#so miscommunication is all the same

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[usertoxicyaoi]

"When I'm in front of you, I'm always at a loss for words. I don't want you to hate me. But, in that case, if I tell him he's wrong, that would mean that I don't hate him. In other words ..."

MY PERSONAL WEATHERMAN (2023). Episode 2.

[raddestrose]

Bro, I cant with everyone thinking Shen Qingqiu had a kid with Binghe.

[asmallcafethatslove]

UM the friend who completed destroyed my entire sanity and ghosted me texted me saying there was miscommunication between us and that she wanted to talk to me and listen to my side after one whole year… girl I texted u and asked if we could talk but u decided to project ur insecurities on me and thought that I was using u to have a social life.. god forbid I make new friends and socialize right?

[zincbotted]

some people be saying the most batshit insane shit abt travis mcelroy

[nerdy-hyperfixations]

Sorry to be a hater but this is how I’ve been feeling recently

[donothing-nothingworks]

just spedran having the worst day of work so far in the last 30 minutes. Jesus christ

[gilligans-islands]

i think its interesting that throughout all of ep 6 we can see stede and ed like sharing a connection but they are taking it slow. they are just having small moments together where they are together and enjoying each others company.

then of course Ned Low shows up and ruins everything by capturing and torturing the crew and he says many things to rile up both stede and ed who still havent like fully reformed their relationship and trust for eachother and it probably alights all their insecurities about their relationship plus they had to watch each other get tortured and almost die and after he chooses to kill ned stede is obviously shaken up both from killing a man and all of the shit he just went through and hes vulnerable and scared and lightly traumatized probably and ed goes to check on him and stede is just is a horrible headspace and he falls back on his old ways and acts on a whim by grabbing ed and pushing him up against the wall

and ed didnt have any better of a night than stede did, getting tortured and watching your lover get tortured fucking sucks and hes just as in a horrible headspace as stede and so he also acts on a whim and lets stede escalate and they kiss and then they have sex

and everything seems great between them the next morning but suddenly ed is throwing away his leathers—okay pretty sudden but maybe he was already planning to—and then ed is sharing how stede was kinda the one who saved his life when he almost died—okay kinda intense conversation over breakfast but maybe he was already planning on telling him and decided it was a good opportunity—and then later stede shares how he wrote ed letters expressing his love and threw them into the sea—and okay maybe they just felt like really sharing this morning—and then later at jackies ed is telling jackie about how it might not be a phase that he just wants to be a regular guy—and wow okay thats cool maybe hes just been thinking about it for a while—and then stede lights a man on fire who wants to kill him—and woah stede um kinda harsh you didnt even hear the man out—and then stede and ed meet up and stede got his ear pierced—thats cool unplanned but cool—and then ed tells stede that he took a job as a fisherman and is leaving—

and then suddenly you realize theyve fallen back into their old patterns of acting on whims again

suddenly they aren't taking things slow, suddenly they are sharing intimate things with each other with 0 apprehension

they are right back where they were in season 1 right down to ed wanting to get away from pirating like his life depends on it and stede wanting nothing more but to be a pirate and live out his fantasy

and this time they fight and ed outright says that things are going too fast and part of it is that he just wants to leave and he is scared but he feels like this because yeah

they are taking it too fast

they suddenly—on a whim—decided to deepen their relationship way faster than they should have entirely on accident just by—on a whim—deciding to have sex when they were both in a vulnerable state and needed comfort

i really dont think it was an accident that episode 4 decided to spell out for us that Ed and Stede are whim prone people. it wasnt just an explanation for why last season ended the way it did with them splitting up. it was an omen for what was eventually going to happen with them in these episodes. the inevitability that they were eventually going to succumb to their true natures if not given the proper space and time to work out the shit between them, if insecurities and expectations got piled onto them again.

[ooc-miqojak]

It's actually incredibly nice to interact with someone who is capable of having a challenging talk when there's a miscommunication, or crossed wires, or hurt feelings. And especially since recently...I've had to deal with some real beyond-belief human beings who went out of their way to privately message me with presumptuous statements and incredibly below-the-belt insults... instead of just trying to talk like adults, and understand what was actually going on in the situations they were making assumptions about.

