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reasonsforhope · 1 year
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"It's easy to lose touch with friends, especially when you live far apart. And sometimes the longer you've gone without speaking to someone, the harder it feels to pick up where you left off. However, a new study suggests that reaching out to pals—especially ones that you have not talked to in a while—is even more appreciated than initially thought.
“People are fundamentally social beings and enjoy connecting with others. Yet, despite the importance and enjoyment of social connection, do people accurately understand how much other people value being reached out to by someone in their social circle?” the study asks. To answer this question, the authors gathered 5,900 participants and put them through a series of experiments.
In one scenario, half of the participants were asked to remember the last time they contacted a friend they had fallen out of touch with, then estimate on a seven-point scale how appreciative the person was (with one being the lowest score, and seven being the highest). Then, the other half of the participants were prompted to recall a time when someone had reached out to them and assign a number to how grateful they were. When these two groups were compared, the researchers found that people greatly underestimated the value of reaching out to someone.
“Across a series of preregistered experiments, we document a robust underestimation of how much other people appreciate being reached out to,” the authors continue. “We find evidence compatible with an account wherein one reason this underestimation of appreciation occurs is because responders (vs. initiators) are more focused on their feelings of surprise at being reached out to. A focus on feelings of surprise in turn predicts greater appreciation.”
In another experiment, participants were told to send a note and small gift to a friend they had not interacted with for a long period of time. They were then asked to estimate on a numerical scale how thankful the person would be because of the contact. Additionally, the receivers of the gifts were asked to rank their feelings upon accepting the gift on the same seven-number scale. Once again, the gift-givers greatly underestimated how much their gesture meant to the other person.
The study concluded that reaching out to people—particularly those that you've lost contact with—is almost always appreciated. It can seem challenging to maintain healthy social interactions, especially due to an increased amount of people working from home and a lack of opportunities. But clearly, the evidence suggests that a little extra effort is worth it.
“For those treading back into the social milieu with caution and trepidation,” the study adds, “feeling woefully out of practice and unsure, our work provides robust evidence and an encouraging green light to go ahead and surprise someone by reaching out.”"
-via My Modern Met, 7/31/22
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gaiastudiess · 1 year
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1.11.23 - Wednesday
Feeling really warm and fuzzy today. Happy to have bit the bullet and start posting on here unapologetically, its helping me get amped up for the semester starting next week. Following studyblrs and starting one give me a sense of community that feels empowering. Speaking of a new semester, I have decided to start the 100 days of productivity challenge to get me back in the groove for classes.
Marking today, Day 1 of 100 days of productivity!
Currently sitting at the island during my lunch break, I’m currently a nanny as I continue my studies. I love the natural light that enters this home I spend most of my days at, warm lighting is forever better than using the “big” overhead lights!
Really wishing my professors would send the syllabi sooner rather than later, I enjoy filling up my calendar with assignment dates and reading blocks in advance to keep things as organized as possible. Hoping to hear from them soon. Super excited for the classes I’m taking this semester too
- Intro to Psychedelic Assisted Therapy
- Diagnostic Psychopathology
- Transpersonal Psychology
- Compassion Training for Therapists OR Independent Study w/ my favorite professor
(not sure if I want to take the compassion training this semester and leave a spot open for the independent study or take the independent study this semester and leave the compassion training for the summer semester 😅)
My second year of herbal apprenticeship is also starting up soon, my mentor moved recently so the dates we meet are being changed around, it seems as though I’ll be in the forests foraging on the weekends instead of a weekday! This is great for blocking study times out for these two separate programs.
Today’s To-Do:
- Testimonial for herbal apprenticeship
- Read 3 chapters of The Wise Heart
- Read before bed, for fun (not school)
- Clean sheets
- Water plant babies
- Meditate
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alright. heightened self awareness is a problem w psych students. i know. now tell me how to tackle it.
yes , ive accepted the problem first, now go on to the next step pls
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Hi
I wanted to ask you one question?
Why do you focus so much on the point that the boys are all toxic and ignore the lateral side of them?
I agree with you, they insulted the heroine a lot, raped her and subjected her to violence, and they all have psychological trauma since childhood and psychological complexes as a result of parental neglect or bad environment.
But we cannot say that they are unable to love properly to understand love
Many times they have taken care of Biwi and her health and treated her kindly and from them and make an effort to make her happy, worry about her and defend her. All these actions indicate that they can change for the better.
