i keep seeing “me and my husband” by mitski in gallavich playlists and like… no. WRONG. INCORRECT. *loud incorrect buzzer*
are ian and mickey husbands?? YES. are they happy? YES. and that is precisely why they are not “me and my husband”.
“me and my husband” is so grossly misinterpreted and it kills me… it is not about a healthy relationship; the song isn’t about a stable happy marriage like…
you know who fits “me and my husband”? lip and mandy.
the song is about a houswife who is dependent on her spouse- who places her worth on her husband. it’s about unhealthy attachment, being so attached and dependent that you really aren’t your own person without your spouse, and not in a good way. not like you fit together like puzzle pieces, like you are really not a person without them.
season 3 mandy IS that song. people joke about how mandy’s like a housewife, and like, yeah she kinda is. being without lip, or even the thought of being without him, destroys her. and it ends up literally destroying karen because of what it drove (no pun intended) mandy to do. “and i am the idiot with a painted face, in the corner, taking up space” is such a mandy line, especially when lip screams at her to go home to her own fucking house. she thrives when lip loves her, but when he doesn’t, she goes crazy. she craves it- she’s addicted to it because she’s never been loved and the only way she knows how to get love is through her sexuality, so she will literally do anything in her power to get him to love her even if it means ruining herself.
anyways, ian and mickey may be attached, but they aren’t attached like that. they have been unhealthy and toxic, but not like that. ian and mickey are much more like “i’m your man” by mitski.
Hilarious to me that from Debbie and Carl's point of view Ian was dating Mandy and got her pregnant and had a fundraiser to get her an abortion and then one day she comes home with Lip and she's kind of his girlfriend now instead and Ian's not jealous or anything but is pissed at Lip for not treating her well? The alleged love quadrilateral that is Lip, Ian, Mandy, and Mickey must be so wild from the outside.
one of my main problems with lip (regarding mandy) is that he never thought highly of her. like, in 1x03 he shits on her, and it’s understandable, but still, he’s slut-shaming her. and then, in season 3, he never defends her to fiona- and if he ever does, it wasn’t memorable because it was probably like one sentence. she did everything for him and he, in her words, was “fucking blind”. he really didn’t give a shit about her, and everytime he did, it was short-lived. emma greenwell once said something (paraphrasing) about how mandy knows she’s not enough for lip, but she still tries. it’s fucking saddening because in honesty, she’s too good for him. she does everything, treats him well, and puts up with his shit. i wish she didn’t, i wish she wouldn’t let men walk all over her, but she does.
(ik what she did to him in 3x11- but i’m not talking about that part)