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Just a reminder, the times that might have “broken you”, usually turn into the greatest transformations. Believe in that 🤍🖤🤍 #personaldevelopment #selfdevelopment #selfawareness #life #enjoythejourney #expatlife #bestlife #lovemylife #loveyourlife #biggerpicture #mindsetreset #mindsetmatters #youcanchangeyourlife #sickofthisshit #meaningfulrelationships #feelempowered #liveyourlife #excitedaboutlife #expatmom #internationallifecoach #lifecoach #itravel #travelingfamily #worldwide #meaningfulwork #careerchange #happieryou #meaningfulrelationships #loveyourmarriage #loveyourpartner #relationshipcoach (at Le Chinaillon, Rhone-Alpes, France) https://www.instagram.com/p/CpyjSF3OS2X/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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“If you ask people in a toxic relationship, “Why do you love this person?" And the answer is… “I don’t know… I can’t describe it. It’s just like… magical. I can’t put it into words. We just have this connection. They just, feel me… you know?” They can’t articulate it. But when you ask a person in a healthy relationship, “Why do you love this person?”, the answer is very clear. “Because I respect them, and they respect me. We share the same values. We have incredible times together. I feel safe with this person.” They give you concrete evidence. But when someone's “like… magical”, and you can’t describe it, it’s because it’s a trauma bonded connection. A confusing space. This ain’t magical. It’s dangerous to go exploring, to stick around and find out . And it’s a wake up call. And opportunity to choose differently. How do you know? Go with the energy. Energy doesn’t lie. Your gut knows. Does this relationship help you grow? Does it fill you up? Does it feel nurturing? Do you feel safe? Genuinely loved? Or does it shrink you? Cause you to to be unstable, unsafe…? You don’t need words. You feel threatened, you don’t feel like yourself, you feel yourself reaching for old toxic behaviors…” ~ I wish I could remember who said this (it wasn’t me) Energy doesn’t lie. The energy says it all. (Run) #relationship101 #toxiclove #toxicrelationship #unhealthyrelationships #unhealthyrelationship #relationshipcoach #breakupcoach #cantdescribeit #dating101 #datingadvice #selflove #selfprotection #selfawareness #thingstoknow #thingstoknowinadvance #internationallifecoach #healthylove #healthyrelationships #relationshipgoals https://www.instagram.com/p/CkQkCdmunCW/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Every. Day. It’s science. Our bodies were designed to move and when you don’t, you move further and further away from functioning properly. (Multiple reasons why’s it’s good for mental health - of course the dopamine/endorphine rush (#runnershigh) but exercise improves blood flow to the brain - specifically areas that aren’t getting enough of what they need to function properly (for example if you drink, if you have had head injuries, etc)) #learntoloveit One solution that is in your control :) #exercise #workout #suckitupbuttercup #makeithappen #getusedtoit #health #mentalwellness #internationallifecoach #assimpleasthat #movemore #exerciseforlife #exerciseislife Direct quote from John Delony 👌🏻 💯 #anxietyhack #mentalwellbeing #happieryou #feelbetter #howtofeelbetter #stepone #gettingyourshittogether #factsoflife #mentalhealth #fitness #lifecoach #mindsetcoach #thingsthathelp #move #movement https://www.instagram.com/p/CnM7RV3oA02/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Is trying to live a “perfect life” literally the source of all your pain…? Let me guess…that “perfect life” is filled with a lot of “should’s”… Doing things untraditionally is often the source of many peoples’ fulfillment… that means getting to the root of the “should’s”… Because until you understand the root of the “should’s”, they’ll run your life no matter what you do. #guilt #shoulds #happylife #fulfillment #afulfilledlife #fulfilling #perfectlife #changeyourperspective #changeyourperspectivechangeyourlife #newlensnewlife #lensonlife #internationallifecoach #meaningfulwork #meaningfulrelationships #meaningfullife #happieryou #happier #personaldevelopment #selfdevelopment #ilovemyjob #loveyourlife #changeyourlife #expatlife #untraditional #untraditionallife (at Hove Seafront) https://www.instagram.com/p/CpPM5YnIi36/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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If you define yourself by anything outside of you… who are you when it’s taken away? That’s what often leaves people feeling broken and lost… This is easy to see in ROLES we play: Someone lose a job where their title was what mattered to them… People put all their worth in being a mom but are lost when their kids go away to school… It happens on break ups all the time (and understandably so…) Athletes? Experience this all the time when transitioning out of sport. It’s also easy to see in things we HAVE: “I’m the girl/guy with the abs…” (reminder, bodies change with age) “I’m the one who always has great hair…” (What happens when we start to lose our hair?) If you live with this quote in mind, it will remind you to always keep exploring who you are, what your core values are, and allow you to still feel whole when things you value (things *outside of you* that you value) start to change… because inevitably, they will change. (This doesn’t mean we shouldn’t value things outside of us… it means we should realize that we are still whole when things outside of us change. We should expect it to happen…but how do we prepare ourselves? Living by *these 2 assessments + 10 disciplines to help see your world in an entirely different way 🤍🖤 DM for more info.) #quotestoliveby #dailyquote #values #corevalues #whoareyou #whatdefinesyou #journeyoflife #internationallifecoach #breakuprecovery #breakupsarehard #breakingup #meaningfulrelationships #meaningfulwork #meaningfullife #stressless #lessstress #loweryourstress #stressmanagement #perspective #lifeperspective #changeyourperspective #howtochangeyourlife #relationshipcoach #lifelessons https://www.instagram.com/p/Coy3Fu7Ixfm/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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After Africa...