You can't convince me that they won't treat Yui nicely and take care of her with some game details and take care of her happiness
So after Yue I taught them the meaning of love and brought them out of the darkness they were in and they knew true love Is it impossible for them to become good with their wife and children Yes it is possible that they have hurt their wife before marriage and harassed her but after I don't think after they fell in love it will be the same thing
You say the abuser can never change, why not? Everyone has chances to change. They are all psychopaths and emotionally drained. They may need someone like Yue who can tolerate them, teach them love, guide them in the right path, and then they will automatically change.
To clarify:I noticed that in many of your posts you describe children as very toxic, so I wanted to discuss with you and understand your point of view. I have no intention of attacking or criticizing. We are all free and we all have different opinions, but I wanted to understand your point of view more,
Hi angel, sorry this took a long time. I've been busy for a bit!
Whilst I have expected this question, it was  certainly not like this. Whilst a recent trend of my posts seems very bitter, on my master list I have plenty of softer content for the boys. I suppose this is about the father headcanons, it is honestly just how I perceive them.
Whilst their “emotional growth” is often a large part of many of the routes, I simply don't believe they have yet developed and gained the growth for the patience and care to raise a child.
Also, another thing I cannot agree with is that their complexes are entirely stemmed from their childhood, whilst I do empathise with what they were put through as children it shouldn't be used to excuse their actions. As one of my mutuals has stated before, what they were put through can explain many of their actions and their subconscious reactions to things but should never be used to excuse and let their actions slide past.
Under no circumstance, am I saying this as an ambassador for all children who have undergone trauma as children, I am not qualified for that but I really am just stating observations from their characteristics.
I also think they are capable of unlearning their twisted form of love from their parents and actual affection, which is precisely why I hold them accountable for their actions. If they do not truly regret what they have done or lack the ability to admit they have done some seriously messed up things they still have not properly matured enough for a relationship.
This is why I agree to disagree with your point, yes yui comes along and teaches them how to “love” someone. But my issue is that if they are becoming dependent on this one person to become better, it's not self-development that won't last. 
The biggest proof of this is whilst there are many great routes where they develop there are still some horrific endings for yui, I personally do not believe it is just to monopolise one person and control everything they do and after dealing with all their dehumanising behaviour being rewarded with affection. No matter how much their relationship develops, they originate their relationship between victim and abuser.
And I agree they need someone to help but that person should never be your significant other. All the qualities you've stated for them to improve on are things they should work on with a therapist or psychologist, not a vulnerable 16-year-old girl who barely knows anything about the world.
I also under no circumstances say they cannot change, everyone can change it just. Does it change if after centuries of no remorse to any of their previous victims they tell yui the only person they will prey on is her? Is that fair to her? If she ever wants to leave would they let her? If their attitude towards one person changes, will it change towards all humans? The boys have developed their intellect over the years of living, they have stated they are aware they’re playing with these girls, and that they enjoy torturing them.
Can their actions solely be blamed on how they were raised?
Now I don't quite understand what you mean by I've said children were toxic but yeah, those are my thoughts on the matter.
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h-0-n-3-y-d-3-w · 2 months
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tiffanytoms · 1 year
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Such a good video about the differences between LOVE ❤️ and DESIRE 😏:
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Desire comes with a host of feelings that are not always so favorites of love… jealousy, possessiveness, aggression, power, dominance, naughtiness, mischief. Basically most of us will get turned on at night by the very same things we demonstrate against during the day. The erotic mind is not very politically correct.
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So I was talking about my therapist and how the video games and all that are good for people but it can be (as well as technology) detrimental to children's mental health.
Remember the "video games make shooters"? That isn't true. But with younger kids playing shooting games, it does make them aggressive. Shooting? No. Aggressive? Yes.
Like we've had it where parents have tried to make a child stop playing a video game because they're addicted and children have broken things, thrown things at their parents, and or attacked their parents for trying to take away the game/make them stop to do other things.
She seems to think that this is the fault of technology and electronic items. Which it's... not. A lot of it is when to introduce electronics and games, what kind of relationship these kids have with their parents, and what kinds of games these kids are playing.
An 8 year old should not be playing a shooting game with blood and gore and violence. Parents need to be researching what a game is, what is in it, and be sure it's appropriate for their kid. (Some kids can handle more mature games for their age, this is a discretion parents need to have with their kids and how they act.)
