#self-worth

[akindplace]

Your exhaustion is not shameful. It is not a moral failure to be physically, mentally or emotionally tired. It is okay to be overwhelmed. You're not inferior to anyone just because it's hard for you to keep up with a fast-paced life.

[in-tenebris-et-in-solitudine]

[the-healing-mindset]

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[breannasfluff]

Self-Care Day

Wild hooks his arm through Hyrule’s. “Tell me, traveler, have you ever experienced the wonders of a spa day?”

Hyrule tilts his head. “What’s a spa day?”

“What—Hyrule! Only the greatest invention the Gerudo came up with besides sand seal racing! We’re in Gerudo Town! They have the best massages here!”

“Oh.” His friends don’t seem excited. “I was going to do some shopping, stock up on healing supplies, you know?”

“That’s not fun.”

“Well, it’s important to be prepared. Never know when my healing might not be enough.”

“Rulie…” Wild turns to face him, tilting his chin up when his eyes slide away. “Hey. It’s okay to take a break sometimes. It’s good too! You need time to recharge if you want to help everyone.”

“But I need to—”

“No.” He grabs Hyrule’s hand and pulls him from the inn. “You are going to relax with me today and it’s going to be wonderful. You deserve to pamper yourself.”

Hyrule tugs on his hand, even as he follows. “That sounds expensive, though.”

“My treat.”

“Wild!” He stops in the street and the champion does as well. “Look, I appreciate it, but I’m not going to let you spend money on me. I’ve got stuff I need to do.”

Wild blinks at him, then looks around. Some of the other boys are nearby and—perfect. “Hey, Legend,” he yells. “Hyrule thinks self-care isn’t important!”

“Don’t—”

Too late. Legend ditches the others to stalk over. “Hyrule! How could you?”

The traveler shrinks into himself. “I just—there’s stuff I should be doing!”

“No! You are going to take a break. Even I take breaks! It’s important!”

Wild’s grin is malicious as he adds, “Hyrule says I can’t spend money on him.”

Hyrule whimpers at the force of Legend’s glares. “That’s it. Wild, what did you have planned?”

“Pampering! Massage, maybe a scrub, new clothes, jewelry, the works. Want to come?”

“Absolutely.”

Legend and Wild both grab Hyrule’s hands and drag him along, ignoring the waterfall of reasons he doesn’t need a break.

If there’s one thing the two heroes have learned, it’s that caring for yourself is never a waste of time.

[with-reverence]

If rejection, desertion, or betrayal played a part in your loss, it is not just your sense of security that has been shattered but your belief in yourself, your sense of self-worth.

Susan Anderson, The Journey from Abandonment to Healing

[azura-tsukikage]

Depersonalizing criticism is the practice of not taking criticism or negative feedback personally. It's an essential skill for maintaining a healthy emotional state and effective communication.

Understanding Depersonalizing Criticism

Criticism as Feedback: Depersonalizing criticism involves recognizing that feedback is primarily about the situation, task, or behavior, not about your worth as a person. Feedback is often given to improve something or help you grow.

Separating Self-Worth: Your self-worth and identity are not defined by your actions or the feedback you receive. You are a complex individual with strengths, weaknesses, and room for growth. Constructive criticism helps you grow; it doesn't diminish your worth.

Mindful Listening: Practice active listening when receiving criticism. This involves fully engaging with the feedback, understanding the points made, and seeking clarification if needed. By focusing on the content of the criticism rather than the emotional tone, you can better depersonalize it.

Detaching Emotionally: Understand that people's opinions and judgments are influenced by their perspectives, experiences, and emotions. Sometimes, criticism may be fueled by someone's frustration or anger, and it might not reflect your actual performance.

Cultivating Resilience: Developing resilience is crucial for depersonalizing criticism. Resilience allows you to bounce back from setbacks and maintain a positive self-image. It involves managing your emotions and stress effectively.

Maintaining Perspective: Keep in mind that one piece of criticism, especially if it's not constructive, should not define your self-esteem or self-concept. It's essential to maintain a broader perspective of who you are and your accomplishments.

Practical Steps for Depersonalizing Criticism

Take a deep breath and give yourself a moment to process feedback.

Ask clarifying questions to ensure you fully understand the criticism.

Focus on areas for improvement and how to address them constructively.

Seek support from friends, mentors, or a therapist to help process criticism.

Practice self-compassion and remind yourself of your strengths and achievements.

Depersonalizing criticism is a skill that takes time to develop, but it can lead to greater emotional resilience and better relationships. It allows you to receive feedback without feeling attacked or diminished, fostering personal and professional growth.

[dangerousdesiress]

Glamorous. Elegant. Passionate. Audacious

Elizabeth Taylor 💎

[alwaysbewoke]

as a former herb (which was the name for simps back in my day) i will never again pay the bills for any woman who doesn't have my last name. i've paid bills, rents, travel accommodations, and more like an idiot. i've learned my lesson. it was a hard lesson but i learned it. never pay the bills for someone who isn't your wife. if she wants bills paid then she's got to get a husband (which means she has to be wifey material which is harder than just being freak in the sheets or girlfriend material). anything else, everything else is a scam and just because you have money doesn't mean you're supposed to be a mark. that's another lesson i had to learn. just because i could afford it doesn't mean i'm supposed to be paying for it. and the moment they leave because you won't pay their bills you know you just dodged a bullet.

[namitha]

Always keep in mind that you are a complete and valuable individual, deserving of genuine and wholehearted love, unwavering attention, and sincere effort in all aspects of life. Settling for anything less than you deserve is a disservice to your self-worth and well- being. Embrace the empowerment that comes from recognizing your inherent value and prioritize your emotional and mental health by establishing healthy boundaries. Surround yourself with people who appreciate and respect you fully, and let go of those who offer only half-hearted affections or minimal efforts. Remember, you are too whole to accept anything less than the genuine and fulfilling experiences that life has to offer.

//Tuesday 25th July//

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[purpledreamsandthings]

[unwelcome-ozian]

[akindplace]

To anyone who uses the unkindness of others as fuel for them to strive harder to be kind, as you hope to become someone you wished you had by your side when you were struggling, I hope you know you are a positive force in this world, and that this shines in so many ways. Please do something kind for you today too, for the younger version of you who would be so proud of who they become, because you persevered and rose above the indifference of others.

[in-tenebris-et-in-solitudine]

[the-healing-mindset]

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[deebrisbyfish]

I rarely do good with downtime. I am a paradox that way. If I have ANY free time, my mind starts eating itself since I kind of define my self-worth by what I’m producing creatively. BUT, then I end up taking on too many things and burn myself out. It’s a cycle that keeps repeating, which I acknowledge is NOT healthy. Now, if you’ll excuse me, I have a chapter on my werewolf novel to write. And... a new strip to draw. Annndd...

[eaudelune]

And there’s a beautiful twist that happens when you assume your worth: you value other people more. Because when you’re operating from a place of wholeness and value, you see value in other people and you reinforce the belief that there’s enough to go around for all of us. So in this sense, your self-worth is a service to humanity.

Danielle LaPorte, The Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals with Soul