#loveyourmarriage

[drmarr]

“Are you happy?” *heart sinks* uhhh, why… are you NOT? - - - is what goes through my head 😅…. KIDDINGGGG (Well, maybe for a half second…) Turns out he was just checking in 😉. As we do… and as we try to do often. So we can keep it that way ☺️ #checkIn But in all seriousness, the best way to avoid the hard answers is to get used to asking the hard questions, early and often. #relationshipcheckin The last thing you want is asking that “Are you happy?” question down the road when it’s “too late” to fix…resentment has already snuck in and roots are starting to plant where you could have otherwise had the chance to course correct long ago. And the WORST thing you can do… THE WORST thing…is LIE. Telling them you are happy if you aren’t. They don’t deserve that. You don’t deserve it either. Tell the TRUTH. If your partner asks you how you are feeling - it’s on YOU to bring up your truth. If you lie to them to spare their feelings, what you are creating isn’t “real” - for either of you. Make checking in a healthy habit, something to look forward to even… Asking and asking often allows you to both clear misunderstandings and petty stuff that you don’t need to carry around with you. #heknowsiwontlie 😂 🤣 #communicate #checkin #getitoffyourcheast #coupleschallenge #relationshipgoals #areyouhappy #healthyrelationships #howtobuildhealthyrelationships #relationshipcoach #meaningfulrelationships #healthyhabits #expatfamily #happyrelationships #loveyourmarriage #loveyourrelationship #bevulnerable #ipeccoach #ipeccoaching #prepareenrich #premarriagechecklist #happieryou #internationallifecoach #keepinitreal #keepitreal #communicationiskey #communicationskills #youridealrelationship (at Ibiza, Spain) https://www.instagram.com/p/CiLjRaTjZ5g/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[drmarr]

Just a reminder, the times that might have “broken you”, usually turn into the greatest transformations. Believe in that 🤍🖤🤍 #personaldevelopment #selfdevelopment #selfawareness #life #enjoythejourney #expatlife #bestlife #lovemylife #loveyourlife #biggerpicture #mindsetreset #mindsetmatters #youcanchangeyourlife #sickofthisshit #meaningfulrelationships #feelempowered #liveyourlife #excitedaboutlife #expatmom #internationallifecoach #lifecoach #itravel #travelingfamily #worldwide #meaningfulwork #careerchange #happieryou #meaningfulrelationships #loveyourmarriage #loveyourpartner #relationshipcoach (at Le Chinaillon, Rhone-Alpes, France) https://www.instagram.com/p/CpyjSF3OS2X/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[drmarr]

“If it’s not broken, don’t fix it…” EXCEPT… Why on earth would we wait for our relationship to break if we could have avoided it from breaking in the first place? In your past experience, how has that worked out? Waiting until your relationship is “broken” to finally invest in putting back the pieces and reestablishing a strong connection? Did you ever get that same connection back? Did your relationship ever fully recover? Maybe you did ❤️ but treat your relationship like your health - would you really rather get properly ill if you knew you could have done something to proactively take care of yourself? (To be fair, our health care system is designed around this paradigm 🙄) Proactive > Reactive “It’s good enough” is a coping mechanism. You shouldn’t be scared of the truth of your relationship. If there is a place you have to avoid going to in order to keep the peace, you are tiptoeing around and hiding a part of you THAT MATTERS. It’s much easier to avoid dropping a vase than it is to glue the pieces back together. #happyvalentinesday #selflove #loveyourlove #relationshipcoach #beproactive #proactivenotreactive #relationshipbuilder #relationshipgoals #investinyourlove #investinyourrelationship #loveyourmarriage #marriagesupport #prepareenrich #ifitsnotbrokendontfixit #ifitsnotbrokedontfixit #copingmechanism #stuck #feelingstuck #loveyourrelationship #coupleswhothrive #relationshipadvice #relationshipadvice101 #relationshipadviceforwomen #relationshipadviceformen #staytogether #togetherforever #howtostaytogether #growtogether #growtogetherstaytogether #loveadvice https://www.instagram.com/p/CZ-lryqMktz/?utm_medium=tumblr