From the backseat of the car…

“Mom, after Africa, can we go to China?”

Oh, good, he knows we won’t be living here forever…but China??

“Oh…what’s in China, babe?”

“Panda’s…and maybe we can rent a really big hut to live in.”

Rent…ha! When we were leaving  Bermuda, Rome learned the difference between owning a house, and renting – “We’ve been borrowing our house from Jennie, the really nice lady who let us pay her to live here. Because houses are expensive, and…” you know the rest. But I liked that he understood the concept of renting a house versus owning one. (Other than one house in my childhood, we always rented growing up. Owning a house was for “rich people”.)

But really this conversation was about “When we leave Africa”. (Yeah, yeah…we just got here! Ha!) But more so, the impermanency of where we are living, and how Rome looked at this as a normal way of living. (Because it IS a normal way of living!). But it isn’t for a lot of other people, so I get the question a LOT – Aren’t you worried about stability? “You have no stability in your life…” “I really think kids need stability” in a nagging voice just because… “Moving isn’t good for kids…” -  a lot of opinions that I’m going to pretend come from curiosity rather than judgement, as they are often from people who haven’t moved (internationally) a lot themselves – including myself. Yes, I judge myself – but I’ll tell you why.

We only know what we experience. I was born and raised in a small town in Southwestern Ontario and although we moved a lot through my childhood within that town, I didn’t leave that town until I was 19 for university. That’s what I knew – and I was lucky for many things! I was close with my cousins growing up. We were friends with our neighbors. I was a competitive figure skater, so for 6 years I had my skating friends, a consistent network of friends. And I’m very grateful for it. But if you could have given me the exciting life of travel Rome is living in, I would have taken it in a heartbeat! I dreamed of travel, never believing it was something I would be able to afford to do.

“No matter what you do, you’re going to screw up your kids.” – says a friend. And she’s right. What if I DO give him all this, and he comes back one day and says, “Well…I wish I had THAT (what you had).”  It very well can happen. Only time will tell.

So that’s a little background on WHY I’m so in tune with what stability looks like for Rome.

But what is the opposite of stability? One might think instability – duh…but could it be…adaptability? (A skill many adults don’t even have…)

What does stability mean to you? Does it mean always having the SAME? The same house, the same school, the same routine, the SAME friends, the same traditions…where does that leave space for exercising out adaptability muscle? Where does it leave space for learning and growth? (Asked with curiosity, not judgement ;) )

I think the greatest gift he can get from this (other than a global perspective of the world and a sh*t ton of fun with his mom and blended family), is actually, adaptability.

