#neurospicy

[jodjuya]

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[nerdy-alto]

There was so little understanding (if any) of ADHD when I was growing up in the 70's/80's, and definitely not any for the quiet kind. I was an A+ or D- student, nothing in between. Because either I "got" it and excelled, or I didn't and gave up. Even when I "got" it, I would constantly get incomplete marks for being incapable of completing anything my subconscious deemed busywork. Why write the words out five times if I already knew how to spell them in the first place? A couple of high school teachers HAAAATED ME because I blew off the homework yet consistently got the top score on tests.

And then there were things like math, which escaped me, until one geometry teacher actually explained something that baffled me in a different way! Using physical objects! Amazing. I was not the only one in that remedial sophomore level class that felt enlightened that day, although I may have been the only senior.

If at any point someone had pulled me aside and said "this seems like dumb bullshit (or impossibly difficult) to you because your brain operates a little differently from others. That's why everyone thinks you're smart but not living up to your potential. Here are some tricks you can use to muddle through the gruntwork, and here is a different way to look at this seemingly incomprehensible math problem. We're not disappointed - you're just a different kind of weirdo than most. The sooner you slog through this, the sooner you can get to doing what you love," I may have been able to do better academically, possibly even getting a college degree in something that would make me a desirable immigrant to a civilized country in the near future when we had trashed ours.

But I guess I'll never know. I hope quiet underachievers who read too much, and score too high on tests while flunking all the homework get more help than I did.

When I was growing up and complained something sucked and was difficult (school, paperwork, etiquette rules, etc.) a lot of the time adults told me “noooo no it’s not difficult! It’s easy if you put your mind to it.” Or maybe a kinder “nooooo don’t say that, you can do it!”

And setting aside the fact that I had executive function issues I wasn’t aware of at the time, I think what I usually needed to hear was “yeah. yeah it does suck and it is difficult. but it’s important that you do it anyway.”

Like yeah in the moment it WAS difficult to learn my multiplication tables or to get college scholarships or to apply for jobs. It DID suck a lot but I did learn to do math, and go to college, and get a job. And I just wish somebody had told me that’s how it would feel to look back — not like “that was actually easy and fun once I tried it,” but to say “wow, that sucked. but I did it and I’m glad I did.”

[dailiadelc]

[aurora-alice]

Now that my frontal lobe has clocked on business, should I do something stupid to make up for how responsible I am?

[permdaydreamer]

This is for the people who didn’t party in their teens and twenties. For the people who didn’t have that “coming of age” movie experience with shenanigans and revelations. This is for the people who mostly keep to themselves. Who maybe prefer things to be quieter and gentler. This is for the people who don’t feel like they belong in a culture that values loud parties and flashing lights. I see you. And you are valid.

[fanfictrashdump]

I just got out of seeing Superman. It was very good.

There be SPOILERS ahead.

Buuut, before I went in, I saw a tik tok of someone saying something along the lines of "we've all seen the David Corenswet interviews and we all agree he is autistic, right? And that is why he's such a fucking good Superman."

Whether or not he is, is not my point. I am not here to diagnose anyone. What it did do, though, was make me view the whole story from my own autistic ass point of view, as an independent witness. When you view the story as one (1) autistic bean, Superman, battling all the inner voices trying to force you to be "normal" but deeply craving validation (Lex) and the self-flaggelation (persecution) and the masks (interviewing himself, Clark Kent) and the perfectionism (Mr Terrific) and the one idiot voice that tells you you're awesome no matter how weird or different you are (Krypto), it forces you to look at your own life and whether you're being fair to yourself. It reminds you that you don't have to feel like you belong to belong.

Sure, the movie is actually a really deep political commentary but it works on lots of levels.

Also, this is my absolute FAVORITE iteration of Dad Kent. He is not the silent and stoic type we see so often. He is soft and fluffy and would die for his kid in a heartbeat.

Now, the dumb thoughts:

-Lois Lane: definitely kisses girls and enbys, too. So hot.

-Superman: definitely kissed boys at one point in his life because he was curious but had no conclusion (spoiler, he's demi). So hot.

-Jimmy: has rizz?? I'm too old but he's a cutie

-Hawkgirl: fuck, she is fierce and I want to be her. I'm too old for her but she's impeccable

-Green Lantern: kinda love that they dug into the 'We know Green Lantern sucked so lets make him a parody'

[surrah698]

My poor, sensitive nervous system... 😭

Gotta make sure to get plenty of rest!

[thelatestkate]

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[sleeplessv0id]

what doesn't kill you makes you weird at intimacy

[thecoppersphinx]

This is how I realized I was neurodivergent. My autistic, adhd, audhd, Learning Disabled(LD) students and peers kept telling me how much I understood them. I had been tested for an LD some years prior, didn't put two and two together. Makes sense I'm Dyscalculic😁

[victusinveritas]

[savage-daughter-of-nikitie]

This! The internet just continues to teach me about my “quirks” and yes, it’s nice to know it’s not just me. I was cutting up peppers yesterday and I cut up a pepper put it in the bowl, wash hands, cut next pepper, put in bowl, wash hands…… I can’t stand anything on my hands. I also can’t stand the cutting board to be cluttered with already cut things. My palms are probably the palms of a corpse because I can’t stand lotion. I have to do hot wax treatments and them wear gloves to moisturize my hands.

[angelasscribbles]

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[neurospicediaries]

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‘High-functioning’ sounds like praise—but it hides pain, erases struggle, and pressures us to perform. This article dismantles the myth and reveals the damage behind the label.

[quantumfrail]