[drmarr]

Does the truth of your relationship scare you? All the “negative” feelings you have in your relationship are examples of needs not being met. So let’s address the truth here… People are afraid of the truth because yes, it can seem to unravel everything at first… however, what people forget to focus on, is that the truth creates a new, purer, more authentic foundation upon which we can create a much more fulfilling life. If I told you we could easily bring to the surface all the areas you might need to address in your relationship to be more fulfilled, would you be scared? Or intrigued? (I was excited 😆) You need to get connected to the truth. There is otherwise a huge space between what you say you need and what you accept. And there is pain in that space. Where there is pain, we can numb it. Which only makes us MORE DISCONNECTED from our partner. (The opposite of what we hope “avoiding it” does.) “So much of the pain we experience in life is the resistance to what is true.” Does the truth about your relationship scare you? Addressing the truth creates opportunities to get rid all the fronts you are putting up that are draining your energy. And if you are worried that addressing the truths in your relationship will initially lead to more conflict, try to keep in mind that on the other side of *well-managed* (key words here) conflict is always a deeper connection and understanding of ourselves and our partner. So I will ask again, does the truth of your relationship scare you? You can choose to continue to avoid these feelings, but look at what toll it is taking on you. 🎥: Real fear 😆 🦁 #authenticity #authenticallyyou #meaningfulrelationships #meaningfullife #youdeserveit #beyourself #relationshipgoals #relationshipquotes #workingitout #zimbabwe #safari #makingitwork #conflict #bettercommunication #strongerconnection #loveyourlove #ilovelove #loveyourmarriage #strongrelationships #gettingbacktogether #fulfilledlife #fulfilled #happyrelationship #toxicrelationship #successfulrelationships #connection #connected #feelconnected #prepareenrich #situationship (at Africa) https://www.instagram.com/p/CZsjI3ts0Jt/?utm_medium=tumblr

[drmarr]

Does the truth of your relationship scare you? All the “negative” feelings you have in your relationship are examples of needs not being met. So let’s address the truth here… People are afraid of the truth because yes, it can seem to unravel everything at first… however, what people forget to focus on, is that the truth creates a new, purer, more authentic foundation upon which we can create a much more fulfilling life. If I told you we could easily bring to the surface all the areas you might need to address in your relationship to be more fulfilled, would you be scared? Or intrigued? (I was excited 😆) You need to get connected to the truth. There is otherwise a huge space between what you say you need and what you accept. And there is pain in that space. Where there is pain, we can numb it. Which only makes us MORE DISCONNECTED from our partner. (The opposite of what we hope “avoiding it” does.) “So much of the pain we experience in life is the resistance to what is true.” Does the truth about your relationship scare you? Addressing the truth creates opportunities to get rid all the fronts you are putting up that are draining your energy. And if you are worried that addressing the truths in your relationship will initially lead to more conflict, try to keep in mind that on the other side of *well-managed* (key words here) conflict is always a deeper connection and understanding of ourselves and our partner. So I will ask again, does the truth of your relationship scare you? You can choose to continue to avoid these feelings, but look at what toll it is taking on you. 🎥: Real fear 😆 🦁 #authenticity #authenticallyyou #meaningfulrelationships #meaningfullife #youdeserveit #beyourself #relationshipgoals #relationshipquotes #workingitout #zimbabwe #safari #makingitwork #conflict #bettercommunication #strongerconnection #loveyourlove #ilovelove #loveyourmarriage #strongrelationships #gettingbacktogether #fulfilledlife #fulfilled #happyrelationship #toxicrelationship #successfulrelationships #connection #connected #feelconnected #prepareenrich #situationship (at Africa) https://www.instagram.com/p/CZshuSlMrO9/?utm_medium=tumblr

