#ok sorry i had to snap bc im pre transition and have seen this shit for SO LONG

[scrambleseggy]

I think there’s something also sadly ironic about the fact people say trans men hold up the patriarchy or are often toxic when very often those behaviors are literally encouraged as “checklists to be considered a man” —

People target young trans men often in their binder stages as “transtrenders” and mock them relentlessly on the internet for being “too soft” … So which is it? Do you want trans men to be toxic manly men or do you want them to simply just be trans men? Because it seems to me even the LGBTQ+ community encourages toxic masculinity to be considered a “real man” and not an “attack helicopter.”

I just want people to digest this.

Because you can make fun of “you’re valid 🩷🩵🤍” all you want, but this is often the only place someone young could identify as trans without having to be bullied for their love of those around them who may not fit in. Some of ya’ll wanna say trans men are toxic but don’t even realize that’s exactly what you expect them to be, because otherwise, they’re “fakers” right? They’re trying to “ruin the community” right? Literally using the same tactics our parents did on us and those we even know and date through our lives…

Like c’mon ya’ll. Give me a break. You cannot tell me that the mean-spirited nature of the internet has not perpetuated these harmful stereotypes against a very specific group of young trans people for often very obvious reasons no ones willing to admit.

If you want trans men to have healthier relationships with themselves and others, maybe start breaking down why all your expectations of them fall under the very things you use to act like they don’t belong in the community.