#so men being insecure about themselves is not often translated as “i’m so ugly” | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

lilyimmsim · 5 months

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i think there’s a divide between the way women and men can talk + feel about themselves. it’s difficult as women to say “i am beautiful” or “strong” or “hot” or “worthy”. i think it’s much more acceptable to say these things, or much more expected, when you’re a man. it’s shown in media all the time; the main character thinks she’s ugly and is so shy and can’t see it until a dude comes along and tells her she’s beautiful; it’s seen in the lyrics “you don’t know you’re beautiful - that’s what makes you beautiful”. and i get that those lyrics are from a popular, harmless song but it injects this belief into young girls that not knowing, not admitting your beauty is what makes you pretty, rather than owning the beauty + being confident of it.

#or idk #but same for men i think they’re expected to think highly of themselves #so men being insecure about themselves is not often translated as “i’m so ugly”#it’s more often anger + needing to be secure in other “manly” things #sports/cars/working out etc.#when the root of the problem is they don’t in fact feel good about themselves #and feeling emasculated by confident women because it makes them feel useless #if the roles are an “i’m so ugly” woman and a “no you’re beautiful” man #what is the purpose of a man if the woman doesn’t need that? if she already thinks she’s beautiful?#and #likewise #what guy would love a woman who is so “arrogant” to think she is beautiful ?#anyways #idk if this makes sense

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