A podcast once told me that me that TRUE security only comes from within. So does STABILITY. For example, if you feel secure because of your job (working for someone else) – what if someone takes your job away? They take away your security? How is that secure? So your true security comes from your skills. Skills you can take with you anywhere. True security can’t be taken away from you.

Similarly, if you feel stable only because everything is the same and nothing is changing, is that really stability at all? If you are confident that everywhere you go, you can handle yourself, make friends, have conversations with new faces, feel comfortable in any type of culture (when no one speaks your language), but you know you’re good – isn’t that true stability. Stability that comes from within and goes with you no matter where you are because you create it yourself.

For kids, I say that I’M his stability. The people he is with are his stability. His family’s presence whether physically or on FaceTime is his stability. Knowing he can go retreat to his same bedroom every night for 18 years (although, having a safe space to be private is important – and he has that.), is not.

Moving schools, neighbourhoods and friends groups sounds “stressful” to people that haven’t tended to do that (or didn’t have good experiences doing it, to be fair). But it’s exciting to others…especially you grow up with it as your normal.

With our ability to communicate with ANYONE we love these days , why does being surrounded by new faces have to make us stressed? There is a comfort in seeing the same people all the time, but it doesn’t have to mean new situations are uncomfortable. They are only uncomfortable until they’re not anymore…

Life is just one big journey of expanding your radius of what’s comfortable. That’s stability.

Friends? When I moved to Bermuda, I only had friends in Canada. After leaving Bermuda, I still have my best friends from Canada, but amazing friends in Bermuda, England, the US, France, South Africa, Zimbabwe… Rome’s got a way earlier head start on me for that!

Routine? If stability comes from routine, going to school is a routine. Wherever we are, he can go to school every day...Coming home every afternoon to Mom, that’s stability. That's what he can count on, no matter where we are.

Another thing that might help (I think ?), is putting him into sports that are international. Football, swimming, etc, sports and activities that you can take anywhere else in the world with you, that way there will always be a little community you can join to meet new people and have familiarity with your sport/activity.

To be fair - this type of living might be different if Rome had a different personality. But hey, we're open to whatever comes our way. We’re going with the flow. Should it really not be working for any of us, we can ADAPT. Or as they say in Zimbabwe, “We’ll make a plan.”

Because I am human, sometimes I’m defensive to peoples questioning of my style of living, even though I wouldn’t choose otherwise. Holding on to my core values always helps shake that initial defensiveness off. Also, the reminder that you don’ know what you don’t know, and most people don’t know what expat life is like. Most people are scared of it. Because...it isn’t “stable”...

Our plan is to start in Zim for about 3 years…if you were wondering…no further questions at this time. Thanks! (HA!)

