#rape culture mention

[deadoveater]

Watch on twitter if you need subtitles.

[thatdiabolicalfeminist]

Am I the only one disturbed by the fact that 99% of what I'm seeing on social media about the Andrew Tate situation is funney jokes about how pwned he got??

This is a man who has built a career on publicly dehumanising women and encouraging other men to abuse women. Has made repeated public comments blaming rape victims in general for what they endured.

And it's just been made widespread public knowledge that he has committed horrific acts of violence based on those beliefs.

And that other public figures visited the home where he was imprisoning women to commit those acts against them and may have participated in that violence.

I get how there would be SOME jokes about his hubris etc but the fact that they're almost the entire conversation right now is deeply, deeply disturbing to me.

[ace-culture-is]

Ace culture is outright stating at the start of a relationship that you're not in it for sex and still somehow ending up being guilt tripped into it </3

Ooookay PSA time.

Being guilt tripped into sex is rape.

Just straight up. You didn't consent. Being guilted into sex is not consensual.

Anon I really hope you broke up with that person and found proper resources to help you.

[roadside-oddity]

There is a Rampant and Vicious Cycle in the Online Left That Needs to Be Addressed

Every leftist needs to understand that not every proclaimed leftist is a safe person or one that is acting in good faith. Many people in this sphere --even if they are minorities themselves-- are Abusers. Let me be clear: they are Abusers REGARDLESS of --NOT because of-- them being a minority. Despite this, many of them have weaponized their standing as a minority in order to get away with their behavior and achieve what they see as some form of power and control over others. Let me be clear. I am referring to those that:

Manipulate and lie about pressing situations (especially when it's to harm another person or demographic)

Excessively use idpol to either elevate themselves to holier than thou levels ("listen to ___ people but only when it's something I agree with, which just so happens to devolve from constructive change to making others grovel and plead forgiveness endlessly before me") or belittle others (ie their skin color, gender, queerness, disability, neurodivergence, religion, age, etc.) in order to discount their point or not treat them as equal human beings; yes, even if their skin tone is white or if they are men, abuse does not have to be backed up by systemic issues in order to be abusive or at the very least harmful (sidenote: this does not apply to people talking about their experiences as a minority that is otherwise not experienced or understood by others, the issue I'm pointing out is when it's twisted to cover everything not directly tied to their identity and proclaim themselves as the only ones allowed to be the voice of reason, therefore shutting up everyone else and to avoid any constructive criticism or discussion)

Act on rage and at times even trauma to bring forth harmful ideals (ex: truly hating every person of a demographic, wishing for a genocide, making actual death or rape threats towards someone or a group, conversion, etc)(sidenote: I'm not discounting those that have trauma and even have harmful thoughts, just please seek help and understand that it is not healthy nor sustainable to paint or alter reality to be in line with what trauma makes you believe)

Actively try to get others they don't agree with to either permanently leave the internet or commit suicide and even celebrate when either happens

Excessively test others on their "purity" on unachievable standards to the detriment of everyone and Leftism as a whole (purity culture is fueled by christian culture in order to disguise doomerism, accepting defeat when change is not possible, of which is the very thing that will kill leftism)

Infight over weird made up issues (remember how divide and conquer is a war strategy? To split hairs and discount others for non-issues is to do the work of conservatives and nazis for them)

Shut down people or discussions over minor slights such as using an incorrect word/phrasing or any numerous perceived mistakes (example I've seen here: berating a person with schizophrenia (or a trans person or any other minority) for using a derogatory term for themselves when they're talking about how everyone else is speaking over them and not listening), ignoring the hypocrisy or not taking into account any number of mundane causes such as non-native english speakers, generational gaps, being in the process of learning (either recovering from harmful beliefs or simple ignorance), using those terms to prove a point (such as that example I mentioned above), neurodivergence, etc.

