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messrsbyler · 11 months
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you. yes you, person with rejection sensitive dysphoria. this message is for you. your friends DON'T hate you. they aren't mad at you. they aren't talking behind your back or wished to cut their friendship with you. they love you and treasure you and they are good people who wouldn't hurt you like that! ok, that's all. have a nice day.
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beautyinthediss0nance · 8 months
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rainbowpopeworld · 6 months
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Am I the only one who gets their rejection sensitive dysphoria activated when a post you really care about doesn’t get many notes?
(it’s going to be really ironic if this is one of those 🙃😅)
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jesterkilljoy · 3 months
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being autistic while dealing with rejection sensitive dysphoria is so fun sometimes cause like. i simultaneously understand just typing/receiving "k" as a response and am absolutely fucking terrified of it
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schattenhonig · 4 months
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Friendly reminder if you are suffering from RSD and are just very insecure about what is ok in a relationship and/or friendship:
if your s/o or crush had a rough week at work and you have been fussing over them but they say they don't need anything right now, trust them. And if you're like me and now you feel like you're suffocating them, like you're the clingiest person ever and you generally messed it all up and they hate you now, breathe. Just breathe for a moment.
If that was the case, they'd probably tell you. Unless they told you you f*cked up, things are probably ok. And even if they aren't ok, you can't travel back in time (unless you have a TARDIS, in that case I'd like to re-visit some moments for... science) it already happened and you can only learn from it. I know, for this occasion it's too late and the rejection and the shame hurt like hell. Breathe.
You are still learning to love each other right (and I mean love in all kinds and flavours, like platonically or romantically or any and all of what this can be). There's no shame in that. You showed how much you care about them, that's nothing to be ashamed of. You maybe even made yourself vulnerable by asking them if you're being too much. That is intimacy. I hope they can respond in an equally honest and caring way. If they can't handle it, that's ok, it doesn't mean you did something wrong.
I guess what I needed to hear tonight, and I think some of you too, is: don't beat yourself up for caring a lot. And especially don't beat yourself up for being brave enough to show it. This was not a mistake. This was a tiny piece of a bigger puzzle that may eventually become an honest and trusting relationship. Now go get yourself a glass of water or a cup of tea, breathe a little more and cuddle your favourite plushie, pet or person.
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When someone gives the advice of “don’t be afraid to disappoint your parents” they don’t just mean taking music theory in college or starting a YouTube channel.
It also means wearing things they might not approve of. Using accommodations that they might not think you need. Not falling for their guilt trips. Eating when you’re hungry, not when it suits them and their idea of your weight or health. Making your own friends instead of seeking the stamp of approval from them.
Of course, some parents are stricter than others, and some use abuse to keep you from expressing yourself. But do what you can, even if it seems small.
Otherwise, when your parents are no longer in the picture, you’ll try to find it somewhere else to get validation. A strict boss, an abusive partner, a selfish friend.
Going against your parent’s wishes is developmentally healthy. Not doing so stunts your independence and self-regulation. You shouldn’t be living to constantly please others, even the people who love you.
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og-in-a-bog · 4 months
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My boss: Can I talk to you real quick?
Me, on the verge of tears and wanting to sink into the earth and die: yeah sure whats. Whats up
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fandomsoda · 11 months
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/gen free for anyone to use if they also happen to need it, don’t need to credit me
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performing-personhood · 4 months
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Adventures in object permanence and not fucking having any: Christmas edition
Husband's Xmas present came in the mail today. My afternoon plan had been to wrap presents, so I put it on the table to wrap first. So that was at like, 7am.
But by the afternoon, I had forgotten why it seemed to imoortant to wrap gifts - I still have time to mail them out to Kentucky, why was it such a big deal? I wanted to shower and make cookies instead so that's what I did.
Then Husband came home and squeaked and covered his eyes and that is when I remembered the three foot long box sitting unwrapped on the table I have been walking past since 7am. Which has ceased to exist to me until he said something.
At least I don't have to wrap it now???
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artemisvexing · 7 months
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RSD is a bitch, I tell you.
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Audhd culture is hyperfixating for hours making posts on tumblr.com only to end up with hundreds of drafts because even though it’s the only place you feel okay being yourself the combo of rejection sensitivity dysphoria + fear of being perceived still constantly keeps you from sharing anonymously with complete strangers on the internet
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feralboo-the-weirdo · 7 months
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I want a big friend group. A friend group where everyone feels safe to be themselves, to be happy and to be sad and to be a chaotic mix in the middle. I want a friend group where being nerodivergent is not only okay but normal. Where we help each other with our impossible tasks where it's okay to not be on top performance, to be struggling to have accommodations. I want a friend group where we can stay up all night and be laughing as we make breakfast the next morning. I want a friend group that feels like what a family is supposed to be. Where everyone is celebrated as they are. Where we're constantly encouraging each other to improve and be better but it's not malignant. Where softness is a strength, where everyone is so comfortable around each other our walls start to fall. where support is a given. Where it's not enmeshed, we still have boundaries, but it's safe. Where we're close not because we have to be but because we want to be. Where we go on chaotic adventures and things are still safe. A group of friends where you forget how lonely you've been. where you run through fields and travel the world and the world is bright and safe.
I just want a group of friends, or even just one. Not a soulmate, but something close. I'm tired of being so lonely. I just want someone to love and care about and someone to love and care for me, someone who feels safe. I'm just so tired of being alone. Of having to shield myself from my family.
I don't want to be lonely anymore.
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theelectricalcity · 6 months
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marigoldssecret · 5 months
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While I'm uncertain that this only relates to ADHD, I am certain that having ADHD intensifies the feeling. Regardless, I'm pretty sure it's the RSD acting up.
I have been having a fairly rough weekend due to migraines, and today, all I wanted was some sort of reaction to me not being active in places I usually am - but deep down I also know that what I really wanted, was for a specific person to show interest in me, and that regardless of who else did, if that person didn't, I'd end up feeling lonely and like nobody likes me.
How whacked, and completely illogical is that??!
I am so lucky to have several amazing groups of people who would all immediately give me all the support and kind words I could ever need, but because this one person apparently didn't notice that I haven't been there, none of that matters? That's not fair, my dear brain, not at all. And it's such an intense feeling too - I can feel myself begin to spiral immediately if I think about how this person didn't reach out to me.
In the end, I ended up writing this person, and they responded in reasonable time with their usual enthusiasm - but it's still just not what I wanted, is it? So now I still feel slightly hurt as I'm writing this, as illogical as it is.
Anyway, I'm also pretty certain I'm hyperfocusing on this person, and that definitely doesn't help.
Sigh.
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nillinlore · 4 months
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He's talking about not caring if people think he's the best Spider-Man here, but this is also just super affirming and something I really need to apply to myself. I've been experiencing big RSD feels because I'm 37 and having a lot of trouble making friends and meeting folks. But I'm adorable, creative, caring, and awesome as fuck! I'll find my people eventually 😊
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fruitea-witchh · 4 months
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wow rsd is a bitch
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