Imagine you're enjoying your morning - watching birds, playing with your cats, shopping for a beginner's embroidery kit because you want to learn a new skill and be creative, and you're enjoying the first real sunshine in about 9 months...you're delighted that your seasonal depression might be lifting at last! And two complete strangers start making assumptions about you, and saying the world's most cruel, and unhinged shit in your DMs, and you have no idea who one of them even is! One of them tries to claim 'you just hate everything' because you confided in said person that they said something that was frustrating and hurtful to you - but enjoying your day, and everything about it except the condescending remark they made... means 'you hate everything,' apparently. Now imagine the refreshing delight of, a day later, someone else you barely know coming to you in your DMs... in good faith to clear the air about a misunderstanding! You're allowed to see where they were coming from, and you're allowed to explain your POV and why you did what you did, and there's a chance for understanding, growth, and kindness! There's no one I respect more than a person capable of having those kinds of difficult/challenging discussions, because they're the hard ones. It's a lot easier to point the finger, and assume one side of a discussion or argument is correct... that one is 'good/right,' and one is 'evil/wrong' - but that's not life. There's two sides to every story, and the only way for us to grow as people is to discuss what happened, and learn from it. I'm glad I got to see this person's POV, and I'm glad I got to apologize for assuming they were doing something hurtful at the time. I couldn't have known where they were coming from, if they didn't explain it to me, though! And similarly, they may have thought I was acting out of malice, if I'd never gotten to speak on how I viewed things on my end!

I love it when people are mature enough to sit through a challenging talk, and understand the other person - it takes courage, and it takes maturity. And my ND means that I appreciate people being very direct and honest - and so I am, as well. (I actually really struggle to lie about anything...ever. It's like a physical discomfort. And deeply, deeply upsetting if I'm the one lied to, or about.) Some people are intimidated by that, I guess, but you can't understand the other person, nor what went wrong... if you aren't direct and honest! PLUS...there's always the chance that you become BETTER friends after a hard talk, because it gives you insight and understanding of one another that you lacked before! Difficult talks don't have to be a bad thing just because they're challenging, or intimidating to go into.

[kalashtars]

they really mean it when they say "your idols will always disappoint you". shit's got me fucked up.

[llycaons]

I know this canonically happens in the book but I just can't see cql wx having sex and then spiraling about what it means. I just think they're both so careful with physical touch and it's so meaningful to both of them that they'd really need to come to a mutual understanding before taking that step and neither of them are the type of have casual sex anyway...and also in cql they just don't have the same issues wrt misunderstandings as they do in the book. they're essentially on the same page from the moment lwj finds him and their issues postres center a lot more on wwx focusing on healing from his various tragedies, and their conflicting responsibilities post-temple showdown, than on legitimate miscommunication or hurt feelings between then

[cursedfortune]

so i think going forward what i’m going to do is finally finish making the blog adjustments i’ve been wanting to. just tidying up a little is all.

when it comes to threads: i’m messaging all my current partners i have ongoing threads with. i want to slim down on what i have to make room for new ones. seeing what my partners want to continue, drop or keep paused until we finish up other stuff is my current process. if i haven’t gotten to messaging you yet, it’s coming. if you see this message (which i’ll reblog a few times to be safe!) i ask you consider if you want to continue our thread(s). i don’t, at all, intend to drop the rp partners i’ve been writing with - this is just me revising threads!! :)

initially i was going to go through my moots/followers but it has been so long i changed my mind. please bear with my low energy, i intend to start messaging folks directly to see about writing together and if we vibe. if you haven’t noticed, i’m trying to break the ice a little bit more in the ways i feel comfortable at the moment. being a little more active in what people are posting when i see it, as well as trying to drop a few asks here and there ranging from ooc to ic.

i intend (and have started already in burst sessions) to do the following: go through my followers list, reread rules and send ooc and ic asks, catch up a little on recent posts. ^this is just my design, i work better with lists these days.

i’m going to make an effort to be more active and engage with everyone since i’ve been mia for a while now. i’ll give it a comfortable amount of time to decide if i feel it’s mutual. when i’m more confident on this, then i’ll go through moots/followers. but i want to restart coming back here (and my other blogs) on a positive note instead. i look forward to talking more with everyone and discovering new people to write with!

as always, i appreciate your patience and generosity. btw, if anyone has thoughts or feels in mind - you’re 100% allowed to also message me about them or send an ask to inquire. whether it’s ooc chat, plotting purposes, ic stuff. i’m making myself available even if i might be slow still. <3

[brittlebutch]

one of the many reasons Aabria is such a good GM is because of the very keen eye she keeps on the social dynamics and interactions that happens at the table and i absolutely Love her for it

[iztopher]

If you see this one too pls show off your Aveyond tats? ONLY if you're comfy too/already posted them before

YESS thank you! so i have four (and a half), two are very explicitly aveyond (the mountains and butterfly) and two are inspired (sword with lavender and violets for rhen, arrow with petunias and amaranths for te'ijal)

the fifth one is hard for me to get a photo of and isn't strictly aveyond but i never would have gotten it without aveyond, it's the rpg maker xp dragon logo!

[evil-ontheinside]

Since I've seen a few recently (I wrote this a while ago so that's not quite true anymore), is this a good time to say that I also had a role swap au (as in: El -> Will -> Mike -> El) in my wips for a few months now? I'm probably never gonna write it but I do love my ideas for it

[kenobster]

If we, as a society, could entirely divorce the concept of grammar from the concept of language/communication, (well, im not sure but i have a strong feeling that) it would result in world peace