#my trans coming out

[actually-the-antichrist]

Wait what's this about transmasc Pentheus? 👀

😂😂I'm so happy to see this ask since I can ramble abt my writing. It's a short story I finished last week, it's a retelling of the Bacchae from a Pentheus perspective, and in it he is a gay teenager who undergoes conversion therapy as his coming of age ritual bcs Cadmus needs a straight grandson to be heir. It's set in a 1984-esq society (reminiscent of the school structure I was raised in). Pentheus is a rational highly achieving student and member of the Culture and Morality department who hates tragedies but can't help reading them. For the yearly Autumn Festival the school puts on a play as a collectivist ritual, and in one year someone sent in the Bacchae as a suggestion. Pentheus dismisses this as an insult but cannot stop the play's events from unfolding as Bacchic activity pick up around the school. Eventually, Dionysus confronts him directly, undoes the repressive hypnosis (which Pentheus does not even remember until it's revealed at this point), and finishes the play. I wrote this, and then, realizing I had the exact same feelings of horror around male gay conversion therapy, consequently realized that I love men in a gay way, and that I'm a man. So it's not exactly a transmasc Pentheus story but it is how I found out. (really, if you don't want unscheduled epiphanies about your identity, do not become a writer)

[bisclavaret]

a day late to my 6 years on t anniversary ✨🏳️‍⚧️ a short comic about looking back

[prettyfantasys]

I want to suck off a pretty boy so bad. Have him under me or I would be on my knees where my face is right in front of his handsome cock. God I would be so mesmerized by it I wouldn’t help but to stare. Maybe I’ll kiss the tip before I wrap it around my mouth to see it twitch in anticipation, just needing for it to be fucked by my mouth. God I need to hear him whimper and moan as he’s desperately grabbing onto my hair. Maybe I would need to finger him and thrust my fingers into his needy hole. God I would praise him so much when I could. He would be such a good boy, such a pretty boy being fucked by my mouth <3

[everythingisliminal]

I did it. I called my parents, told them they need to use they/them for me for us to have a healthy relationship, and it worked.

My dad said his love for me is unconditional and he's invested in getting this right. My mom asked in a strained tone how this affects my relationship with my husband, how she's supposed to refer to me with people in her life, etc. (best case scenario given how abysmal this convo went with her a year ago). And we ended it all with our life updates and "I love you"s.

Since it took a lot of research to find articles more suited to adult children coming out as trans/nonbinary, here's the list of (primarily non-aggressive) resources on terms and mindset I texted them in case they can help anyone else:

Itchy sweaters: An ally’s guide to understanding late-in-life pronoun and gender changes (new pronouns = softer sweater metaphor)

Your adult child just came out as non-binary. Now what? (terminology)

The Wonderful World of Gender: What It Means to Be Nonbinary (terminology)

What Does It Mean to Misgender Someone? (terminology)

8 Things I’ve Learned Parenting a Non-Binary Kid That Might Help You (acknowledges parent's emotional response)

Edit:

OMG Y'ALL MY MOM JUST TEXTED THIS

"I know I was quiet in today's conversation but you are my child and I love you and support you. I want nothing but happiness and a healthy life for you!!!😉😀"

[corpsentry]

pick your battles

[sualne]

father.

(timeline)

[avian-misdemeanors]

hey Jewish converts and Jews-by-choice, Jew-by-birth here.

I see you, joining our Tribe despite how fucking scary it is to be Jewish right now.

I see you, joining our Tribe despite literal millennia of virulent Jew-hate

I see you, standing up and saying "shema Yisrael" even though doing so is as dangerous as ever

I see you, joining our ancient family even though this world hates us all so much

and I'm proud to have you with us

to listen to the roar in your heart and follow it, even though it's scary and dangerous and the world is full of screams of hate, to listen to your Jewish soul and make the choice to fully embrace it right now, that is courage beyond measure. that is true love and passion for am Yisrael

I'm proud to stand next to you. it's better with you here. we're stronger with you here.

from one Jew to another, welcome home💙✡️

[navysealt4t]

i haven’t seen anyone talk about this yet. but after owen sees the finale and is fighting to stay in the tv and just screaming “this isn’t real!” “you’re not my father!” like. what the fuck. how am i meant to function

[manesvoid]

You know that one gwen-stacy character that recently have been made queer and goes across dimensions while fighting canon?t

[b0tster]

finally watched the orvilles tale of two topas episode

[pickled-flowers]

Ok so a while back I had a conversation with my friend's aunt. She's a trans woman well into her 50, who has kids and grandkids, and she came out when she was in her 40's. Me and my friends were talking about our queer space, and mentioned the well known "token cishet man"

Now, I'm sure most of us have that guy in our friend group, and it was common for us to just call him the straight guy. But my friend's aunt offered a different perspective ; she once was that token cishet man in a queer group of friends. Getting categorized so strongly as "the cis straight guy" made it harder for her to come out and accept herself. Since that talk with her, I've been careful about it, and guess what? Two women I've once called "the straightest person I know" (different occasions, and it was high school) now have girlfriends! You literally cannot know if someone is queer, and honestly most people are not the straight cisest person out there.

Anyways I'm not very articulate and English is not my friend but like I think everyone would benefit from being a little more careful about the way we treat our "token straight guy", she might be thankful later!

[darth-sonny]

fun idea for these two...

[canonkiller]

devil's bargain; they will love you as a daughter, but it will be love.

[1960z]

“haha odo is so beige and bland and boring despite being a literal shapeshifter” like ok yes I laugh at those jokes too and find them funny I literally have no issue with them but sometimes I also wanna talk about how that’s kind of the whole point of his character.

like odo’s abilities and way of being is so unlike any other known species in the alpha quadrant that it’s shown to be disturbing and off-putting to a lot of people — or at the very least that’s what he was led to believe. like we see this in the alternate where mora tries to convince him he’ll either be locked up in a prison or put in a zoo to gawk at if he’s perceived to have committed any sort of crime or transgression.

so despite being able to literally become anything he can think of, he chooses his default presentation to be as standard, bland and uninteresting as he possibly can. male, always in a beige uniform, very standard hair cut.

odo is so plain because he was made to be afraid of being literally anything else

[bowenoke]

had a realization getting dressed today. up til this moment i have kind of figured the gender nonconformity was assumed to be part of the butch thing by most of my coworkers. despite

new coworker staring extremely unsubtly as i wrote down my pronouns for a meeting (sorry tumblr, im any/all irl and sometimes that means saying she/her so i have somewhere to pee)

someone on my direct team sending one of the few trans guys i work with to come into my office for some papers and coincidentally he also spent 2 hours telling me about how rewarding it's been to come out + how great our coworkers are about creating a hostile environment for anyone who misgenders him even accidentally

multiple people telling me unprompted about the one gender neutral bathroom in the entire building (the entire reason i have not been coming out, its very far away)

the same coworker from the pronouns asking me directly if i was transgender last week

like im not really sure how i thought i was flying under the radar until this moment. like in context being asked if i was transgender felt like the natural progression of a conversation but now it seems more like one of those "not everyone wants to be a boy/girl/neither." like "if your coworkers are directly asking you if you're transgender you're probably not being very subtle about it."

anyways changed my pronouns on slack today :) now i'll have to walk across the building to the bathroom :')

[oodlesodoodles]

Harry squeezes a local Club manager to let them have a swim in the fancy ass pool in return for keeping a drugging/poisoning case quiet