#rejection sensitivity

[thepeacefulgarden]

[deiim]

rejection sensitivity is so fucking lame. like boo hoo look at me i felt mildly ignored for 30 seconds and already started planning my own funeral liKE BITCH CHILL it was never that serious

[beautyinthediss0nance]

[strawby-jelli]

You ever just realize mid sentence that nobody cares about what you have to say? It’s horrible with your friends, soul crushingly so, but it’s also pretty bad with like, your family or just random people. You just suddenly become hyper aware that, to everyone around you, whatever you’re saying has absolutely no significance to them. It’s not important, not humorous, just noise they have to tune out. I was just telling my parents how I thought Friday the 13th should have been made into a scary-movie-style musical film where, in every song that Jason appears, there’s just a big gap of silence where he’d be expected to sing, and I suddenly realized nobody thought this was a funny idea.

[king-wilhelm]

Percy being clueless about the quest vs percy immediately clocking Annabeth's weird behavior is so so adhd of him like that rejection sensitivity is setting alarms off in your head huh. Same.

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Rejection Sensitivity

Neurodiverse Journeys

[canisalbus]

Did Machete ever feel guilty when he raised his voice to Vasco? (I don't know if this has already been asked)

Absolutely. To be fair, Machete barely ever raises his voice (he's more of a quiet, grudgeful, seething type), and he has more patience for Vasco than everyone else combined.

But when he does, he instantly spirals into despair and self-loathing and is usually the first to apologize, profusely.

[silvermoon424]

Someone: *criticizes me*

My rejection sensitive dysphoria:

[eat-rock]

rsd is absolutely insane because it will feel like someone is tearing apart the very core of my being, insulting everything i have done and will ever do, condemning me to death and simultaneously wishing i was never born, when actually they just didn’t like a song i showed them

[desultory-suggestions]

Sending love to those with RSD who struggle with criticism at work/in school. It took me a long time to understand why it felt like a gut punch when my boss told me to tweak a design I made or a professor left critiques (even on an A+ paper.) I automatically felt I had failed if there was something to critique. If I didn't fail everything would be perfect, right? Well no! Everything can be changed or improved. It takes practice to start seeing these critiques as rewards that help make you stronger, but once you do a whole new world of confidence opens up.

[bunnighost]

[thepeacefulgarden]

[bambiraptorx]

I think the most exhausting part of being ND is that since I didn't get the Social Interaction Software that everyone else did, I'm constantly trying to manage people's perception of me so I don't accidentally come off as rude or mean or uninterested or nervous or awkward or stupid, and I never know if I actually succeed

[avpdrecovery]

“A third way to react is self-isolation is where you prevent yourself from any further opportunity to be ostracized, by being by yourself, by being alone, by not allowing the possibility for rejection, exclusion, ostracism. This also allows the person to regain some of the needs that have been threatened [by ostracism]: it gives them control, you can't fire me, I quit. You end up taking control of a situation and preventing ostracism by not allowing it to even happen in the first place.

We know that some people become what we call rejection-sensitive. They experience rejection and exclusion early in their life and then they expect it to happen all the time and so they're always on the lookout and prevent themselves from getting in the situations where they could be rejected. They see it when it's not happening, and so on. While both aggression and self-isolation fortify the needs [threatened by ostracism] neither one of them lead to re-inclusion.”

– Kipling D. Williams, Full PreFrontal Podcast Episode 191

[alabyte]

Just a meme about how it feels like for me

[cryptcatz]

i hate how much of my life revolves around asking myself “am i being overly sensitive/dramatic or are my feelings valid here?”. being so easily hurt and upset sucks. i feel like im too soft for this world