#nonbinary lesbian

[queerism1969]

[lesbianpolls]

I know the selection isn't great, but choose whatever you think best applies to you!

[lovergirldyke]

i was so cool one year ago, the urge to shave my sides again fills me sometimes hehe

[2bloved2bchanged]

Butches... I need input

I've been leaning more into butch4butch love bc, well, I'm butch4butch but also bc honestly so many (all) the femmes I've dated have dragged me thru the mud bc they don't know how to be normal around butches at all.

DISCLAIMER. I love femmes, however, I feel safer around butches and would only consider dating a femme or feminine woman again if they showed me they didn't just see me as a man, a fucktoy, or a trial run for being gay

Any similar experiences? Any agreements or disagreements?

[genderqueerdykes]

i have been trying for like. months to explain how the relationship between butch lesbians and trans men is not something akin to polar opposites and this is all i got. like it's not like this:

it's a venn diagram with a massive overlap in the middle. i'm not saying EVERY butch is a trans guy and EVERY trans guy is a butch dyke , i'm just saying it looks more like this:

these are not "mutually exclusive" terms- they do not mean the same thing, but we can be the same people, an very often are. there is a long history of butches who identify as FTM, trans men, drag kings, genderqueer, genderfluid, transmasculine, male, polygender, and two-spirit lesbians, and so much more. the relationship between lesbianism and queer masculinity is inseparable and the only people telling you that butches and trans men need to violently separate from one another and be at each other's throats are terfs. even if we do not share identities, we share our struggle together as heavily misunderstood and unseen masculine queers.

we stand up for each other when our identities get confused by strangers, and we get misgendered. we stand up for each other when terfs and terfpilled people tell us that transmasculine people and men can't be lesbians, when people say "butches just want to be men", when people say "butches aren't real women", when people call each of us bull dykes and trannies, when people mock the way FTMs walk and talk and look, and when people tell trans men they're "just butch dykes in denial". we stand up for each other and understand each others struggles.

whenever a butch lesbian asserts they're a woman no matter how masc they are, whenever a trans man asserts that they are a man and not a butch, whenever a butch struggles to be seen as both a man and a lesbian, and whenever a trans man returns to the lesbian community while embracing their manhood, we are part of the same community, we share the same struggles, and we owe it to each other to stay strong.

we are not enemies. we are bedfellows, lovers, family, spouses, partners, husbands, wives, brothers, sisters, siblings, friends, each others support networks, even if we don't share identities perfectly. whether you are butch and a woman, butch and a man, butch and something else entirely, a male, ftm, genderfluid, polygender, genderqueer, transmasculine, nonbinary, two-spirit or whatever else you may be lesbian, you are part of our family and your experience is worth being heard.

[strap-me-down-please]

i think it's fundamental to ruin your sleep schedule for the woman you're in love with. Yep. You agree.

[aardvaark]

uhhh lesbian as a gender and lesbianism and gender being inextricably intertwined compilation

comics: all from alison bechdel

book page about butch identity: from Butch Is A Noun by S. Bear Bergman

image IDs in alt text (you have no idea how long that took lol).

[1justsomeweirdo1]

an old mans trash is a Butch lesbians dream wardrobe.

[jeansmanythings]

boys will be boys, unless they're girls. inspired by an old headline I saw online.

my instagram | shirts of this design | totes of this design

[gentlemanbutch]

I truly wish I could get cis people and non-butches to understand how inherent transness/butchness/gender-nonconformity is for so many of us, specifically related to how visible it can be even when we do our damndest to hide it.

My parents suggested I detransition/try to appear “womanly” because it’s getting really dangerous where I live, and I’m just like…there is no world in which I can make that work. I was getting called a lesbian and a dyke as a teen before I even figured out I was gay. I was shoved up against a wall in college and sexually assaulted in public when I was in the process of coming out and presenting very femininely, specifically because I was a lesbian. Even when I spent hours playing with makeup because it was kind of fun (because I did wacky styles that make me think I was using it as a drag thing more than anything) I still stuck out next to cishet girls.

I’m not saying I can’t do things to improve my safety, but I have been butch/trans/gender-nonconforming my entire life. I cannot undo that from the fabric of who I am; even if I cover it up, the people who want to do harm can typically still pick up on it.

[queerism1969]

[chapst1ckmcdyke]

I love you dykes. I love you complex gender. I love you butches on T. I love you trans lesbians. I love you T4T. I love you hairy femmes. I love you he/him lesbians. I love you butch4femme. I love you nblw. I love you ❤️

[sydsixxftm]

FtM 4 MtF lesbian couple at SF leather pride 2023

[samijami]

Nonbinary lesbians, reblog if you agree

[lovestruckbutch]

the deep lesbian urge to kiss every inch of her face until she’s a giggling mess💞

[genderqueerdykes]

i love you male lesbians! i love you lesboys, i love you guydykes, i love you butch men, i love you ftm lesbians, i love you gentleman dykes, i love you transmasc lesbians, i love you genderqueer lesbians, I love you nonbinary lesbians, i love you gender non conforming lesbians, i love you bigender lesbians, i love you genderfluid lesbians, i love you intersex lesbians, i love you two spirit lesbians, i love you lesbians who were men, i love you lesbian men!

i love the many ways one can be a lesbian, and the variety of identities that the community contains! be loud, be proud, be your lesbian self!