#parental rights

[whatbigotspost]

I've realized that a LOT of very reasonable, not fascist people around me are kinda into the "parental rights" gibberish fundies are peddling these days……….on the surface.

By far the most compelling way I've challenged this thinking? Simply saying, "I'm just really concerned for all the kids who have abusive parents like mine..." and I share like 1 careful anecdote about what my childhood was like. I get a lot of "WOW 🤯 yeah, I really hadn't thought about that…" back. I've (not exaggerating) had 7 convos of the past month or so like this and most have thanked me for saying it.

People have all kinds of cognitive biases that affect their perception. To people who think of parents as "inherently good" due to their first hand experiences and/or biases, you quite literally have to point this stuff out to them.

Children's rights are constantly overlooked, dismissed, and ignored. A lot of people want to "have babies" but don't think of it as producing autonomous humans who deserve to be seen that way and not property of their parents. I’ll keep looking for more and more ways to underscore that fact.

[destielmemenews]

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[dontmeantobepoliticalbut]

A federal court judge has ruled that parents in Ohio don’t have the right to challenge a trans-inclusive school bathroom policy.

A case brought by parents and students in the Bethel Local School District (BLSD) in November sought to prohibit trans and non-binary students in the region from using toilets and other facilities consistent with their gender identity.

But, in a ruling issued on Monday (7 August), Judge Michael Newman decreed that the accusations brought by the group did not “pass legal muster” to warrant further consideration.

“Not every contentious debate concerning matters of public importance presents a cognisable federal lawsuit,” Newman wrote in his ruling opinion.

During a school board meeting in January 2022, BLSD announced it had implemented policies allowing transgender students to use communal toilets consistent with their gender identity.

Several months later, a group of parents filed a legal challenge, arguing that their parental rights were being infringed upon by not having a public meeting to discuss the matter.

They further argued that a previous policy, which had no protections for trans students, did not violate Title IX of the Education Amendments of 1972, which states that no person in the US shall exclude or discriminate against students on the basis of sex.

The American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU) of Ohio argued that the plaintiffs lacked standing for the Title IX claim and that citing parental rights did not immediately require the school to adhere to the group’s demands.

Dismissing the case, Newman wrote that parents do not have a “constitutional right” to revoke school policies on toilet usage.

ACLU Ohio deputy legal director, David Carey, said the ruling reaffirmed that the Constitution is not a vehicle to “compel discrimination.”

He explained: “Nothing in the constitutional guarantees of parenting rights, equal protection or free exercise of religion, mandates that transgender students be excluded from gender-appropriate communal restrooms on the basis of their classmates’ beliefs and values.”

“For public schools to function, one student’s or family’s religious beliefs cannot provide a basis to exclude another student from full participation in the school environment.”

In its legal intervention arguments, the ACLU wrote that it believed the public has a “strong interest” in advancing policies that affirmatively protect transgender students and create inclusive school environments.

The LGBTQ & HIV Project staff attorney at the ACLU, Malita Picasso, said the court’s decision made it “resoundingly clear” that the rights of trans students are “not in conflict” with the rights of their peers.

“No student should have to fear discriminatory treatment every morning they walk into school, and this ruling brings us closer to the day no transgender student has to,” she added.

[protoslacker]

Sometimes you have to say what you mean, and I mean this: kids should have rights. Should not be raped by their pastors or parents or uncles and have no recourse at all. Should have support external to the family; and privacy, even. Are not property. Should not be nameless, or stateless, or forced into marriage, or shot in homeroom, or denied vaccination against measles and rubella. Children should have rights, even when—especially when—their best interests supersede the desires of their parents. I do believe we have a collective responsibility to ensure that, though we may be the only country in the world that disagrees

Talia Lavin at The Sword and the Sandwich. On the Rights of the Child, Part I

As of this writing, every U.N. member state has ratified the Convention on the Rights of the Child but one: the United States.

Convention on the Rights of the Child

[charles-le-sorcerer]

Parental rights are inherently fascist

[titleknown]

A really good article y'all should read o n the sordid history of "Parental Rights" and how they've always kind've been a dog-whistle for "Right-wingers wanting total control over their kids"

[friendraichu]

"For decades, researchers have found that child welfare agencies lean on IQ tests to assess the parental capabilities of a person with intellectual disabilities, a deviation from the test’s original and intended use of predicting academic success."

[allthecanadianpolitics]

Question period at Province House on Tuesday saw concerns raised about the long and difficult process for female couples to receive parental recognition on birth certificates.

[...] “They were not allowed to have two names, their two names, on the birth certificate,” [Clayton Park West MLA Rafah] DiCostanzo told the room of policy makers. “To my shock, I actually found out that the government actually spends time and resources calling the parents to find out how they conceived their child.” DiCostanzo says she has now heard of many female couples in Nova Scotia going through similar birth certificate struggles, one of which Global News reported on last October.

Full article

Tagging: @politicsofcanada

[she-is-the-blackbird]

It feels like my world is going to hell...

The school I work at just info dumped the new approved policy for pronoun/preferred name changes on the staff.

The first paragraph is already calling out the teachers by stating that any honest mistakes of misnaming or misgendering the student won't have serious action taken against them, but any type of tomfoolery such as repeat offenders will.

Um.

And then they also included the paperwork that the student has to fill out for the guidance counselor, and I just--- think, to myself... Why do we even need to see this? We're not the ones filling this out for the kid... This sounds like a counselor's job.

The best part is, there is an option "Do your parents know?" for the kid to check off or not, and then at the bottom of it, the paper says "The counselors if appropriate, will contact the parents."

I have never cried so much after school.

