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#medical gaslighting
yrfemmehusband · 5 months
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If your response to people discussing their medical trauma is "there are good Doctors though" I fucking hate you btw
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thebibliosphere · 8 months
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I'm not sure the novelty of a doctor actually providing me with compassionate and competent treatment will ever wear off.
Like... I've known for years I am sick. Logically I am aware I've been ignored, abused, and violated. But there's still that abused and gaslit part of my brain fearfully murmuring, "But what if I am doing this for attention and I just don't know it? what if I am a Bad Patient?"
And it's so ingrained that even when a doctor tells me they ran biopsies that confirm my diagnosis irrefutably, I'm still like, "Wow, I sure am a good liar being able to fake biopsies like that." Like bitch, the fuck did I do? Manifest a fake result through the power of my brain?
What kind of Matilda-ass-nonsense do I think I'm capable of? And why am I not using it to make Elon Musk explode at will?
Anyway. I hope my therapist's great-grandkids enjoy the college education I'm about to bankroll. Fuck me.
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gentlemanbutch · 7 months
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I am so tired of medical professionals. I am so tired of having to try to speak in code so they listen to me, because apparently just outright stating my symptoms is the incorrect way of doing things. I am so tired of trying to give them enough details so they understand, but not too many details, because then they might think I’m dramatic. I’m so tired of them not bothering to learn any of my history and just being told I just need to eat less, or drink more water, or get out and exercise. I’m so tired of having to pretend to not know what I’m talking about. I’m so tired of arrogant pricks who don’t know what’s going on being too proud to refer me fo someone else. I’m so tired of being brushed off if I did my own research or have theories about what’s happening in my own body. I’m so, so goddamn tired of not being believed about the experience of my own life.
For all these providers with enormous fucking power that you use to abuse, gaslight, and dismiss patients who have spent years in pain — I hope you rot.
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I do not want to be sick. I am sick and want to be taken seriously. There's a difference.
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thatchronicfeeling · 1 year
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DISABLED PERSON: I was treated terribly by a medical professional today. OTHER PERSON: Oh. Doctors are under so much pressure, though. I feel sorry for them.
DISABLED PERSON (who has been traumatised multiple times by the medical system): ?!
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spooniestrong · 1 year
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decora-kai · 2 months
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Yk i wish medical professionals could actually act fucking professional and understand that being in constant pain is not something that 'everyone has' or 'just growing pains'. I want them to recognise that I'm not just a whining kid who wants attention, or an unhealthy kid who just needs to exercise. It fucking pisses me off. I'm also pissed because I feel like my level of pain doesn't warrant any help compared to others. I know some people with chronic pain are bed bound 24/7 and because of fucking medical gaslighting I feel like I'm not worthy of a diagnosis because I'm not also stuck to bed forever. Like Im with my chronically ill friends who have to deal with such bad pain that they probably will never be able to leave their house and I feel for them, but just because I'm not 'as bad' as them doesn't mean I'm just a pussy bitch.
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spacedocmom · 14 days
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Doctor Beverly Crusher @SpaceDocMom I truly do not understand why so many doctors in your era seem to hate chronically ill patients so much, enough to body-shame them and/or refuse to diagnose them properly and/or treat them with any degree of consistent care. Why become a doctor only to not care? emojis: black heart, blue heart, masked 2:24 PM · Mar 15, 2024
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i-the-spoonie · 7 months
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coldbuckys · 2 years
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Hey, hi, hello!
Do you have Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome (POTS)?
Have you ever experienced Medical Gaslighting (a healthcare professional ignored your symptoms, belittled your symptoms, or told you that everything was just 'in your head')?
If you answered yes to both or either of these questions, or if you know someone who would, please inbox/DM me on here! I am a nurse and a PhD student who is studying medical gaslighting, and I am looking for any interest in a potential study! I am currently looking at POTS, but I am always looking for other individuals who have been effected by Medical Gaslighting that have other diagnosed chronic conditions.
