#multigender

[genderqueerdykes]

you can't support the normalization of the usage of singular they/them pronouns and then say you don't support people who want to normalize it/its because it's "too weird," as if using singular they/them pronouns isn't clearly weird to a lot of people.

you can't refuse to acknowledge an identity because it's "weird," they're all "weird" in the eyes of cisheteronormative society. people who use neopronouns like it/its, ze/hir, xe/xem, thon/thons and others don't deserve to have to settle for they/them if that's not what they use. it doesn't matter if something is "weird" or not. let go of the compulsive need to assimilate and just let people express themselves freely

[multigenderswag]

Multigender Survey Results Dec 2023: Genders (part 1)

Multigender versus questioning

The first question asked participants to indicate whether they were multigender or were questioning (single selection). 594 participants (80.1%) identified as multigender, while 148 (19.%) were questioning whether they identified as multigender. 

Categories

Participants were asked to select which of the following best described the extent to which they identified as a woman, a girl, and/or female (single selection). The options provided were:

I am fully a woman, a girl, and/or female: 196 (26.4%)

I am partially a woman, a girl, and/or female: 417 (56.1%)

I am not a woman, a girl, or female in any capacity: 130 (17.5%)

613 (82.5%) identified as a woman, a girl, and/or female to some extent, whether fully or partially. 

Participants were also asked to select which of the following best described the extent to which they identified as a man, a boy, and/or male (single selection). The options provided were:

I am fully a man, a boy, and/or male: 297 (40.0%)

I am partially a man, a boy, and/or male: 393 (52.9%)

I am not a man, a boy, or male in any capacity: 53 (7.1%)

690 (92.9%) identified as a man, a boy, and or/male to some extent, whether fully or partially. 

The combination of answers to those two questions were used to sort participants into the following nine categories. 

Fully a man, a boy, and/or male + fully a woman, a girl, and/or female: 151 (20.3%)

Partially a man, a boy, and/or male + fully a woman, a girl, and/or female: 40 (5.4%)

Not at all a man, a boy, or male + fully a woman, a girl, and/or female: 5 (0.7%)

Fully a man, a boy, and/or male + partially a woman, a girl, and/or female: 103 (13.9%)

Partially a man, a boy, and/or male + partially a woman, a girl, and/or female: 288 (38.8%)

Not at all a man, a boy, or male + partially a woman, a girl, and/or female: 26 (3.5%)

Fully a man, a boy, and/or male + not at all a woman, a girl, or female: 43 (5.8%)

Partially a man, a boy, and/or male + not at all a woman, a girl, or female: 65 (8.7%)

Not a man, a boy, and/or male + not at all a woman, a girl, or female: 22 (3.0%)

Number of binary genders (man/boy/male and woman/girl/female) participants fully identified as:

Fully identified as two binary genders: 151 (20.3%)

Fully identified as one binary gender: 191 (25.7%)

Did not fully identify as any binary gender: 401 (54.0%)

Number of binary genders (man/boy/male and woman/girl/female) participants identified as to some extent, whether fully or partially:

Identified as two binary genders to some extent: 582 (78.3%)

Identified as one binary gender to some extent: 139 (18.7%)

Did not identify as any binary gender to any extent: 22 (3.0%)

Labels

Participants were asked “What are the genders you identify with? Select all that apply, whether always or sometimes” (multiple selection). The options provided were: 

Agender: 268 (36.1%)

Butch: 223 (30.0%)

Demigirl: 142 (19.1%)

Demiboy: 174 (23.4%)

Femme: 202 (27.2%)

Genderqueer: 500 (67.3%)

Man/boy/male: 470 (63.3%)

Manwoman/boygirl/male+female: 398 (53.6%)

Masc: 351 (47.2%)

Maverique: 72 (9.7%)

Neutrois: 69 (9.3%) (nice_

Nonbinary: 464 (62.3%)

Woman/girl/female: 399 (53.7%)

Xenogender: 248 (33.4%)

Questioning: 110 (14.8%)

Unlabeled: 129 (17.4%)

Categories vs Labels

In the previous survey, categories were formed based on answers to the question “What are the genders you identify with?” This turns out to have been an inaccurate way to categorize participants, as the categories participants self-identified with often didn’t match the way they would have been categorized based on the genders they identified with. 

Of 196 participants who identified as fully a woman, a girl, and/or female, 166 selected “woman/girl/female” as one of the genders they identified with (84.7%). Of 297 participants who identified as fully a man, a boy, and/or male, 259 selected “man/boy/male” as one of the genders they identified with (87.2%).

