Changing who you are for a relationship to work is not love and it is not noble.
Abandoning yourself for a relationship is not love. Love involves mutual respect, trust, and support between two individuals. Abandoning yourself for a relationship means sacrificing your own needs, desires, and values in order to please your partner or to maintain the relationship, which can lead to feelings of resentment, self-doubt, and unhappiness.
Your relationship with yourself is just as important as your relationships with others. Abandoning yourself for a relationship means sacrificing your own needs, desires, and values in order to please your partner or to maintain the relationship. Your partner should love and accept you for who you are, including your personality, values, and interests.
Changing yourself to please your partner can lead to feelings of resentment, self-doubt, and unhappiness, as you may feel like you are not being true to yourself. It can also create an unhealthy power dynamic in the relationship, where one partner's needs and desires always take precedence over the other's.
True love involves accepting and loving yourself for who you are, and being able to express your true thoughts, feelings, and desires in a relationship without fear of judgment or rejection. It also involves respecting your partner's individuality and supporting them in pursuing their own goals and interests.
In a healthy relationship, both partners prioritize each other's well-being and happiness, but not at the expense of their own needs and values. They work together to build a strong foundation of trust, respect, and communication, and are committed to supporting each other through both the good times and the bad.
If your partner is trying to change who you are, it could be a sign of a controlling or manipulative behavior, and it is not a healthy or respectful way to approach a relationship. Your partner should accept you for who you are, including your personality, values, and interests, rather than trying to mold you into someone you are not.
Trying to change who you are can be a form of emotional abuse, and can lead to feelings of insecurity, low self-esteem, and anxiety. It can also damage your sense of self and make you feel like you are not good enough as you are.
In a healthy relationship, both partners should respect each other's individuality and support each other in pursuing their own goals and interests. They should accept each other's differences and work together to find a compromise that works for both of them.
It's important to be authentic and true to yourself in a relationship, and to communicate openly and honestly with your partner about your needs and desires. While compromise is an important part of any relationship, it should not involve sacrificing your own identity or values.
If you feel like your partner is trying to change who you are, it's important to communicate openly and honestly with them about how their behavior is making you feel. If they are unwilling to respect your boundaries and continue to try to change you, it may be necessary to reevaluate the relationship and consider whether it is a healthy and fulfilling partnership.
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i love making people horny. it's not necessarily because i want to fuck or do anything with them. i just like feeling my words, my actions have caused that arousal, the almost uncontrollable need to please themselves. it's a game that brings pleasure to me.
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When you've been traumatized in ways that made you question your worth, going through hard or stressful times in the future can make it harder for you to believe in your worth in the present. This is especially true if your present hardships activate past traumas. I'd just like to remind you that your worth is immeasurable and does not diminish even when you cannot see it. You have immense worth. You always did, and you have it still.
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something that i’m struggling with that i feel like others might need a reminder of as well is that school is not everything. school is a great tool to get you to where you want to be, but there is no shame in taking time off school to focus on other things. school and scholarships will always be there if you decide to go back. i know that going to school and getting a higher education is a privilege, but that doesn’t mean you’re selfish for taking things at your own pace (or not going at all).
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