Thank you for reading, and I appreciate your consideration.
-Emma
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yrfemmehusband · 7 months
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Fibromyalgia rant
Fibromyalgia feels like such a bullshit diagnosis. I'm in pain and you don't know why, so instead of continuing to look for the cause or referring me to a different specialist you give me a label that says "you have pain and we don't know why." After ONE blood panel too.
That's not a diagnosis, that's a cop out.
It's no coincidence that it's primarily AFAB people who get saddled with fibro diagnoses, and are told to diet, exercise, and go to therapy. Maybe they'll give us anxiety meds if we're lucky!
I want to know why I'm in pain. This is not an answer. This is giving up. If diet and exercise and therapy were actual fixes I would not be here, I'd be fine.
And all the studies I read on fibro are contradictory bullshit.
It's caused by trauma, wait no it's caused by prolonged stress and trauma and it might be genetic, no wait it might be autoimmune, IT SEEMS LIKE YOURE CHASING NOTHING. It seems like people keep getting diagnosed with fibro and then get ten other diagnoses because it's NOT AN ANSWER. doctors don't take it seriously, employers don't take it seriously, medication seems to either be out of the question for patients who have it or it doesn't work, and the treatment is go to therapy and act as if you're not in pain, what???
This is not a post for discourse, this is more of a rant, but thoughtful discussion is welcome. If you accept your fibro diagnosis that's fine, but I will not. I want to know Why.
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strawberrycat18 · 25 days
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When other people say they’re dizzy, they mean ‘phew! My equilibrium is a bit off! In a just a few moments I’ll be fine!’
When I say I’m dizzy, I mean something very different.
I mean that I can see black spots in my vision, and I can’t tell if this is going to be the time I pass out.
It means that the world is swimming underneath my feet, stretching and distorting like an obstacle course even when it’s just a straight, flat path.
It means there’s so much pressure in my head and not nearly enough.
It means that I can feel my heart speed up and beat harder, trying to adjust to the new gravity, just because I’ve shifted slightly.
It means I can feel the nausea rising in my stomach and the bile come up my throat.
It means that walking is a challenge. Getting a snack is a challenge, going to the bathroom is a challenge. Sitting up is a challenge.
So, when I say I’m dizzy, I’m trying to dumb it down so that you can understand a fraction of what I’m feeling. Not that I’m not feeling it. On good days, it’s a hindrance. On bad days it stops me doing anything. Stop telling me that ‘just being dizzy’ doesn’t make me ‘that disabled’. You barely know the half of it.
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authorizedpope · 10 months
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like, medical gaslighting isnt just having your concerns dismissed. doctors being dismissive is actually still awful and gets people killed so im definitely not downplaying the seriousness of doctors just not giving a shit. but when i say i was medically gaslit i mean i literally had doctors trying for years to convince me that i was mentally ill, and that as a result of that mental illness i could not trust my own senses and lived experience. and then denying me care on the basis of the mental illness they invented. i feel like sometimes when i say to people that ive experienced medical gaslighting they think im saying that my doctors were dismissive or called me a liar, which did also happen and was also fucking awful. but they also very much, very literally, completely fucked up my perception of my own lived experience and my ability to contextualise basic aspects of my physical reality to the point where my understanding of what Pain actually is was totally warped by adulthood.
