#look i can write an essay about giftgiving as a love language | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

bogkeep · 1 year

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thank you big joel and if books could kill podcast for digging into the five love languages. truly one of those concepts that are like Yeah Sounds About Right because of course people feel loved and love in different ways!!! but then it turns out it comes from a book written by a fundamentalist priest guy and it's like OK SO HE JUST MADE THOSE CATEGORIES UP HUH.

#look i can write an essay about giftgiving as a love language #but it essentially boils down to showing that you know and understand someone and thought about them #recieving a bad and thoughtless gift does not make you feel loved!#and sometimes not giving someone a gift because you know they'd rather not recieve one shows a lot of love!!#so when you take everything apart it's just. knowing what preferences someone has and respecting them and making an effort #the context and quality matters always!!!!!#is sending someone a meme a form of gift giving or spending quality time!!!!#what is making a mixtape!! asking if they remembered their meds!!!#what's taking your time to listen to them vent about a bad day!! what's remembering and taking note of small things about them!!!#what's asking if they want a piece of scrap for their scrapbook or if it's ok to throw away!!!#love is the mortifying ordeal of being known!!!!!!!

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