A 16 year old is not going to be turned into a shooter just because they play a shooting game. Most of what they determine and how they judge actions being okay is going to be determined by how parents taught them about games and fictional situations.
Anyway.
My point is, people need to stop thinking electronics are bad in general. Can they influence young impressionable minds? Yes. Is a child playing a video game once going to magically turn them into a serial killer? No.
Teach your kids about fiction and what is real and fake and be sure to monitor their content until you are sure they can handle something. THAT is how you help keep a child from making mistakes or being "brainwashed" by electronics. Good relationships, boundaries, and how to deal with situations are good.
This isn't to say kids are the problem by the way. Kids are not the issue. Parents not wanting to help mold their kids into good people or just throwing a tablet at their 4 year old to keep them busy are the issue.
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tobermoriansass · 2 years
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critiques of leftist critiques of anti-psychiatry are always like "well what do you want people to do be like 'yeah this job is hurting me' or 'yeah these meds aren't good for me" and its like no my god, no, that's not what people are saying. what people are saying is that psychiatry as a profession is geared towards making productive citizens of society (literally the dsm criteria for everything is 'clinically/significantly impairing your daily function' which guess what applies to your job) which is not conducive to building a system of care that allows complete and actual recovery and healing. its battlefield medicine designed to keep sending soldiers out over and over again to get injured in the exact same way over and over again.
anyway obviously i'm thinking about this in the context of like my consistent and ongoing nervous breakdown which culminated in a suicide attempt in may where like i followed all the rules set out in like every guide on How To Navigate The Workplace With Mental Illness by like a) alerting my boss that i would not be as productive, b) actively moving to delegate things to other people, c) trying to say no to things. but guess what! none of that shit helped because it was a bandaid on a) the fact that there is a toxic work culture going on, b) despite doing less i was also doing more because people would ask 'can you do this' and the well the flip side to it was no, there was no one else who could do it but me and everyone involved knew this and c) working a full time job when you are trying to deal with reevaluating your entire life and your relationship to your family and who you are as a person is just not a cognitive load the human brain is equipped to deal with, especially not after years of low-grade depression and dysphoria.
like, the left critique of psychiatry is ultimately about the limits of psychiatric and psychological care. i think people should be allowed to say "i am trying to heal, but there are structures actively preventing that if not worsening it and those structures have to do with the way our capitalist society functions". i think we should be allowed to recognize that we don't have to bear the personal responsibility for our mental healthcare and our inability to "get better" without having to resort to purely neurobiological models (that often are not fully substantiated) to justify this.
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rotten-maggots · 7 days
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thedietcokedude · 1 year
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i’m like 90% sure i have some kind of psychomotor retardation going on but i’m honestly unsure if this is a “bring it up at my next appointment” thing or a “do something now” thing because while it’s a symptom of things i’m diagnosed with i’ve never experienced it before.
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noecoded · 6 months
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heartbreaking:the worst people you know just started an emo band
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sophsun1 · 3 months
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Psych – 5.14: The Polarizing Express
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bullshiting my way through life
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forecast0ctopus · 7 months
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every 2000s show with its bizarre plethora of masculinity jokes
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ninicaise · 4 months
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what's so refreshing about will as a character is that he doesn't throw a denial tantrum about it at any point like most characters with Darkness Within Them do. he's not a moral paragon, his angst and secretkeeping don't get annoying at any point. and i think it's because there's no contrast between who will Really Is, which is Good and True, and the dark king as his shadow or his dark self.
will is the dark king. he behaves like the dark king. he lies and he manipulates and he's a "sneak" and he's scaringly charming and he's possessive over james and a ton of other messed up shit and he tells himself it's for a good reason, and maybe it is!! and will is clearly you know. a Good Person. while his methods are sneaky, he does not actually do anything wrong. but those are his methods still, and they are cool moments and badass and also kind of eerie.
with the way he's written, i would argue will doesn't have or even need a corruption arc, he's just like that from the get-go and he's not gonna change. and i don't mean he was born evil or whatever other bullshit i mean that he was born a full person, including the dark king and will both, and there's complexity, but no clear line separates them.
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mynameismad · 2 years
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They’re just little guys!!!!!! LITTLE VEGGIE BABIES!!!! 
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