Not letting others talk about their experiences of oppression when those experiences don't match theirs, instead opting to call those people bigoted for contrived reasons

A rejection of nuance, intersectionalism, and even reality to better suit their goals (ex: claiming that every trans man benefits from the patriarchy and can never experience misogyny)

Misuse of therapy speak and terminology in order to water down those terms and render them near meaningless so they can weaponize them under the pretense of their original use (ex: gaslighting), or to cut off any need to connect or sympathize with other human beings and instead speak to them like a PR message (refer to this video by Zena and Poppy for reference)

They never speak on true leftist/progressive ideals or positive change, they only engage in destructive discourse or any behavior listed above

Making baseless dangerous accusations towards someone they don't like. Before you go harr harr you're doing that, I'm not calling out any specific person and am merely listing dangerous behaviors I've seen people here act out. What I am referring to are when someone casually calls someone specific a predator (or whatever else) with absolutely zero proof and expecting everyone to believe them no questions asked. This has been shown to ruin people's lives

Any other similar behaviors not included in this list (as well as classic logical fallacies), but what I've mentioned above should paint you a good picture

Every example I've pointed out were REAL EVENTS I've seen from people that proclaim themselves as leftists or even just progressive, and sometimes are even minorities themselves (some even infight against their own communities using the behaviors listed above, often out of internalized bigotry)(an example of a real event that happened here recently were when several people were making rape threats towards a trans man by the username of @a-faggot-with-opinions). To be blunt, I'm pointing out exclusionism in practically every form, asexual discourse, transandrophobia, TERFs/radfems, TEHMs, tankies, "cornbreadtube", nationalists and ethnonationalists, and all else I don't have the terminology for For many of the people that fall under that bullet list I would hesitate to even refer to them as leftist or progressive, as they never seem to actually show they act on it or even believe in it, only making an appearance in those communities for their own destructive personal gain; hell, often times they have ideals that directly go against what those communities stand for! Examples include TERFs with white supremacist beliefs, transandrophobes that are misogynistic, ethnonationalists that are antisemitic, puritans that are ableist, the list goes on forever. Once you know what to look for, you can see the hidden or overt bigotry behind their false "progressive" statements

No one is infallible No one is better than everyone else You are not immune to propaganda No one is immune from behaving abusively

These people are dangerous, whether they actually qualify as abusers --as I've been referring to them as such for brevity and impact-- or are people that are engaging in hurtful or fully abusive behavior (use this paragraph as a disclaimer, I of course can't know if someone is an abuser in real life unless there is documented evidence of such). Regardless, they are hurting the left and are letting the right win

If you see any of these behaviors either 1) take caution if you're unsure, 2) block them, or 3) if you have the fortitude, call them out. Either way, use your best judgement and think for yourself (or discuss with good faith leftists if you're uncertain). And remember, often times (albeit not always) they are actually fully aware of their disgusting behavior and are choosing to act maliciously, not ignorantly.

Stay safe, log off, do what you can to support your local community and leftism as a whole, don't let these people distract from the real issues at hand. Have empathy, if you don't have empathy then act in compassion, if you don't or refuse to do either please do not engage in politics. Misanthropy has no place in matters concerning humanity.

And remember: we have to stand together in unity so we can create a better future for all

[amaliazeichnerin]

About the Neil Gaiman allegations

August 11, 2024 I’ve written a blog about the allegations with some linked material.

And here are some more thoughts about this.

In the podcast „Am I Broken: Survivor Stories“ by Papillon DeBoer (Season 4, Episode 2), Claire talks about something Neil Gaiman said to her:

„I am a wealthy man and I am used to getting what I want.“

This sums up a systemic issue. Wealthy, powerful, influential older white cis men taking advantage again and again of very young (or not so young) female fans or other women, sexually assaulting them - and in Neil Gaiman’s case later claiming it was all consensual. Look at Harvey Weinstein. Jeffrey Epstein. Till Lindemann of the band Rammstein. Jimmy Savile. And so many more.

Even if the allegations cannot be proven in court (as was the case with Till Lindemann), this kind of terrible, entitled behaviour is deeply problematic and unethical.

If you would like to read a bit more about this topic and rape culture (and also consent culture), I can highly recommend the queer feminist non-fiction book „Sexual Revolution: Modern Fascism and the Feminist Fightback“ by Laurie Penny (they/them) which was published in 2022.