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“Every opportunity gives us the chance to decide how we want to show up, and choose whether we want to show up differently.” Every. Moment. Not every first on Jan, or the first of next month. Not on Monday. Not tomorrow. Every moment. Literally the next second after the one that just finished. And 5 minutes from now… you can choose differently then, too. You want a different result? You want to show up differently? CHOOSE DIFFERENTLY. One tiny decision at a time. One action at a time. One thought at a time. ONE reaction at a time… all those little “ones” add up. Want the same as what you’ve always gotten (and that’s perfectly amazing if it’s what you WANT)… keep doing the same as you’ve always done. It’s that simple. (Not easy… but simple). What would be different if you put this into action? What’s ONE tiny thing you would do differently…? #change #advocateforchange #changeyourlife #youcanchangeyourlife #internationallifecoach #iwanttochangemylife #choices #decisionmaking #ifyouwanttochangeyourlife #changeyourthoughts #thoughtwork #innerwork #innerworld #insidejob #happylife #fulfillment #belize #bananabankbelize #horseback #barrelracing #expatlife #expatfamily #nomadiclifestyle #nomadlife #changeyourjob #changeyourrelationship #goforit #goforwhatyouwant #getunstuck (at Banana Bank, Cayo, Belize) https://www.instagram.com/p/CnIPvsHIhd0/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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If you find yourself constantly searching for happiness… Consider this: What if, rather than focusing on “finding” the things that make you happy, you focus on getting rid of the things that make you UNhappy? By either removing them, changing them, or modifying the impact they have on you to begin with (probably the fastest way to start!) Some of my clients say “I’m not really sure what makes me happy”… but do you know what makes you UNhappy? Maybe start there… What if many of the things that make you happy are all around you, you just can’t see them because they’re surrounded by a bit of a fog…? #unhappy #happiness #internationallifecoach #findinghappiness #internalpeace #selfdevelopment #lookingforhappiness #innerwork #insideworld #meaningfulwork #meaningfulrelationships #loveyourlife #learntoloveyourlife #cahalpech #cahalpechbelize #secrettohappiness #secretstohappiness #mindsetwork #mindsetcoach #practicewhatyoupreach (at Cahal Pech Maya's Ruins) https://www.instagram.com/p/CnB3u69IN4-/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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I caught Rome going up a ski hill today, (yes, UP 😂) talking to himself out loud… This is after him asking about why we go fast down hills. “Because of gravity”… followed by me trying to explain gravity to a 4 year old. Clearly, he didn’t understand, when he continued to try to go UP “snow ramps” without any momentum (learning the hard way)… but saying to himself out loud, “Come oooooon, up and up and up, come ooooon…” - somehow, he still accomplished the mission. #PUREGRIT Create your own little cheerleader. If you can teach your kiddos to cheer themSELVES on, speak to themSELVES kindly, they won’t need to source it outside of themselves…(I mean sure, it would help, but why not help create a limitless internal source.) It reminded me of the book my mom engrained in our brains, “The Little Engine that Could”… Yes, Mom, I still remember that book and it’s more special now than ever. #positiveselftalk #selftalkisahabit #innerdialogue #selflove #selfrespect #selfcompassion #personalgrowth #itstartshere #thelittleenginethatcould #ithinkican #ithinkicanithinkican #innerwork #innervoice #gremlinvoice #knowyourdragons #negativeselftalk #internationallifecoach #happinesscoach #lifecoach #lifecoachingworks #childhood #childhoodmemories #childhoodbooks #parenting #raisingahuman #parenting101 #parentingishard #badmom https://www.instagram.com/p/Cm7Wgg5IPET/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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I can’t do anything right. I’m so stupid/ugly/useless. I suck. No one likes me… If it would break your heart to hear them speak to themselves like this, why is it ok for you to speak like this to yourself? You are their example. Hurt people hurt people… but healed people heal people. What cycle do you want to pass down? Be the example. It starts with you. Show them. #rolemodels #parenting #parentingishard #selflove #selftalk #selfrespect #selfcompassion #parenting101 #blendedfamily #blendedfamilylove #internationallifecoach #healedpeoplehealpeople #internaldialogue #innerwork #innerworld #hurtpeoplehurtpeople #positiveselftalk #selfdevelopment #lifelessons #quotestoliveby #quotestoinspire #loveyourself #loveyou https://www.instagram.com/p/Cm7Uch4IDHz/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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“I just feel so lost…” “And what’s so wrong about being lost…?” - The Swearing Jar There is nothing wrong with being lost…unless you judge it as being “bad”. Sure it might feel uncomfortable… but it could also be the perfect place to be if you’re looking to be/go somewhere else. “Lost” might just be the place that’s “on the way” to where you are going… what’s so wrong with that? We aren’t our circumstances. We feel the result of our own judgement of our circumstance. #MindsetIsEverything