See the thing is, especially with the first paragraph, for some bizarre reason, I find that's going to be a gray area.

The admin doesn't stand up for their teachers in cases such as a dress code, (so I have zero hope for them standing by the teachers' side when this goes haywire) oh, and the dress code btw? The school I work at has the most gender-inclusive, progressive dress code known to mankind, I mEAn, we still have one, and there are standards that should be met, but I saw a girl at the end of the day today walking around with "Future Milf" on her tee shirt, and she went a whole gad-danged day without being dress coded? I have witnessed teachers send kids to the admin for dress code, only for them to come back five minutes later and they're stunned. They get a slap on the wrist? No punishment? And the funny thing is, the woman admin that sent out this pronoun paper is the same woman REMINDING teachers to dress code the students.

I just feel... Like we are going to hell. I tried contacting my priest to ask to receive holy advice if I need to go to confession to try and receive some counsel, but he told me confession is really only for sins.

I just feel so lost... The whole thing with Target and Budweiser, and everything is leaving my mouth pale... And now this at my school? Where I know parents are fighting for their rights to know what's going on in their kids' schools.

Prayers... Please send prayers, I have such a headache and I am sad all over, I can't believe this is happening at my school.

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

The face of domestic abuse is changing. It is evolving, growing wider, and more sophisticated to include behaviours that can cause extraordinary pain to a person, without lifting a finger against them.

Parental alienation is one of those things.

Underesearched, divisive, and often misunderstood, it is an emerging field of study that tells the heartbreaking story of a parent who deliberately and maliciously turns a child against the other parent.

It can come through repeated denigration, through spreading lies, through blocking access, sending hostile messages, breaking court orders, or many, many other forms.

And it is real.

There are few things more devastating than losing a child; and having one actively and wrongly turned against you, is a pain that is simply indescribable.

So what is parental alienation?

Who’s doing it? How? What are the impacts?

What can we make of the little research that has been done, into the problem that very few people are willing to discuss?

What do you think?

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[1] https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10896-019-00097-5 [2] https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1300/J087v45n01_06 [3] https://www.gov.wales/sites/default/files/publications/2018-05/review-of-research-and-case-law-on-parental-alienation.pdf [4] https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/fcre.12475

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I want to write a comment about the continued denial of parental alienation by our domestic abuse charities, such as @womens_aid

To quote Barbara Fidler and Nicholas Bala:

‘Some feminists dismiss all, or most, alienation claims as fabricated by male perpetrators of intimate partner violence, often also abusive fathers, to exert control over the victimized mother and maintain contact with children.’

The idea is that abusive men will use claims of “parental alienation” to bring children and mothers back into their life, so they can continue abusing them.

However, in a study published in the Family Court Review (2020) it was found that –

‘As for the parental alienation detractors and their meme of unreliability, it is noteworthy that *none of the 3555 case reports* documented a family court judge changing the custodial environment to a physically abusive parent.’

So yes, is this yet another paper tiger perpetuated by DV charities?

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Family Court Review: Parental Alienation in U.S. Courts, 1985 to 2018: https://sci-hub.hkvisa.net/10.1111/fcre.12475

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Ideologues, who have spent years outright denying the phenomenon of Parental Alienation, calling it "junk science" despite dozens of peer reviewed articles being written about it, have recently done a complete about-face: It exists, but only women experience it. And attempting to define it into law as "Child and Mother Sabotage" (CAMS), to fraudulently claim that men can only perpetrate Parental Alienation, and never experience it. They're just that insane and fanatical.

[breakingthenarrative]

In some places, children as young as 13 are now allowed to undergo gender reassignment surgery without parental consent.

[walrusmagazine]

“Parents’ Rights” Rhetoric Is Rooted in Radical Conspiracy Theories

Why are federal and provincial conservative leaders echoing the talking points of QAnon?

The unfortunate truth is that parents do not always have their child’s best interests at heart, and many children are not safe at home. The majority of Canadians who suffered physical abuse as children endured it at the hands of a parent or step-parent. For all the fear mongering about predatory teachers, children are fifteen times more likely to experience sexual abuse at the hands of family members. And transgender youth report far higher rates of both physical and sexual violence compared to cisgender peers. “All these policies do is empower parents who are transphobic parents,” says Ashley. “[They’re] prejudiced parents who are going to harm their children, and [it’s] granting them a legal authority to do so.”

Read more at thewalrus.ca.

[thelucidestofthemall]

"Parents should have more parental rights over their children."

Buddy, a shit-ton of parents don't even deserve human rights. Have you heard what some of these folks do to their offspring?

[coconutlimeverbena]

The thing about these Conservative parents screeching into the night about "parent's rights" and expecting school faculty to out their kids, is that they never pause to think about why their kids aren't coming to THEM.

Your child plans on coming out, and the first adult they tell is a teacher and not you? Gee, I wonder if it's because your kid hears the harmful rhetoric you spew and doesn't want to risk verbal or physical abuse just for coming out to you.

I know of people who had to have contingency plans in place at age SIXTEEN. I know of people whose parents stopped paying their phone bills or helping them through school just because they came out. I know of people who still bear the physical and emotional scars from the rage of a homophobic parent.

When kids trust you, they feel comfortable telling you things (though I'm of the belief that your kid's sexual preference is not your business, and that your role is to just teach them general sexual health in terms of protection, getting tested, etc). If your child doesn't see you as a safe space, as a soft place to land, that is your own failure, not the libs or "groomers" or whatever boogeyman you made up this week.

TL;DR: Your kids are most likely afraid to come out to you because you've made it clear that it would be unsafe to do so.

[udon-poodles]

Would appreciate a reblog cause I'm honestly quite curious.