Additionally, the previous survey did not include “manwoman/boygirl/male+female” as a gender option, under the assumption that people who identified that way would select both “man/boy/male” and “woman/girl/female.” However, of the 398 participants who selected “manwoman/boygirl/male+female,” 210 selected both “man/boy/male” and “woman/girl/female” (52.8%). 142 participants who selected “manwoman/boygirl/male+female” did not select “woman/girl/female” (35.7%), and 117 participants who selected “manwoman/boygirl/male+female” did not select “man/boy/male” (29.4%).

Abinary Genders

Participants were asked “do you experience abinary gender(s)?” (single selection), with abinary defined as “genders that are completely unrelated to the male/female binary.” The options provided were:

No, I don’t experience any abinary genders: 143 (19.2%)

Yes, I experience one abinary gender: 144 (19.4%)

Yes, I experience multiple abinary genders: 285 (38.4%)

Questioning: 171 (23.0%)

429 participants (75.7%) experienced one or more abinary gender(s). 

Of the 151 participants who identified as fully a man, a boy, and/or male as well as fully a woman, a girl, and/or female, 19 (12.6%) experienced one abinary gender and 62 (41.1%) experienced multiple abinary genders. 81 (53.6%) experienced one or more abinary gender(s) and 49 (32.5%) did not experience any abinary genders. That is to say, for a majority of participants who identified as fully a man/a boy/male and fully a woman/a girl/female, they identified as other gender(s) in addition to those two. 

[lesbianpolls]

I know the selection isn't great, but choose whatever you think best applies to you!

[silly-media-enjoyer]

Image Description: The "I bring a sort of X vibe to X that X don't really like" edited to say "I bring a sort of all these rules are made up vibe to sexuality and gender that exclusionists don't really like"

[hadeantaiga]

Shoutout to the folks who wish they could be feminine the way men are feminine, and shoutout to the folks who wish they could be masculine the way women are masculine.

[queerbatting]

people need to realize that dissolving the lines between gender also means dissolving the lines between sexuality. you cannot say gender is fake and then say sexuality is strict and rigid.

there are multigender/genderfluid people who are lesbians and gay men at the same time. there are mspec lesbians/gays/straights who have a complex relationship with gender and their sexuality. there are gay men who are women and lesbians who are men because male isn't the opposite of female.

"conflicting" labels are a part of many people's queer experience, because the human experience isnt simple enough to be put into neat perfect categories. if you truly support trans/genderqueer people, you need to accept the fact that gender and sexuality is complex and there will be people whose identities you don't understand

[transmultiphobia]

“We need more weird queer people” Y’all can’t handle 90% of the ways multigenders label their sexualities

[michaelmilkers]

i'm regularly astounded by the cognitive dissonance some of yall have to accept that gender is a social construct with infinite possibilities with the capacity to be deeply personal and individual but still think there's a list of like 4 acceptable sexual orientations and if you go outside of that list or mix entries on that list or relate to them in a non-traditional way not only are you Breaking The Rules you're personally directly harming people who follow them

[halestonehyena]

why have us queer people as a community normalized terms like "boygirl" or "girlboy" or other things like that but not like. the actual experience of being multigender. i swear some people will be like "ahaha its so cool and swag to be a #girlboy #boygirl" then turn around and be like "MEN DNI THIS POST IS ABOUT WOMEN" "MEN CANT BE LESBIANS (because no man is ever a woman too)" etc etc like come on guys

EDIT: i added an entire rant about this here

[bored-boring-and-tired]

[genderqueerdykes]

[identitty-dickruption]

the multigender and nonbinary communities NEED to get better at listening to intersex people. intersex people are not “biologically nonbinary”. intersex people do not exist as a gotcha for debates about gender and sex. not all intersex people are “both” male and female. non-intersex people can’t identify as intergender. please consider us when you talk about your identities

[pumpkin-magpie]

Don’t know why tf people have to be told this in 2024 but

Do not fucking call yourself a trans ally if you demonize or exclude certain alignments.

This means masculine-aligned

This means feminine-aligned

This means people who fit into neither

This means multigender

This means people who’s gender you may not fully understand

This means gender not based on traditional concepts

I can’t believe people still have to be fucking told this, but DO NOT call yourself a trans ally if you saying “I support all trans people… except these ones.” And I don’t care if you’re a trans person who pulls this shit. That’s disappointing.

[sapphic-boy]

Okay yes you reblogged a post about a boyfriend being a girl but are you like actually normal about multigender people especially about multigender lesbians and gay dudes

[castielfucks]

theres actually no rules to transitioning and youre allowed to want contradictory things for your transition. it's fine if you only want some of the changes that come with hrt and take preventative measures for the rest (like wanting bottom growth but not body hair or vice versa). you can want to have vagina AND a dick. you can be a woman and want top surgery, or wear a packer. you can be a man and want to have a pussy. you can change your transition goals one or a million times or not have any goals at all and just take things as they come or as they feel right.

there are no rules.

[holy-ground-tv]

How queer is tumblr? (Gender Identity)