#nonbinary flux

[maxinwell]

Enbyflux cat!

[macksartblock]

see you know i couldn't resist this

thanks @babacontainsmultitudes for the idea i hope i did your vision justice lol

[queerasflux]

realized I'm coming up on my 7th year of transitioning so I thought I'd do some things I like about my body as I'm settling comfortably into myself. I use he/they/it pronouns. Image description in alt text.

[scene-royaltylolz]

Finished it quickly! ^_^ Itz Silly Sam's lil ref sheet! Not much but itz smth so who cares? Lmaoz nao b silly! >:3

[glitched-dawn]

Okay y'all imma make three new characters and you decide what sexuality they should be

[trans-enby-culture-is]

This is a culture blog for trans people!

Meaning everyone who is under the trans umbrella (or can be under the trans umbrella: trans men and women, nonbinary people, xenogenders, questioning people, anyone not cis or who think they aren't cis). Also cis people you are welcome to like, reblog, follow but please don't hijack posts. I don't gatekeep here, just everyone be respectful of each other.

So how does it work?

Send in an ask or submission that starts off with: "x culture is". x being trans, non-binary, gender queer, agender... Be as general or spasific as you want. Then add in anything you like having to do with being trans.

Then I'll post the submissions!

Please don't use "nb" when you mean non-binary (it originally meant non black, and shouldn't be used in this context)

Wait aren't there blogs like this already?

There are some general trans/enby culture blogs, but they haven't been active in years, so I'm stepping in to the void.

This blog is inspired by other culture blogs:

@aro-culture-is, @ace-culture-is, @ndcultureis, @depression-culture-is, @gnc-culture-is, @apl-culture-is, @nonamorous-culture-is, @demi-alterous-culture-is, @demigirl-culture-is, @demigender-culture-is, @queercutlureis, @questioning-aspec-culture-is, @autigender-culture-is, @neopronoun-user-culture-is, @genderqueer-culture-is, @genderqueercultureis, @aspec-culture, @no-empathy-culture-is, @disassociation-culture-is

Lists of culture blogs:

part 1: orientations and general queerness

part 2: gender identities + intersex

part 3: neurodivergency

My main blog: @it-is-only-a-novel

DNI: the usual, I don't hesitate to block.

Edited on 14/10/23

[nerdyenby]

When the gender is fluid

[your-gay-grandma]

Hey... do you have any advice on figuring out gender? I'm really confused.

I'm afab, and I'm comfortable being seen as a girl. But I also feel equally as comfortable being perceived as nonbinary, and I legitimately don't think I would feel any different if everyone in my life switched to using they/them pronouns for me. Really I don't feel uncomfortable with any identity except male or masculine pronouns and/or terms.

But I'm really confused, because no label feels right? Like I feel comfortable being called female, a girl, nonbinary, etc. But if I call myself any of those things I feel wrong, like I'm lying. I don't understand 😭

I like labels. I like being able to know that how I feel has a name. It makes it seem more real, if that makes sense. But I can't find any labels that work for this aspect of me, and I don't like it. I'm so confused, surely someone has felt at least similar to this? Right? I'm not alone??

oh my dear one, i promise you that you are not alone! i have felt the entirely same way and i must admit it is reassuring to find others find the process the same!

first of all, i think it’s really important to remember when questioning your gender or sexuality, that genuinely cis het people do not experience this questioning. the reason they are cis het is because they feel entirely comfortable and sure in that identity. if you are in any capacity wondering if those things don’t apply to you, then it’s certainly something worth pursuing! so, no you are not lying or pretending.

secondly, there’s no harm whatsoever in trying something out and deciding it’s not for you! if you want to try a different name, different clothes, different pronouns etc, it’s not going to matter if you decide later you’d like to stop.

the way i started was just asking a group of close friends to try different pronouns for me, only when we were together. i found i was positively giddy when i people used them, it was so affirming! i began experimenting with my dress, makeup, even the way i spoke and i found leaning into who i was with less emphasis on my assigned gender at birth was so exciting and made me feel just about a billion times more confident.

what if you don’t have a group of people you trust to try this with?

