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selfhealingmoments · 5 months
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guiltyidealist · 6 months
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Latest hobby: radical self-acceptance codependency affirmations
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I like to use over-the-top edgy imagery to invoke the ~emo~ sentiments we associate with edge, juxtaposing the aggressively self-loving text. accentuates the punk nature of radical acceptance
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yourlocaladhder · 10 months
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"It's ok to disappoint people." has got to be MOST powerful, life changing advice I have ever heard.
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deesi-academia · 1 year
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artofmaquenda · 7 months
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When you've fawned your whole life and don't really know who your authentic self is and if that really excists. Also all those repressed feelings of anger and frustrations coming out... oh well, one small bit of self at the time I guess :)
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classycookiexo · 4 months
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theambitiouswoman · 5 months
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How To Stop People Pleasing ⭐
Recognize that you have a tendency to do it. Self awareness is the first step towards change.
Try to figure out why you do it. It might be rooted in a desire for approval, fear of rejection, low self-esteem, or past experiences.
Learn to say "no" when necessary without feeling guilty, even if you feel guilty. Understand that setting boundaries is essential for your mental and emotional health.
Practice self care and prioritize your own needs and well being. This means taking time for yourself, setting personal goals, and pursuing your interests.
Figure out your core values and beliefs. Make decisions that align with your values rather than what you think will please others.
Practice assertiveness skills to communicate your thoughts, feelings, and boundaries effectively while respecting others' rights and opinions.
Reframe any negative thoughts or beliefs that drive your people-pleasing behavior. Replace them with more empowering and self-affirming thoughts.
Accept that not everyone will always be pleased with your decisions or actions. It's okay to experience discomfort, and it doesn't make you a bad person.
Be kind to yourself and acknowledge that nobody is perfect. It's okay to make mistakes and learn from them. Mistakes are a way of learning and it is okay to make them.
Start with small steps and gradually build your confidence in asserting your needs.
Write down all your thoughts, feelings, and experiences in these type of situations. This can help you gain insights and track your progress. You need to understand the issue and why you do it in order to get through it.
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safe-haven-safe-place · 3 months
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mothseatinghumanflesh · 4 months
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Und sie sagen du bist unfreundlich und gemein, dabei schützt du dich nur, weil dir so viel angetan wurde, als du nett warst.
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girlbloggerbby · 8 months
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Avoiding energy draining people/stuff
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People who ask for favors too often and you always grant them, they'll will get used to it and soon if you don't want to do it they'll will make you feel guilty and make it an obligation
Don't even think about staying up all night, it will just lead you into that vicious cycle where you have no energy and you know it
People who 80% of the time only complain never will be satisfied, don't even try to please them
If a person makes you cry or feel bad they are not good for you trust me
Boundaries. Put limits on people around you and even if it makes you seem selfish, do it. You are your highest priority and the center of your life
Delete those photos now! you know what i'm talking about
The "idgf" mentality will save you from a lot of energy draining situations, but be careful with this, this mentality only works in certain occasions
Be aware that changing and prioritizing yourself will drive many people out of your life and even if it is painful in the future it will be a relief
Take that bath, don't leave it for later (this is not about baths)
"If one doesn't want to, two won't fight" Nobody fights alone
That's it for the day, Avoiding these people and things takes time but with patience everything gets better.Stay safe, luv ya🌷
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selfhealingmoments · 3 months
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guiltyidealist · 5 months
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"I'm sorry I vented and took up your time with my bullshit" ❌
feeds abandonment fears, implies having needs and being helped with them are wrong, makes it all about you
"Thank you for being patient with me through that, I appreciate that you took the time" ✅
shows your gratitude, affirms your affinity, no "using up" anybody's effort, makes it about you both as equals
"I'm sorry I dumped without checking consent first. I need to act respectfully and ask for your permission before I vent" ✅
"I'm sorry I said x, that was inappropriate of me to put on you" ✅
"Was it okay when I said x the way I did?" ✅
"Would you like to place a boundary around that?" ✅
"What could I do/say instead that's healthier for us both?" ✅
correct an actual wrong, seize due accountability, consider their rights as much as yours, make amends, work to correct missteps going forward
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theereina · 3 months
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How do I send this to my family without sending this to my family? *quickly
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animentality · 4 months
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James ‘I’m doing completely fine’ Potter and Regulus ‘I always know when you’re lying’ Black
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