#low empathy

[desultory-suggestions]

It's okay if you have trouble understanding people. Reading others is not as important as being compassionate and open to understanding them.

[deceiver-of-god]

Honestly, I think apologizing is just a form of manipulation. It bothers you that the other person doesn't have a good attitude towards you, so you explain the situation, make any excuse, try to make them understand your perspective, and in the end you manage to soften them and change their attitude.

I don't think I've ever honestly apologized. When someone is upset with me, all I want is for them to stop being upset, because their attitude is inconvenient, and the only thing on my mind is "how can I talk my way out of this situation?".

[asonr]

Autistic spaces are getting so much more hostile towards people with low empathy, and it sucks

There was a subreddit I really liked, people were chill, and then there was a sudden influx of people making posts like ‘Autistic people have empathy! Saying we don’t makes us seem like monsters! Thats not a symptom!’ And people making posts explaining that no, actually, some of us do have low empathy got attacked and told they were wrong or ableist? And it sucks, because its just so hard to find a place to exist where you can be seen as not evil? I don’t know, it just hurts a lot to be told that

[ps1demodisk]

Sorry I'm not low empathy autistic in the "mysterious loner boy who secretly cares about his friends and talks in a monotone voice" way and I'm actually just completely indifferent to the suffering of people I don't know personally and help strangers out of a sense of "this is the right thing to do" and not "I feel so bad for this person" or guilt.

I sit and listen to my friends even though I don't really care about hearing about their problems because I know they'll be upset if I don't, and despite the fact I honestly can't genuinely care about the issue itself, I care about the impact it's having on my friends and that's enough to make me want to help them through it.

Did you know that's actually an expression of empathy all of its own?

It will absolutely happen again I literally am not even sorry

[catgirl-catboy]

I'm taking away the word empathy from the NTs until they discover it isn't a synonym for "giving a shit about people"

[frogsforthefrogwar]

We love people with low and no empathy here!

[worms-in-my-brain]

Just a reminder that ableism against personality disorders, especially cluster b personality disorder, is alive and well.

Not having empathy doesn’t make someone evil. It doesn’t make them an abuser. In fact, people without empathy are better in certain vital positions. We’re better at being first responders, 911 operators, and other tasks that would overwhelm empaths. We work better in critical situations than empaths do.

Thinking that any disorder makes someone evil is ableist. And when you take into account the sexist bias in diagnosing women with BPD and the racist and classist bias in diagnosing POC and prison inmates with ASPD and NPD? It’s not only ableist, it’s all kinds of -ists. Plus, it’s really rich for someone who claims that empathy is what makes someone good to have so little empathy for people with disorders that are literally trauma-based.

So yeah if you see someone being a dick to people with PDs? Say something. Because they’re definitely not going to listen to us.

[self-loving-vampire]

Childhood maltreatment does not only result in PTSD or C-PTSD. It is tied to many personality disorders, including extremely demonized ones such as NPD and BPD.

Yet for some reason people don’t really seem to think of people with personality disorders as simply traumatized and in need of help, but as incorrigibly broken or inherently evil.

This is especially true if the disorder in question is associated with low empathy, even if not all people with said disorder have that symptom in particular. Having low empathy means that a lot of people will get explicitly genocidal about your existence.

[infiniteorangethethird]

I don't know where this "if you don't feel love/empathy you're evil" idea comes from like if you can only be decent towards people if you love them/feel empathy towards them then I'm pretty sure I'm not the one mistreating more people of the two of us

[solreefs]

“the way autistic people express empathy can seem strange to others, and they might be incorrectly seen as unempathetic when in reality, the problem is miscommunication” AND “many autistic people have low or no empathy, and talking about this does not promote stereotypes or make us bad people” can and should coexist.

[notabled-noodle]

“empathy” is not a synonym for “good person”. some of the kindest and most respectful people I know are low empathy. and lord knows there are high empathy dicks out there.

being a good person is a choice. the amount of empathy you have is not.

[siren--squid]

Anyways, support people with low/no empathy, sympathy, and/or compassion.

Those things are not required to be a good person, and nobody should feel like those things are a requirement in life.

[communitygardensystem]

i love sociopaths i love narcissists i love low/no empathy havers i love people so mentally scarred it makes them generally mean people who push everyone away i love chronically angry people i love people with horrible intrusive thoughts (yes even yours) i love people who want horrible things to happen to the people who hurt them i love people with pervasive feelings of hate i love people who are uncontrollably agitated and irritable i see you i care about you i want you to get better i think you deserve as many chances as it takes for you to pull through i mean it i really really mean it

[catgirlcamus]

your advocacy for people with low empathy means nothing if you only focus on those who have high sympathy and compassion and are good at helping people and throw low empathy people who struggle a lot with those things under the bus

[marshmallow-biscuit-blog]

Can we please normalize some people not having empathy, or having low empathy.

Sorry that the low to no empathy neurodivergent person doesn't understand why they should apologize for your dog dying. Sorry that they don't see how it's their fault. Maybe you should've asked to vent too, because I know your ass didn't.

[it-is-only-a-novel]

If you ever want to say "everyone wants-" (sex, romance, friendship, something else), or (love, empathy, something else) "-is what makes us human", stop!

There is someone out there that doesn't want something most others do, or doesn't experience something that others do. Saying something like that is hurtful, and alienating. So don't.