well, something i don’t see talked about enough is changing the pronouns you use to refer to yourself. for example, i often find myself telling stories about myself where i have to use pronouns. try switching them here and see if it feels right. you can also try pronoun dressing rooms online. you can also try things out in the safe anonymity of online spaces such as this.

now, as for labels. i’ve now reached a point where that doesn’t matter so much to me. personally, i feel my gender is most closely tied to my lesbianism. if it feels important to you to have a label, there are so many genderqueer labels that might describe how you feel. i can’t tell you what that will be unfortunately, but you might like to look into gender fluidity, being a nonbinary woman (ie. woman aligned), genderqueer, genderflux etc. but rest assured, your identity is just as real without labels. we have a tendency to box things in. maybe this isn’t meant to be neatly packaged.

finally, sometimes what you know can feel most comfortable because it’s what you’re used to. listen to that part of you that is questioning and follow it as far as it would like to go. if it leads you nowhere, that’s okay and you can turn back, but it might take you somewhere completely wonderful that helps you find where it was supposed to be all along!

good luck and please feel free to keep me in the loop in your journey! very proud of you for having the courage to question 💛

[areyouthisidentity-polls]

Are you...

A gender identity where your gender is Non-Binary, and may not change, but your understanding and experience of it changes day-to-day. It can be static, fluid, and/or flux.

[geekysteven]

Ah, yes. The three genders

[r3se-t]

I love that I’m totally not having a stroke!

If I put a MAP flag please tell me since I’m working on a Awareness project and I put it by mistake!

[sezja]

Content warning for she/her Feo Ul, but like, bear with me and take me on good faith here-

My own gender pings closer to she/her agender with every passing day, and I liked seeing that represented in Feo Ul when ShB first dropped - all of the other fae are expressly they/them and the world seems to understand that, so it made Feo Ul being she/her feel like a conscious choice on her behalf. The Exarch has no excuse not to know the fae, pixies included, use they/them pronouns; that he introduced Feo Ul with she/her pronouns instead felt like something specific and unique.

And I think that makes sense!

I think Feo Ul has spent time among mortals - she's curious, she's invested, she's observant - and I think it makes sense for her to decide "I like these pronouns! I want them for my own!" It feels like a nod to her interest in mortals and their habits. She may not fully understand what pronouns are or what they indicate; certainly I'm not sure pixies care about the fucking gender binary (which is to say, not she/her in the sense that she identifies as a woman, not at all, but she/her in the sense that those are the sounds Feo Ul decided she liked).

Obviously it doesn't keep her from being King.

And, again, it was close to my own tentative gender identity, so it was nice to see it, especially in such a vibrant character, one I loved a lot immediately. It stung a little to see it retconned in the patches, and obviously for my own purposes I ignore it.

Like, I don't think anyone who knows me at all assumes I have any issue with they/them pronouns or nonbinary identities. Most of my friends are they/them at this point. My primary WoL (Darcy) is they/them. This isn't an issue with not respecting they/them identities or trans identities on the whole. The other pixies and fae folk (original Titania included) are emphatically they/them, but I do like my interpretation of she/her Feo Ul and I stand by it.

[queerasflux]

happy tdov transmascs are hot as fuck (he/they/it pronouns)

[carahth21]

Happy Tdov! 🏳️‍⚧️

[scene-royaltylolz]

Just remembered my mom made me a fruity pebble b-day cake 4 my 13th b-day wen I came out 2 her TT 3 TT (I luv her sm lolz)

[todaysgenderispanda]

Today's gender is.... feeling trans but not feeling trans at the same time? It's confusing (sob)

Like MY GOD I feel so trans some days but other days it's j

It is confusing, and that's okay, darling. It can be a big think to try and figure out, especially since humans never really live in a constant state of being. We're constantly changing and growing and adapting. And sometimes gender can reflect that.

Remember it's okay to take a break from the labels if you need to. That's why a lot of us like to use "catch all umbrella terms" sometimes, such as queer. Honestly, trans technically is an umbrella term for not cis. That's literally what the white stripe on the flag is supposed to represent. There's also terms like gender flux to refer to going between two or more genders, of feeling more than one gender at once.

Remember that self discovery isn't a race, darling. I didn't figure half my shit out until I was 29, and am honestly still actively figuring it out. And that's okay. The goal should always be your own comfort.