Addendum August 14, 2024

A quote from a blog post by Maureen Ryan matches what I wanted to say:

"But, speaking generally, I have a lot of experience dealing with egotistical people (most often men) who exist inside a bubble of fame, money, influence and praise, who are used to getting their way, who do not mind throwing their weight around, and who are not unwilling to throw inconvenient people under the bus, especially if those people are female or from a historically marginalized group. 

This is what the systems of power, influence and money in creative spheres do: They are structures that place supposed Great Artists or powerful rainmakers beyond the realm of accountability, humility, responsibility and consequences. Great Artists and power players (even the mediocre ones) who misuse their positions don’t do it alone: They receive help, silent endorsement, enabling and all kinds of ass-covering courtesy of those who want to attach themselves to the coattails of the Great Artist or the Big-Time Rainmaker."

[tinkaqueer]

Tw Rape Mention

Rape trauma does funny things to your psyche sometimes because I'm pretty sure my rape trauma is at least partially responsible for my obsessive incest kink but at the same time I don't think I'll ever be okay with receiving anal due to the exact same rape trauma.

[balkanradfem]

woman: /disagrees with something a m*n says

everyone: not only is she hysterical, insane, wrong, crazy, evil, selfish and cruel, but she deserves to be mass bullied, persecuted, tortured and violated in every possible way for what she’s done, she needs to face the Consequences!!!

m*n: /physically tortures a woman in the most intimate and traumatic way possible

everyone: well, punishing him would set up a dangerous precedent that rape of women is suddenly wrong, also it would hurt his career prospects, and anyway boys will be boys lets forgive him instantly and focus on what that woman might have done to bring this on herself!!

[jewish-microwave-laser]

just saw someone with my own two eyes say you're not allowed to be interested in cnc if you're not a survivor of rape or sexual assault. as if no afab/fem person ever has walked home at night with their keys between their fingers or their finger on the button of their pepper spray. as if drink tampering isn't super prevalent in both gay and straight bars and something all of us warn each other about. as if nobody's changed their outfit because they could practically hear the echoes of "they were asking for it" if the worst case scenario came true. as if you only start being afraid of your autonomy and safety being taken away if it's already happened to you once before

the internet is certainly a place

[ace-culture-is]

sex-repulsed/averse ace culture is realizing that the closest rep you have in fandom is SA fics

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[spot-the-antisemitism]

https://www.tumblr.com/imajicaagency/756061981558046720/the-role-of-jupiter-in-roman-society-and-its

Oh look we've got our first pagan dude using pagan gods for various modern conflicts and modern peoples

Gross culturally appopriative bandwagon riding shit

Very qualified man

whole lotta nothing in a pretty package

what do you want us to do, Andrew?

which synagongues do you want your followers to bomb in the name of Pagan gods, Andrew?

OOOH that's such projection from a LITERAL CULT LEADER

Really of the gods you choose the one who is a famous rapist, Andrew? Is THAT how you see palestineans, Andrew? Racist much

[nathanieljean]

( I know this whole post is VERY janky, and i apologize in advance for anyone reading it. English isn't my native language, but I wanted to share my thoughts. And because this post is very janky, there will probably be so many places where my words sound wrong even in context, so apologies for that as well. I have the idea but not the words to put it out there, basically.)

A lot of people, even in feminist spaces, are not ready to hear this and will probably clutch their pearls when they hear this. But it has to be said;

You cannot dismantle rape culture without dismantling purity culture.

Purity culture sometimes tells women and girls that their bodies are something sacred, and other times it tells them that they are sinful since it causes men to lust after them. In both cases, women and girls are told to cover themselves up to be modest, and thus avoid sexual predation.

You CANNOT claim that this and rape culture aren't interlinked, this objectification and the so called 'otherness' of the female body. Modesty doesn't protect women and girls, not when it is imposed as a means of protection from rape. If you preach that modesty is a necessity for women and girls to stay protected, then you're also justifying rape against those who 'fail' to follow these rules. You're saying that, by the virtue of being nude, being sexually active and being flirtatious a woman is asking to be raped, and this rape is justified because it wouldn't have happened if she had followed those rules of modesty and purity.

