#in general no though i have a hard time saying that a hypothetical cishet drag queen who is treated as queer by everyone around them- | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

ale-arro · 9 months

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Idk…. I don’t want to be antagonistic but I really truly hate the “a stands for ally” argument. Like, as an aroace person I will always be separated from the cishet mould of society, but allies ARE cishet…. Why should they be apart of the community when they share none of the experiences of being ostracised, othered and shamed?? I don’t believe that being queer should be measured by sufferance, but by divergence from the cishet mould and allies… Just arent. The “a” should not stand for ally bc they’re intrinsically not part of the community. If they were, they wouldn’t be “allies” lmao. Just my point of view id like to hear your thoughts!!!

my thoughts are mostly that nobody is actually saying this. i think maybe the only time i've seen someone use the A to represent ally in the past several years is in like. target pride merch. and i can't bring myself to give a shit

but also like, i don't know! i'm tired all of the time! i don't think dedicating energy to being like this ISN'T for allies actually does anything at all to uplift aspec/agender/etc people or anyone else

#like do i Think that allies are part of the community?#in general no though i have a hard time saying that a hypothetical cishet drag queen who is treated as queer by everyone around them-#is really less divergent than if they were actually gay #but given that that's a very small number of people i'll go with no #i just don't think it Matters enough

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