it's killing me that systems think they are faking or lying because they haven't had other alters front in a while, headspace has been silent, your communication is down, and overall just "feeling like a singlet"
because number 1, cdds have more symptoms than just alters, number 2 it's a covert disorder, and number 3, you are an alter!
no one experiences the same level of their symptoms for any of their disorders every day.
if my avoidance to food due to arfid is more noticeable some days, why is it different for having alters in osddid?
cdds are covert disorders. they will try and hide your symptoms because it's the whole point of their existence. don't blame yourself for a survival mechanism your brain created to protect you!
and I see so many people forget this, especially hosts, but you're an alter! if someone else doesn't front, that doesn't suddenly make you a singlet because you are still part of a system
you can make mistakes or be wrong, but don't fakeclaim or feed yourself misinformation in order to realise that!
One more thing before I pass out. A little thing to make selfshippers like me happy, this could be either you or your f/o in this little scenario!!
Imagine your romantic f/o tearing up a bit or full on sobbing as they cuddle you into their arms, thinking how lucky and grateful to have you. They haven't felt this kind of simple love in so long or ever, and they're experiencing this with the person they love so much. Warm tears stain the pillow as they look at you, the person that they'll be with for what seems like forever.
Your f/o loves you so much and the fact they haven't experienced this kind of love sooner in their life is criminal to them. You mean so much to them as much as they mean so much to you. Your warm love and support for them, your voice and how gentle it is to their ears, the way your eyes softens each time you seem them, everything. Whether they're holding you or you're holding them, they feel so safe with you especially right before slumber.
Your f/O loves you and can never be more thankful to have you. <3
reminder: your f/o is YOURS. nobody sees the character in the exact same way as you- everyone’s perception of them is at least a little different. your version is yours and nobody else’s <3
as a system of colour, I just want to set stuff straight about alter race.
alters can have different skin colours to the body, but that does not make them a different race than the body. skin colour is just part of someone's appearance while race has multiple factors to it such as culture.
being a poc is an experience that only someone who is bodily a poc will understand, hence why "alter race" is just impossible.
it's like how an adult alter in a minor bodied system will not have the same mentality as an actual adult since the brain only has the experience of a minor to base that alter off of.
also I know that I've been focusing on poc, but this applies to any race