I'm so sick and tired of people who claim to be anti-rape being pro-purity and pro-modesty. No, I am not saying that women who dress modestly should be shamed out of doing so, or that nudity is empowering. What I'm saying is that policing women and putting the responsibility of saving themselves from predation by men is an act of violence in itself, which allows for justification of rape and harrasment.

Mystification of female bodies is just as bad as sexualisation of female bodies.

[langernameohnebedeutung]

The thing about Andrew Tate's arrest is - he's a horrible, vile, disgusting human being and I hope he gets everything he deserves. No question. But at the end of the day people like him - singular individuals - are really just symptoms of the society that allows them to thrive and prosper.

Regardless of what happens to Andrew Tate, I don't want it to be forgotten how many men supported and defended the guy (still do!) and followed him and celebrated his return to Twitter and attacked any women who dared criticise him - usually with disgusting, sexualised insults and harassment. Men who idolised him, just for the way he talks about raping and using and controlling women. I don't want it forgotten that teachers had teenage boys who listened to Andrew Tate and abused their female fellow students with his/their misogyny. Especially if he gets a long sentence, I don't want there to be a collective sentiment of 'no one ever supported him and this was just one nutjob, wow, wild how all of that happened'.

There is also a great number of men who pushed back against Tate and his fans and didn't want anything to do with his dehumanisation of women and their hatred and I'm grateful to them for speaking up and I actually feel sorry for them when Tate-supporters speak in their name about women, too. But there simply is also a large number of guys, and not just from the 'manosphere' and Red Pill circles, who supported Tate, no matter how horrible the things he said and did were. In fact, they supported him because of how horrible these things were and how far he went. And these guys are still out there and their hatred is still out there. Their potential to financially and morally support the next woman-hating piece of shit is still out there. I see their rhetoric so often now and it's terrifying. I feel like we're just going to go on with our lives, the same as we did after all of these incel terror attacks. But a matter of fact is, the whole red-pill-sphere their supporters is a time-bomb and they absolute despise women and their ideology is becoming more and more nomalised and present. And it scares me and it has me worried about what it means for the culture young girls grow up into.

[shewhotellsstories]

[ichverdurstehier]

So much for "believe all women"

Hey, that twelve year old girl from France or somewhere who got called a "dirty Jew" as three boys raped her? Is that a fake accusation? The boys that had pro Hamas shit on their phone?

TWELVE YEARS OLD.

And before you say something like "oh but look at this bad thing Israel did" how does that justify raping a twelve year old girl???

Yes, Israel does bad stuff. Attacking a twelve year old girl doesn't fix that!! What the fuck

To the little girl, wherever you are, you did not deserve it. It was not your fault. You did not deserve rape for being Jewish. No one deserves rape

[anexperimentallife]

Dude, so Tumblr is now showing ads for a "sleep spray" where the ad clearly shows the product is intended for use in rape and assault?

The advertisement opens with a woman fast asleep, and a man's hands starting to undress her, then goes on to show users spraying the drug into other people's faces--who are just minding their own business walking down the street or sitting peacefully in their car--with the victims immediately passing out.

To be clear, I know Tumblr staff does not personally review every ad--I understand how advertisement auctions work. I also understand that it is very unlikely this thing works as advertised. Also, yeah, I reported it under the category of "inappropriate," although that seems like the understatement of the year.

But that something like this is openly advertised ANYWHERE is chilling.

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

npd is agreeing with a lot of things ppl say on here but not fully which makes you feel good cuz wow your experiences are soooooo unique but also seeing some sad messed up shit on here and feeling jealous because it feels like your trauma is smaller than an ant and not enough and you won't be taken seriously by anyone which always happens because every time you go in a space dedicated to traumatised individuals to vent you always see ppl who have it the absolute worst to the point where ur trauma feels like it isn't even trauma and you should be perfectly fine because how can a few beatings fuck you up so badly when everyone is out here surviving horrible things like rape and csa or even just beatings all the time/very often while you got mediocrely beat once in a while so you secretly wish and hope for the most terrible things to happen for an excuse and even trying to make it happen but failing and then you feel worse and you realise there will never be a place for you anywhere because ur too damaged to be around non-mentally ill ppl but when ur around mentally ill ppl ur trauma is so nonimportant and stupid and tiny you wonder how it exists at all

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