#self confidence

[onehundredwishesss]

How to be mysterious and hot

• Talk less, listen more

• Talk about the simple things especially with someone new

• Show the positive side of you

• Keep your looks together

• Have more control over your emotions

• Avoid talking about your insecurities unless to someone you really trust

• Post less on social media

• Avoid drama's and gossips

• Be aware of the people around you

[succulentsiren]

Advice I'd Give to My Younger Self.

Be unapologetic about your presence. Never enter a room with your head lowered. Hold your head up like you are proud to be who you are. Take up space. Be bold in your actions. Let your voice be heard.

You don't have to be perfect. Get over perfectionism and the fear of being embarrassed. Learn to own all your flaws and insecurities and continue to do what you love.

What other people say mean nothing. Never loose sleep over anyone’s opinion of you. They are not God and they don't define you.

Believe in yourself. You can be successful just like those people you look up to. You have what it takes. Hone your skills and be great too.

Appreciate your unique gifts and qualities. Stop comparing yourself to others and changing yourself to fit in. Always stay true to yourself.

[elonomhblog]

because she competes with no one, no one competes with her

[wandoffire]

[spicesweet]

a good workout can change your day, your mind, your mood, your spirit, your life ♡

[girlbossblog444]

only person that won't break my heart is me, that's why i only love me

[unhxppybirthday]

[k1ssoflove]

~summer bucket list~

🌷 Hi my lovess, here is my digital 2024 summer bucket list. These are all things that I want to try out this summer to make the most of it! I will continuously add more if I think of more ideas. <3

🦢Drive with loud music and windows down

🦢Go to the fair

🦢Ride a ferris wheel

🦢Try pottery

🦢Go to a water park

🦢Go on a early morning hike to go see the sunrise

🦢Go to the beach

🦢Beach camping

🦢Go fishing and cook what you catch

🦢Eat at fresh restaurants

🦢Walk around the city and shop/window shop

🦢Watch the sunset

🦢Watch firework shows

🦢Go ziplining

🦢Go to a creek

🦢Plant flowers/fruits/vegetables

🦢Have a picnic with family

🦢Self dates

🦢Daily runs

🦢Follow a Bob Ross routine

🦢Make bracelets

🦢Go to a concert/music event

🦢Try new recipes

🦢Go to six flags

🦢Rent a bike to ride around

🦢Polaroid/digital camera photo shoots

🦢Manicures/Pedicures

🦢Try out new makeup styles

🦢Try out new hair styles

🦢Game nights with family

🦢Make lots of bingsu

🦢Staying at the mall until it closes

🦢Going to the zoo

🦢Karaoke nights

🦢Back to school shopping

🦢Make a time capsule

🦢Write letters to my future self

🦢Take summer classes

🦢Take pilate/yoga classes

🦢Try out tennis or other sports

🦢Get a new piercing

🦢Take a color analysis

[sugarsprinklesoul]

Abilities that will forever benefit you

The ability to walk away

The ability to manage your time

The ability to remain consistent

The ability to self analyze

The ability to learn how to learn

The ability to understand others

The ability to listen

The ability to express your thoughts and feelings

The ability to break down tasks

The ability to adapt

The ability to control your mind

The ability to ask for help

The ability to act upon facts not feelings

[mauvefiles]

When a woman is consistently spoken to softly & treated gently, she becomes a new woman. You're helping her heal her nervous system, you're helping her heal generational trauma, you're allowing her feminine energy to flourish, you're helping her to remember who she is.

[theambitiouswoman]

Don't tell people your boundaries. Show them.

If you tell someone they can't talk to you a certain way or do certain things, those are not boundaries. Boundaries are things we show. If you tell someone "if you do that again I am not going to speak to you" and you stay and continue to speak to them, that's not a boundary. Just words. Words that they now know means absolutely nothing and they can take advantage of.

You show people how to treat you.

You reinforce your boundaries with your actions. Unless you show someone with your actions that what they are doing is not okay, and you do not continue to allow it, they will keep doing it.

[prettieinpink]

SELF VALIDATION

First things first, if you validate your existence on externalities, you will never truly be happy. While it’s important to have values and to act on them, it shouldn’t be your main source of happiness. 

E.g. parent validation, academic validation, and male validation. So, here are some tips to validate yourself. 

VALUE YOUR OPINION. You should have the ability to make decisions and identify yourself solely on your opinion. Trust, giving people that ability to shape your decisions and curate your identity, allows them to dictate your worth. 

SELF LOVE OVER OTHERS. Ensure you are doing everything in your power to treat yourself lovingly. Even if it means sacrificing a few things in life. E.g. going to sleep early instead of cramming for a test. 

BE RESILIENT. When I say that, I don’t mean ‘don't let anything affect you’ but rather, build yourself up to the point that when someone/something knocks you down, you can bounce back easily. 

BECOME SELF AWARE. Know your strengths, and weaknesses, and be mindful of the truth. Be genuine when it comes to this because self-awareness helps us with becoming more in touch with our inner selves.

AVOID NEGATIVE SELF TALK. This can cause us to rely on others to hear good things about ourselves. Instead, say affirmations in the mirror.

STOP PEOPLE PLEASING. There’s a difference between genuinely being nice, and being a doormat. You shouldn’t have to bend over backwards for others, and they give absolutely nothing back. Invest that time and effort into yourself.

SOMEONE’S GAIN IS NOT YOUR LOSS. This is a mindset shift that will change the game. You have to stop seeing successful, wealthy, pretty or intelligent people as threatening your skills or talents. There is enough success for everyone.

DETACH FROM OTHERS. Friends, family, males, etc. Stop letting how other people treat you, dictate your mood for the rest of the day. The only factor your mood should depend on is you. What you do, say, and act is the only factor. 

KNOCK OTHERS FROM YOUR PEDESTAL. The only person that should be on top of your pedestal, is you. By doing this, you create an inferiority complex for someone else and give them superiority. 

OTHER’S OPINIONS ARE MOMENTARY. They will always move on with their day and see what needs to be done. They do not care about you as much as you think. So, do not even try to give them the time of day. 

BUILD BOUNDARIES. With others and yourself. Both are equally important because you value yourself enough not to do something you’ll regret. 

[succulentsiren]

Things women should never feel ashamed of:

• Orgasms

• Receiving money

• Receiving compliments

• Pretty privilege

• Being smart

• Dressing up

• Menstrual cycles

• Emotions and being sensitive

• Expressing our sexuality

• Resting and relaxation

• Asserting our sexual needs

• Maintaining our standards

• Saying No

• Wanting or having children

• Choosing to be childfree

• Our body count

• Our nude body

• Wearing makeup or not wearing makeup

• Having boundaries and protecting ourselves

• Our spiritual practices

• Using witchcraft

• Being ambitious

• Going to college

• Being a housewife or stay at home mom

• Loving who and what we love

[ur-daily-inspiration]

when Franz Kafka said “what if i slept a little more and forgot about all this nonsense” i felt that to my core

[oceane4loveu]

stop being second choice

Start with your relationship with yourself. If you see yourself as second choice, others will see it too. Learn to love yourself and put yourself first in your own priorities.

Learn to love yourself. You can't expect another to fulfill all your affection needs if you're not already enough for yourself. Take time every day to pamper yourself and do the things that bring you happiness.

Dare to take your place and say no when someone asks you something you don't want or can't do. Your time and energy are valuable, don't waste them on others.

Believe in your own worth. Don't let anyone make you doubt your worth. Or you give the impression that you are not “good enough”. You deserve a relationship where you are respected and appreciated for who you are.

༝༚༝༚ océane

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