#sex positive

[fucktoyfelix]

[hussyknee]

Shout-out to the brazen AO3 smut crankers posting the nastiest, most unholy filth I can only save in private bookmarks. Y'all's cojones are solid brass. The international sexual deviant community thanks you for your service

[frogsforthefrogwar]

[whereserpentswalk]

I just have to say, to anyone out here exploring progressive spaces for the first time: if anyone is ever making it a big part of their rhetoric to question people's sexual boundaries, you will quickly find that the praxis for that is to violate people's sexual boundaries. Sexual liberation means people are allowed to have as much or as little sex as they want.

And trust me that this kind of rhetoric does effect the communities we build. It's why ace people still feel alienated from the community. It's why it's so easy for terfs to recruit young lesbians (because regardless of what you belive should be, the reality of the situation is that if a small amount of a community is acting rapey twords someone, they are going to feel alienated from 100% of that community.)

I know a lot of people come from religious backgrounds where sexuality is stigmatized. But creating a world where not wanting to have sex with someone is stigmatized is just as bad.

[sweetzscore]

“We should celebrate the sexual aspects of queer pride” and “Queer happiness can exist without sex” are statements than can and should coexist btw

[gorgeousgreymatter-x]

I'm not a furry and I am indifferently supportive of furries doing their thing or whatever but the funniest thing about so many of those chronically online little gen z sex puritans is the fact that if those furries didn't exist or disappeared, none of you little shits would ever get to use the internet again because our tech industry would crumble lmao

[aboredgremlin]

Can we talk about this woman? She is a sex positive weirdo on the spectrum that can cut someone's head off and still refuses to swear. She wants to be a polite neighbor but will shoot you full of poison if she has to. She will fuck this random Knight because she is locked in a room and bored, after giving a sex ed lesson to the same Knight.

She is delightfully surprising and it is wonderful.

[pet-shop-of-horror-fan]

Sure you're sex positive but are you normal about aroallos?

[positively-bi]

I want to talk about being aroallo for a little bit. Before I start, I want to make it abundently clear that there's nothing wrong with sex that doesn't involve emotional intimacy. There's nothing wrong with one-night-stands. There's nothing wrong with sex with strangers you're never gonna see again.

However, I guess I'm just feeling kind of bummed about how romantic love seems to be the only kind of love people are capable of associating with sex. Like either you're having no strings attached casual sex or you're having romantic sex and there's no inbetween which just isn't true for me. I lost my virginity to my best friend and it was deeply emotionally intimate and wonderful and I felt very close to them but it wasn't romantic. I'm aromantic. I care immensely about them but as a friend. The way I care about them affected the sex we had. It was emotional, it was personal, it was intimate. None of that is negated by the fact it wasn't romantic. I just wish this was talked about more idk.

Anyway, sorry if this was a bit rambling, I've just been thinking. Aroallos, you're incredible and awesome. Everybody else, go give your local aroallo £5

[fucktoyfelix]

[queerdewdrop]

as an asexual, when a sex repulsed ace person belittles others, makes people feel gross for having sex, constantly is talking about how disgusting sex is when there's people around who enjoy sex, THAT is fucking repulsive. you have no right to be belittling others for enjoying a natural thing. sex is natural, which doesn't make asexuality unnatural by any means. both are human nature, but putting yourself on a pedestal because you in particular don't enjoy sex or personally find it gross, you should not view others as disgusting for having it or enjoying it. you are allowed to talk about it in the same way people who have sex talk about their experience and enjoyment but not in a harmful, degrading way.

thanks for coming to my ace talk <3 grow up!

[batri-jopa]

Growing up as aromantic / asexual:

In my childhood and adolescence

After 10 years of desensitization by watching popular media...

...and after few months on Tumblr

I did not even realize how much fed up I already was with all the cisheteronormative couples struggling with stereotypical "gender roles" dilemmas, "traditional family" conflicts and "social expectations" of patriarchal world...

I mean how many times can you watch the same issues over and over again when none of it ever was part of your own not-partnering single life in the first place?

[ace-aro-queerplatonic-positivity]

Credit: insta @/acedadadvice

[there was no image description on Instagram or Facebook, I would welcome if someone wrote one into a reblog]

Obviously these terms aren’t set in stone, these definitions aren’t gospel, use whatever definition/ term you are most comfortable with!

I’m sharing this because I went “oh hey, it me!” when I saw this.

I have made it a point to call myself averse to sex consistently and I will keep using sex-aversion to describe my views. It’s nice to see this info-graphic mention aegosexuality in context of that :)

Because yea, I’m a sex-averse aego-ace

EDIT FOR CLARIFICATION: Aegosexual as a sub- / micro-label for asexuality is not inherently connected to being sex-averse. The mention of aegosexuality in this context refers to an aego-ace being comfortable with the fantasy/ idea/ imagination of sex without necessarily wanting to participate in those sexual acts. Many aegosexuals use the label because we prefer sexual fantasies and things we can remove ourselves from (aego literally meaning “without self”). Not all aego-aces are sex-averse. Which is precisely why I said “mentioned in the context of that” since aegosexuality is not inherent to being sex-averse and sex-aversion is not inherent to aegosexuality.

Also, please keep in mind this is about personal feelings towards sex and towards participating in sex. Most asexuals are sex-positive which means we support that everyone has the right to have as much or as little sex, as vanilla or as kinky, as they want to have.

Sex is not shameful, sex is simply something people can do with their bodies. Sex is exactly as meaningful/ intimate as the people participating want it to be. A bodily activity or the most intimate act to share with your chosen partner – it’s as important as you make it out to be, nothing more, nothing less.