#selfserve

[erlangshen]

Trip to B.C. wouldn't be complete without getting some pick-yourself food from T&T Richmond. We usually get them, drove past the border, stops at the first rest area on the US side (Custer) & enjoy them before continuing the trip home. Super cheap & delicious. Since you pick yourself, you can get a little of everything as you like. #food #foodporn #foodgasm #instafood #cantonesefood #selfserve #tandtsupermarket #richmond #britishcolumbia #takeout (at Custer Rest Stop) https://www.instagram.com/p/ClfRVTaLHJ-/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[echoes-lighthouse]

Shoutout to the selfshippers that wouldn't want an IRL relationship that matches the one that they create with their f/os.

I love the lesbian/gay selfshippers who have f/os of the opposite gender, and aro/ace selfshippers who include romance or sex in their selfships.

I love the touch-adverse people who write headcanons about cuddling.

I love the selfshippers who write about toxic dynamics and stockholm syndrome and age gaps.

I love the selfshippers whose self-inserts use different pronouns than they do.

I love selfshippers that have kids with their f/os, even if they don't want to be a parent IRL.

I love you all: what you write about in fiction doesn't make your lived experiences less valid. It's normal to explore selfships and fantasies that don't line up with your actual desires and goals in your own life! This should be a community where all of us are able to explore freely, because selfshipping is all about fun and fantasy, and all of us deserve to play!

[demolitionistic]

points for tan though, who really is the only bitch in this place with convictions and resolve

[eyedove]

taako provides literally everyone on the ship their fucking hormones. it is the burden of being the local transmutation wizard. he never gets to use his transmuter's stone for anything else.

once he goes back to providing magnus his testosterone, he very often and very proudly proclaims to anyone who will listen that magnus is on steroids (and that there's a benevolent mastermind behind the delicate balance of mega muscles and puppy-dog temperament and his name is taa-aa-aa-aako, you are fucking welcome)

[metanarrates]

yjh is always a bit difficult to read but his friendship with uriel is cute 😭 I think a lot about how he had a deep relationship with uriel in round 999. she's someone he can pretty easily get close to, despite her status as archangel, and it does matter a lot that he has concerns for her safety!

[marmarthehatterverse]

So I'm gonna try and do a thing this year: Write a fanfic from start to finish. Have I ever once successfully finished writing a fanfic in my life? No. Do I have one fic on ao3 that haunts me in its lack of completion? Yes. Is the fanfic I'm going to start writing even in the same fandom as that other fic? It sure isn't. But this time I am going to try to set myself up for success instead of chaos!

I shall be trying to write a sentinel/guide Buddie (911) fic. I'm hoping that by posting this here, I will feel like I have to hold myself accountable and actually do it. It will not be done with any sort of speed. But hopefully it will get done.

[collegeboysam]

we haven't been told daniel's daughters' names right? open question as i have a half written google doc on another tab

[fives-girlfriend]

We've hit that time of night where my mood has tanked eyy

[mintharan]

that hard drive article is literally bottom of the barrel unfunny, and if they were trying to make a point that Wyll is right to not want anything to do with Mizora (which would be you know... the right take) they could have worded it in a way that doesn't make it seem like what the average horny guy with a 'dommy mommy' kink would say (extremely annoying men btw, the way they act like this somehow means they're exempt from misogyny), if that was the point, it's really not well made and it does merit criticism.

[agentdammers]

there's only 50,000 posts out there about pathetic little fictional men and how they should all be sopping wet and miserable and like i agree. i agree. yet i have not seen a single post that mentions the EQUALLY vital elements of fundamental cowardice and/or selfishness

[medicinemane]

Sometimes you see people being like "Here's a really great explanation of this by ____", and the person they've named is someone where anytime you've seen anything you have to say, you end up having to wonder how they even manage to remember to breath given what an utter buffoon they are

Like thank you for recommending me something from a slackjawed imbecile... I think I'll pass though

[goblinselfshippr]

Rewriting my little personal fic. There is no dragon born in it for two reasons:

1: because I dont wanna do any of that shit myself (or make my s/i that) lol

2: Everyone firmly believes that f.arkas is dragon born/PC-sexual. I get it, but it's best we dont give "competition" to someone who can and would cast a light spell at 500x strength and effectively vaporize every other organic thing in the area. Luce, come get your damn niece, she's foaming at the mouth again.