Could it change your life to adjust yours…? #changeyourmindset #attitudeadjustment #mindsetadjustment #adjustyourmindset #internationallifecoach #mountainpineridge #belize #unbelizeable #feelinglost #ifeellost #lost #judgement #selfjudgement #belizejungle #thereisnothingwrongwithbeinglost #thereisnothingwrongwithyou #thehumanexperience #internationallifecoach #mindsetcoach #happierlife #happieryou #fulfilled #fulfillment #findinghappiness #searchforhappiness #mentalwellness #thoughtwork #judgingourthoughts #innerwork (at Big Rock Falls, Belize) https://www.instagram.com/p/CmoqUiMu51P/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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When travel can actually make you more depressed… “Don’t you wish you didn’t know…” A friend and I were walking in London, England. We had been roommates in Toronto, both had left Canada, done some traveling, become expats… That’s all she said, but I knew exactly what she meant. “Don’t you wish you didn’t know that “having” all this, wasn’t going to be the thing that makes you happy. You go “there”. You see “it”. But it doesn’t change what’s going on INSIDE. And because it doesn’t cure what’s actually going on inside you, you actually feel a bit worse. Who you are inside, is the person you bring along as your travel companion. They come every where with you. No matter where you go, to all these beautiful places, you can’t escape yourself. I knew what she meant because I live in Bermuda where many people can afford to “have” literally anything they want, yet there was still so much unhappiness and complaining - including from myself! Hence, why I fully understood… Why wouldn’t you want to “know” this? 1. Because it was still something to strive for. It’s a DREAM. Hope for something better. It’s what helps guide you towards what you want, but the “secret” to happiness is embracing what you come across along the way. 2. It can depressing at first, when you realize accomplishing your dreams isn’t what you thought it was going to be. The silver lining, is THAT’s the only way you realize YOU are the one who creates the happiness from within. It’s still in your hands… you just have to look in the right places. #travel #internationallifecoach #depression #situationaldepression #insidejob #itsaninsidejob #itstartswithyou #selfawareness #selfawarenessjourney #liveyourbestlife #journeytoyourbestself #happieryou #happinessjourney #journeytohappiness #meaningfullife #createyourlife #mentalwellness #mindsetcoach #mindsetofsteel #mindsetiseverything #changeyourlens #changeyourlenschangeyourlife #yourlensisblurry #selfdiscovery https://www.instagram.com/p/CmHQssKOPy2/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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This is an example of how we rob ourselves of the happiness the world is trying to give us. The happiness we are craving. It’s there, and we are STILL choosing something else. This is WHY self awareness is incredibly important. For example 1: when I am not with my son, Rome, I can feel a bit guilty and I focus on the “missing” of him which makes me a bit sad… but when I’m not with him, I’m spending incredibly valuable time with Stephen. The opposite: when I’m with Rome, I crave quality time with Stephen. Queue self awareness: “If I don’t get a grip on this and consciously choose the love and happiness in that moment, I’ll default to “missing”, creating misery, and literally miss out on the happiness I’m simultaneously creating 🤯 💥 This is an example I’m sure a lot of parents can relate to but there are many many more (ie: simply wishing the greatness in front of you was something other than what it is….) Self Awareness, y’all… OK, so then what do I do to change that…? How do I “fix” that? Stay tuned for tomorrow’s post 😂 (I so this ALL the time… and I’m sick of it. I’ve had enough. No more.) #selfawareness #selfawarenessjourney #personaldevelopment #selfdevelopment #lifecoaching #happieryou #bemorepresent #learntobepresent #internationallifecoach #howtobehappy #creatinghappiness #insidejob #innerworld #thoughtwork #youcontrolyourthoughts #choosehappiness #chooselove #beautifullife #liveinthemoment #presenceisapractice #presenceispower #presenceiseverything #mindsetmatters #meaningfullife #meaningfulrelationships #onelifetolive #onelife https://www.instagram.com/p/Cl7TMFDOUFJ/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Hindsight really is “the best”, isn’t it 🙄 (seriously, is there really no other way!?) LOOKING BACK, (and only looking back), my mental health struggles were from not living in alignment with my values, and/or not honoring (or having!!!!!!) boundaries. Hm. No wonder spending so much time on personal development and awareness is the door to so much possibility and opportunity, happiness and contentment in our lives. Hang in there. If you are struggling, strongly consider looking into those two, and you may not be so confused and conflicted anymore… #ididthis #thiswasme #personalexperience OFTEN, we all have access to mental wellness… #mentalhealth #mentalwellness #lifecoachingworks #lifecoach #internationallifecoach #mindsetwork #mindsetiseverything #youvegotthis #selfreflect #lookwithin #boundaries #honoryourboundaries #mentalwellbeing #healthyboundaries #selfreflection #proactivementalhealth #selfconfidence https://www.instagram.com/p/Cl481GULjb5/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=