And because nobody who hasn't been through it actually takes it seriously when you tell them what its like to live as someone with a complex, difficult to test for chronic illness, or just as Literally Anyone of any marginalized group trying to access Healthcare... i didn't even know that what happened to me growing up was a form of medical abuse. because when you tell someone 'my doctor said this horrible thing, can you believe that?' their automatic response is 'well.... but like.... they have a medical degree. do you?' so the power dynamic that puts you, the sick person, as the lowest most untrustworthy authority on your body is just reinforced constantly by a society that desperately needs to believe that if they were the sick one, of course their doctor would help them and treat them with compassion and care. and they cant believe that if you're out here existing as living proof of a broken system. so yeah 'do you have a medical degree? no? well, idk, maybe the doctor is right and you're the one who doesn't get it. i mean, medical degrees equal omnipotence and completely negation of human bias, right?'
im lucky because i had parents who kept taking me to the doctor when i asked, even if the doctors told them nothing was wrong. im lucky because my mum always remembered the time she had hepatitis as a kid and nobody believed her until she was hopelessly ill. or how her sister had a collapsed lung and the doctor sent her home saying she was exaggerating and just had a cold. im lucky because even when my mum did actually believe the doctors that there wasn't really anything wrong with me because she didn't really know better, she kept that thought to herself and still listened to me, every time, just in case. just so i knew i was being heard. im lucky because im a stubborn, anti authoritarian bitch by nature AND nurture, so i came out of all this with a strong capacity for self advocacy.
and even then, it STILL fucked me up in ways that im only now beginning to understand. im starting to realize why every time i feel im not being listened to, i get so angry i could scream and i stay angry for a ridiculous, disproportionate amount of time. why a friend questioning me when i talk about something ive lived, even lightheartedly, makes me lose several nights sleep and ill still be thinking about it months later. why every time a doctor hears my diagnosis and preemptively assures me they believe me (because they know how many of their colleagues would have said otherwise) i immediately start sobbing. i never even recognized these things as triggers until recently. because this abuse was at the behest of a system, and perpetuated by many people and not a single individual, i didn't conceptualize of it as being abuse. i didn't conceptualize of it as being trauma. but it was. i think im finally getting it now, that being in pain my whole life and being told over and over that it wasn't real and there was something fundamentally wrong with me for thinking it was... yeah. i think that was traumatic to a developing mind. shocker, right?
medical gaslighting is gaslighting, in the real sense of the word. it has lasting effects on a person's sense of self and capacity to trust in authority of any kind, especially medical professionals. especially when you do that shit to a little kid, who has no way to know what 'normal' feels like because they were born sick and never knew different.
and the irony is, i actually DID have serious depression growing up. but because all of my physical symptoms were so readily dismissed as mental health issues (not that i was ever actually offered mental health care, mind you. they didn't want to help me, they wanted me to be someone elses problem) I knew that if i ever admitted i had depression, my chances at treating my physical illness would be 0. they would never ever listen to me again. so i was forced, as a kid, to hide life threatening depression because if i admitted to it, i would lose access to any hope of treating my physical pain. thats a hell of a choice to put on a child. im still scared to admit having occasional depressive episodes to doctors because im afraid that if i do, they'll take away all my medications, even though my condition is diagnosed and well documented by now. and some doctors absolutely try to do exactly that, but i know enough now to find a new doctor as soon as anyone tries that shit.
but it shouldnt have to be this hard. and im white, seen as a cis woman (actually nonbinary but i dont tell them that), relatively thin, and in a country with universal Healthcare. for anyone with any additional axes of marginalization, especially if they are Indigenous or black and especially if they are fat, it's so much worse. for any kid with parents who don't know better than to blindly trust doctors. for anyone who's response to trauma is to get quiet instead of getting mad. for so many people, medical gaslighting is not just an obstacle, it's an impenetrable fortress that cuts them off from ever getting the care they need or having the tools to advocate for that care. and that can be a death sentence.
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atariaaren · 20 days
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i was planning on drawing more panels, but i began to lose steam by the time i finished the 11th one ^^;;
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gentlemanbutch · 7 months
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haaaa just found out that the prick who told me nothing is wrong with me after I sent him my medical history and current long COVID symptoms has a pattern of doing this!
I mean I didn't think this was so controversial but do 👏 not 👏 go 👏 into the 👏 medical 👏 field 👏 if 👏 you're 👏 going 👏 to 👏 dismiss 👏 patients' 👏 pain
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