[moldwrp]

sad (on the other side of the world)

Some motivation of mine anyone?

It is actually very simple (again)… …once you observe some socio-emotional dynamics;

on a personal level, the character infers behaviour on a scale from:

my wealth is my wealth, my woes are your woes

(sociopathic), to

my woes are my woes, my wealth is your wealth

(altruistic).

I see this as something very basic, society-defining maybe, when observed with statistical significance. Now, just picture, in your mind's eye, a "sociopath" and an "altruist", let your natural generative intelligence draw pictures of those characters for you. Open your eyes; is your sociopath character deeply sad and looking sick*? Is your altruist character standardly cheerful and looking healthy**?

*and I'm not saying that sadness necessarily lacks beauty, I adore "goth" myself, just making an observation of difference

**and it may or may not be annoying to you, shaming you into moving your own character further towards altruism, or making you suspect your typical sociopathic deceit

Now my idea here is, this basic "metaphysical" ("spiritual") quality of sadness is a useful thing to evaluate for a culture that you come across, and that it places that culture accurately on the scale above. I claim that within a particular society, this property is reasonably consistent: no, altruists won't live across the street with sociopaths, not for too long for certain. I mean, a society balances itself around some default expectations of the default interpersonal intentions — and they don't have to be near those extremes of the Altruistic-Sociopathic scale, of course, but they will be significantly different for different societies' contexts.

On my personal note from my individual multicultural observations, this typical emotional state, :( :| :) on human faces on that society's "streets" reflect this A-S quality much better than, say, average people's actual wealth or woes.

So, with this quality being so profound in a culture, I don't think you can "explain", "mansplain" or even "womansplain" your basic active reasoning to "the other side" (far from you on the scale), any such understanding is something that, if at all possible, should grow on someone, given proper time, and, exactly like a physical change, at the younger age the better, of course. In some cultures, it's just polite to be sad, you know, being cheerful in the wrong context is an indecency!

Since Information Technologies, such as human language, are intrinsically connected with human emotions — including the emotion of sadness, the contemporary corporate IT, trying to accommodate as many users as possible, or more precisely, make that one User Interface so that as many people can be converted into their usage model actors (something primitive enough so their machines can regularly deal with, theoretically, at low cost, with minor human resource investment in maintenances).

Naturally, a minority's interests are being ignored, and it wouldn't be a surprise for you if I claim that "altruists" are an IT users' minority... ...so, sad sociopathic people need to be cheered up by colourful buttons, interrupting animations and childish style… so they don't mind being forced into elaborate protocols with machines, while being disconnected from even their closest human peers, with ever greater interaction policing.

I see an opportunity for IT of the other end of the scale. Let's not have those cheerful interfaces of sad people. Let's have our sad minimalistic interfaces instead, and if possible, with some automation, "look ma, no interface at all". Let's minimise the time people work with computer terminals, let's further minimise computer desk time, let's play outside more; who knows, it may even benefit our natural-cultural environment balancing or something. Let's put our human connections first, and extract useful (potentially, business) protocols from our natural interactions. Let's restructure our IT, so IT serves us first, and then, the interfaces to the sad people's corporate IT world will emerge by themselves as needed.

An example of a demo of a project of this sort, showcasing "my" primitive dev methodology, self server platform and End-User-Integration architecture:

https://medium.com/@costa/lively-video-reporting-project-248fe01283e3

[chriswhodrawsstuff]

Work shy?

You can always tell when the Tories are desperate because I get picked on. While I like to think of them squirming in the gradual realisation that they are heading for a wipeout at the next general election, I am fuming that I, like many of the sick and disabled of Britain are yet again being targeted on by the tories and their client media. There is this perpetual myth put about that we are…

[rockinjohnny]

James O'Brien: How Tories destroyed Britain