My physical appearance is basically "girl with a beard and a boyish figure" and always has been (minus the beard). When I was a baby, people would apparently compliment my mom about her beautiful baby girl no matter what I was wearing. For years, people would constantly think my younger sister and I were twins. I was somewhat consistently referred to as a twink in high school.
If I remember to actually shave, I feel like I might be just androgynous enough for people to be unsure of my gender because my facial structure is very round and soft. The lower half of my body has a fairly feminine shape in my opinion (with one glaring exception), and I like my reflection from behind a lot.
For a long while, I dismissed the possibility of being trans because I didn't have that much dysphoria. There were just a few things that really bothered me, like my thick eyebrows, facial hair, belly button hair, etc. Now I'm pretty sure that the reason is that I've never been very masculine, so there wasn't as much to dislike as there is for others.
Taking an ace out on a date and still treating them all the ways someone would in that setting but there’s no expectations afterwards. Holding the door open for them. Telling them how lovely they look that evening. Using your hands to help guide them through the crowd. Going to a second spot afterwards just to keep being able to laugh and talk to them. Those types of experiences should still be able to happen even when it’s platonic.
There’s not enough love for demisexuals out there. Your sexual orientation is so valid. You’re not withholding, or picky - your connection to your partner is most important above all else. It’s all about trust. Never let someone tell you otherwise.