[drmarr]

Number one lesson, number one skill = this right here. ☝🏼 ☝🏼 ☝🏼 💯 👏🏼 👏🏼 👏🏼 It all starts here. Spend a lot of time getting to know yourself. I once read, “If you won’t invest in yourself, why would anyone else?” 🎯 What makes you tick? What triggers you? What do you want to carry forward with you? What do you want to leave behind? “There is no self-development without self-awareness. You can read as many books as you’d like, but if you are unable to read yourself, you’ll never learn a thing.” How well do you know yourself? #keystohappiness #keytosuccess #keytohappiness #innerpeace #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment #investinyourself #beyourownbestfriend #selfdevelopment #selfawareness #quotestoliveby #favoritequotes #momboss #bossmom #personaldevelopmentquotes #getreal #selfhelp #selfhelpquotes #makelifeeasier #Relationships #breakuprecovery #breakupcoach #gettingbacktogether #loveyourmarriage #lifetransitions #lifesecret #lifehack #lifehacks #internationallifecoach #findyourformula (at Aldershot, Burlington) https://www.instagram.com/p/CW_0QUXPLM5/?utm_medium=tumblr

[drmarr]

Number one lesson, number one skill = this right here. ☝🏼 ☝🏼 ☝🏼 💯 👏🏼 👏🏼 👏🏼 It all starts here. Spend a lot of time getting to know yourself. I once read, “If you won’t invest in yourself, why would anyone else?” 🎯 What makes you tick? What triggers you? What do you want to carry forward with you? What do you want to leave behind? “There is no self-development without self-awareness. You can read as many books as you’d like, but if you are unable to read yourself, you’ll never learn a thing.” How well do you know yourself? #keystohappiness #keytosuccess #keytohappiness #innerpeace #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment #investinyourself #beyourownbestfriend #selfdevelopment #selfawareness #quotestoliveby #favoritequotes #momboss #bossmom #personaldevelopmentquotes #getreal #selfhelp #selfhelpquotes #makelifeeasier #Relationships #breakuprecovery #breakupcoach #gettingbacktogether #loveyourmarriage #lifetransitions #lifesecret #lifehack #lifehacks #internationallifecoach #findyourformula (at Aldershot, Burlington) https://www.instagram.com/p/CW_0QUXPLM5/?utm_medium=tumblr

[drmarr]

Have you ever went through a HUGE transition in your life and on the other side of it thought, “Oh my god, I feel like a new person... I feel like - MYSELF.” Yeah... those are the moments to live for. And I bet the changes you had to work through to experience that, involved facing one or more “fears”, perceived challenges or getting unstuck. It’s why the “other side of fear” feels SO LIBERATING. Because at some point, we felt stuck in a position where we weren’t able to be our true self. Anything that makes you feel more like yourself, you should do that. You should at least TRY... (And yet another paradox- when feeling “like a different person” actually feels like “yourself” - if you know, you know...) 2 of the most incredible times I have felt this - leaving one amazing career for the one I “actually” wanted and the other side of a relationship ship I felt STUCK in for far, far too long... #lifelessons #meaningfulwork #meaningfulrelationship Reach out if 2022 is the year you want to get unstuck. 👊🏻 💥 #2022myyear #findmyformula #liveyourdream #getunstuck #islandlife #genuinelyhappy #genuinehappiness #myrealself #thetrueyou #truetoyourself #gettingbacktogether #breakuprecovery #breakupcoach #livingaligned #alignment #selfawareness #selfdevelopment #personaldevelopment #whatareyouwaitingfor #befearless #liveauthentically #authenticallyyou #unstuck #unstuckyourself #everyonedeservesacoach #relationshipcoach #loveyourmarriage (at Bermuda) https://www.instagram.com/p/CW9p1o_Mr2b/?utm_medium=tumblr