#in case y’all didn’t know.

[transmascissues]

hey i know your post about your mom was mostly just a personal vent, but i have to say, do you realize that also happens with trans girls and their fathers? literally happened to one of my friends. i’m not trying to downplay your experience or something but i found it strange that you seem to think this is something that only affects transmascs

i have one question for you: so fucking what?

i don’t doubt that trans girls have experienced similar things and yeah, that’s bad too, but what the fuck does that have to do with me and the specific things i’m facing as a result of being a trans man? i never said “look at this thing that happens to ONLY trans men and NO ONE ELSE,” i just said “hey, isn’t this thing that happens to a lot of trans men, including myself, fucked up?”

i would also like to point out that what you’re talking about is in fact a different (albeit similar) thing. the way cis people treat trans people can differ dramatically based on the cis person’s gender because their commitment to gender roles is, like, a major part of problem. the specific way a cis mother reacts to her trans son’s transition is often going to be very distinct, while a cis father will likely respond to his trans daughter in a different but equally distinct way.

what i’m talking about is a very specific kind of ownership and control and self-victimization and total lack of boundaries masquerading as love and care and maternal concern that cis women (i would argue white cis women in particular) project onto their transmasc kids when we do literally anything to our bodies. i’m talking about a phenomenon which is closely related to the way moms often pass eating disorders onto their daughters (or children they view as daughters) because they see a body that looks something like theirs and project all of their insecurities and ideals onto it. i’m talking about a form of parental transphobia and projection that’s specific to the dynamic of a cis mother and her child who was “supposed to” be her daughter.

if you’ve never felt that, you’re not even remotely qualified to tell me shit about how i should be talking about that experience, and if you couldn’t recognize that experience when you read my post, i’m guessing you probably haven’t experienced it because the replies to that post made it very clear to me that anyone who has experienced it firsthand immediately knew exactly what i meant.

like, yeah, cis dads also project onto their trans daughters, but are they likely to have a reaction like running away with actual tears streaming down their face? do you expect them to passive aggressively make comments about how sad their kid’s transition makes them, how it’s such a difficult emotional time, how it’s so tragic because their kid’s body was so beautiful before? do you think their go-to transphobic reaction will be weaponizing their emotions? i’m sure there are some dads out there who are like that, but i think we can agree they’re in the minority because that’s not how cis men are taught to react and parents like this tend to be pretty damn committed to following the gender roles they were taught.

and even if i’m wrong and our experiences are exactly the same, let me reiterate that i never said this was an experience exclusive to trans men. all i said is that it happens to us. that’s just a statement of objective fact.

this started in my life when i got my hair cut short for the first time almost a decade ago and it has not stopped since. i’ve watched my mom cry over me changing my name and respond to being asked if my happiness matters more to her than my name by saying “i care about both”, i’ve watched her melt down in a mall over me getting a suit for prom and give me the silent treatment for days after, i’ve heard her plead with me to stop t because it “looks unnatural” and she’s just so “concerned for my health”, i’ve watched her stare at me post-op and say “my poor baby” over and over like she’s looking at my corpse in a casket. i’ve watched her turn herself into the victim of every single aspect of my transition. i’ve had to live with this for 9 years and spent the early years of the pandemic literally locked in a house with it. this has been my entire adolescent and adult life, and the question of if i’ll have to cut her off someday (and maybe never see my cat or my little cousins who i love more than anything in the world ever again as a result) haunts me every single day.

who the fuck are you to tell me how to talk about that?

[kyluxtrashpit]

Been hearing from multiple people I know and trust in the fandom that apparently people have been botting that hottest man poll that everyone’s been yelling about? And that kylux fandom specifically is the one guilty of it

And honestly I’m extremely disappointed in anyone who thinks that’s appropriate. These are supposed to be fun and you’ve gone and ruined it for everyone participating AND made all of us look like assholes in the process for being unable to be normal about a harmless, just-for-fun poll

Hope you’re proud of yourselves. Genuinely pathetic behaviour. I expected better from the fandom I’ve called home for nearly 10 fucking years

[ya-what--ya-erster]

I REGRET NOTHING

Ref image under the cut!! :)

[blackhillverse]

it’s the fact i’ve barely seen any echo advertisements in my country for me and i know EXACTLY why.

[starbuck]

Obligatory: i am still very delicate. be gentle with me.

[iamslowlyloosingmysanity]

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[theacepie-rate]

Alexa play Crowd of Thousands

Fugio April 2023 - Day 23 | Theatre

[glowsticcc]

my beloved my everything

[danger-tits-lute]

Are you sure your choices are the right ones?

Send anonymous voices to my muse || Accepting

“Father said this is my role in every cycle. It is a constant. No matter what way it happens, I will always make this choice.”

The guilt made her feel sick to say it, even if she knew it was true.

“I still think it’s the right choice.”

This needed to happen. It needs to happen in every timeline. Father didn’t just give her a gift to save her love, he gave her the knowledge of why it was necessary.

A lot was said on that rooftop that was only for her ears. As much as it hurt her to watch Adam crumble… sometimes things need to be destroyed in order to be rebuilt.

She did hope this was the last time to try and rebuild it the right way though. The very last time she would have to make that choice.

[easypeasylindyvesey]

in case he is not aware,

someone let jimmy (telepathically) know that he can get a free donut today at dunkin with any drink purchase!

anyway, that leads me into saying happy national donut day!🍩

[rabbits-of-negative-euphoria]

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[andmuzzlethat]

wow, my future girlfriend really is the best. mind bogglingly wonderful, really. it's jarring.

coming from the most talented blog i know saying this to me??? i’m gonna go cry in the club bathroom y’all

[wishmcker]

me, knowing full well that one of my most hated tropes is when the main character loses their powers at the end:

sees it in one of the popular fandoms:

LIKE ARE YOU JOKING

[starlooove]

Fuck WFA and all but those panels with Lucius would’ve been a GREAT moment to mention Orpheus 💔

[zer0cyanz]

Happy birthday Edie Finch!! 🥳

08/04/1917

Had you not died in 2010 you would’ve been 107. Years. Old… still, you have the achievement of being the oldest Finch (probably ever for all we know)

[orb-the-watchman]

Everytime I see brichbam I think of wambus getting protective of triffy and showing off she is his. Like hissing at brichbam as brichbam teases him

I pictured Brichbam not really existing alongside Wambus and vice versa. Mostly because I do want Triffany and Brich to be together but I don’t want it to be like Triffany leaving Wambus or Like Triffany was cheating on him if he is also there, so he just like doesn’t exist now hes in the ranch dimension

But I do like the idea of this dynamic it is funny

The barracuda thing is staying now too