uni but they do NOT give extra credit no matter what. we don’t even get supplementary assessments so if you do badly you’re just fucked. extensions go through the uni itself and not the teaching staff. you have multiple classes per subject a week? ok maybe not all colleges but i feel like if i had more than one to go to i would show up more and would also get to actually know the people in my degree. i am four years into this and i have like. 2 friends who study law and we aren’t even in the same stage of the degree. one of my old unit coordinators was american and she had such a culture shock coming to my uni because of how detached it is. she tried to structure the unit in a way that encouraged students to actually show up to class and get to know people in the classes and she had to change it because it went against uni policy.
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Oh I just remembered that very early during the pandemic or a little before idk I had a dream on which I was living on a beach town and working as a teacher and I looked very different (long dark hair, prettier, just more mature, normie & put together in general ?) and when I woke up was like haha that's never going to happen, I could never work at a school or get out of the gastronomic system, I'm doing this for life + moving out is impossible anyway with my salary. And now... 5 years later (that felt like much less??) I'm doing (nearly) all that :|
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