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#self validation
slfcare · 1 year
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The positives of ‘putting yourself out there’ are worth it. Having a great conversation with a stranger will be worth the awkwardness of starting that exact conversation. Joining a small community of people you will see regularly is worth having to get through a scary first day. Getting your dream job is worth the scariness of chasing it. Don’t pick and choose experiences based on the level of ease now, but choose them based on how you want to come out of them.
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libraalynn · 11 months
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safe-haven-safe-place · 4 months
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succulentsiren · 5 months
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Let go of the limiting belief that you have to prove your worth in order to be valued. You are deserving by being as you are and knowing your value.
The Art of Receiving- Feminine Energy
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sugarybisous · 1 year
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you hold the power to give yourself everything you want in this life and more ♡︎
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melatonin-discord · 4 months
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Note 2 - You deserve to be happy. Eat well.
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introvertirl07 · 4 months
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demontobee · 4 months
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Autism and Invalidation
I just can’t believe how QUICK people are to invalidate your experience. Which is why it is so important to learn to love and validate yourself.
I was diagnosed with autism earlier last year, because I had done tons of research on the topic and I had gone through the arduous process of finding a place to get the assessment done. During this process, I constantly doubted myself, and I went through loops and loops of feeling like an impostor but also the need to get answers. The assessment process itself was hard on my self-confidence as well, since I felt weird and out-of-place as an afab person assessed by the white male boy standards of autism research. Nevertheless, I got my diagnosis after weeks of filling out questionnaires and feeling uncomfortable in interviews. Having a formal diagnosis relieved me to some extent, but it has not yet cured me from self-doubt and the feeling of shame that washes over me at the thought of feigning it just to get attention, to belong somewhere, to have answers. Since I got the diagnosis, I have made huge changes in my life, which has been wonderful and terrifying at once, and I’ve had more meltdowns than I can count. And I should be proud. I have managed to overcome hurdles like my life-long comfort zone, I am trying to set boundaries and I want to find out what really makes me happy, what I was made for.
And it is exactly this achievement that makes other people doubt the validity of my experience as an autistic person.
My current therapist, who has no specific expertise in autism (especially not in afab queer autistic beans), told me last week that she thinks I was misdiagnosed. Why? Because I am able to handle change so well, because I am a very reflected person who knows exactly what their problems are and how I am harming myself, because I am able to think critically about my parents and the way they raised and treated me. An autistic person, it seems, would not be able to so that.
Bullshit.
You know how I am able to do all these things that she apparently thinks are reserved for neurotypical people? I have been teaching myself, in an ongoing and nerve-wrecking process, how to handle change. I have been working on loving myself and respecting myself enough to want to make changes that benefit me and my well-being. Setting boundaries is a hard and heart-breaking process for me. It doesn’t come naturally to me and I often feel lonely or guilty. For as long as I can remember, my mind has been going round and round reflecting on my actions, other people’s reactions, normal behavior and so on. Reflecting for me is not a skill that proves how “normal” I am, it is a survival strategy. And it is about time I put it to good use instead of fueling my anxiety and my self-criticism with it.
Just because you are developing skills that help you learn to love and validate yourself does not mean your experience as an autistic person is not valid. Formally diagnose or not. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
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beautyinhealing · 1 year
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your feelings are valid
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arisingsun · 7 months
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Remind yourself that you used to give your drawings an A+ when you were 5. You don't need anyone's validation.
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slfcare · 4 months
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after it has been new, scary and uncomfortable, it’s going to be okay. isn’t that what we’re doing it for?
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libraalynn · 1 year
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shadilady · 8 months
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mystiqueghost · 3 months
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sugarybisous · 1 year
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someone else’s opinion of you is NOT your truth/reality.
thewizardliz on not needing people to validate your self worth.
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