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Them: You look anxious today.
Me: Thanks, it’s the anxiety. 🤪
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Do you ever look at other people having a conversation and be like “wow they look so sophisticated, how do they do that?” but when you talk to people you feel like a 5 year old asking basic questions.
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permdaydreamer · 7 months
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This is for the people who didn’t party in their teens and twenties. For the people who didn’t have that “coming of age” movie experience with shenanigans and revelations. This is for the people who mostly keep to themselves. Who maybe prefer things to be quieter and gentler. This is for the people who don’t feel like they belong in a culture that values loud parties and flashing lights. I see you. And you are valid.
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thehmn · 5 months
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Back when I worked for a travel company this would happen all the time. Trust me, we only remembered the people who yelled at us. A polite “Thanks, you too” didn’t even register.
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catchymemes · 2 months
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prokopetz · 9 months
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Frankly, if I'm the odd one in a group I'd rather be mislabelled than singled out. "All right, ladies – oh, and Dave" like, don't put me on the spot like that. For the purpose of this exercise I will answer to "ladies".
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bisexualseraphim · 5 months
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How people think I am when I say I’m autistic: Hello foolish neurotypical! Would you like to— GET OUT OF MY CHAIR THAT’S MY CHAIR! Would you like to watch me instantly solve some calculus equations? :)
What I’m actually like: Hi! (Oh God why did I say that? Idiot. They probably think I’m so annoying now. Fuck, I never think before I speak. This is why I’ll never have any friends. I’m doomed.)
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furiousgoldfish · 7 months
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Which ones of these arbitrary trauma-induced rules do you follow?
No spending money, ever. what if you need it later and your life depends on it.
Assume that all strangers are 3 seconds close to becoming hostile. fawn to keep them friendly.
No delegating tasks. no telling other people to do things you could potentially do yourself. what if they mess up.
Assume that everyone will consider you a burden if you do 1 single mistake that inconveniences them. do all that is possible to not make that mistake.
Do not admit when things are going wrong. wait until theres no other option but to ask for help, and even then consider not doing that.
Always act like you're okay. not doing so might make you seem 'not normal' and 'accused of being crazy and unstable'.
Do anything for friends, even if it sounds weird, dodgy, illegal. you want to prove that you're fun and easy going and helpful and useful and extremely cool with anything.
Never let it show if you're suspicious of someone. never say out loud that you think their intentions are bad. that might set them off.
If hurt, hide and isolate. Do not let anyone see you hurt.
Do not ask help for problems you feel are your own responsibility to solve. Even if you don't see yourself solving them successfully. If you can't do it, assume nobody can help you.
Help others to try and build positive relationships. Don't accept help so you don't end up relying on them for anything.
Do not start things that involve help or participation from other people. People are not reliable.
Assume that institutions, government, police, social services, and any kind of groups of people are all considering you a nuisance, and would attack you on sight, in every single situation. Never rely on them or assume they would do anything else.
No arguing, confronting, or standing up for yourself unless the situation is absolutely unsurvivable otherwise. Lay low until doing otherwise is seriously damaging your mental health and ability to live.
Give up on hopeful social encounters before they disappoint you. If you have to interact with people, assume the worst is about to happen.
No allowing yourself to idealize, or dream of positive future with people. It's a trap and your expectations need to be either extremely realistic or low.
Assume that fancy and expensive things don't exist for you. Despise them and get away from them.
No comparing yourself and your life to how other people live. It causes depression and despair. Other people's lives and standards of living are none of your business.
Do not showcase any skill or brag about any achievement. Jealous people can destroy you for satisfaction.
Assume people think the worst of you and don't consider changing their mind. Just try to keep out of their way.
Do not display anger. You don't want to be called insane or get arrested. You don't know what people could potentially blame you for if you're openly angry. But other angry people are dangerous and you need to get away from them.
If you follow more than half of these, you have a trauma-induced problem. These are not normal or healthy. These are not developed in a healthy environment. These are extremely self-protective, isolating, ruled by terror of the world and the people living in it. If you follow these, something bad has been done to you.
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vroomvroomwee · 6 months
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Omg omg omg. It all makes so much more sense when you realise it's not social anxiety but a fear of being perceived.
Why do you feel more comfortable with a long coat and a mask as opposed to summer clothes?
Why do you DESPISE taking pictures? Especially if it's someone else and not you taking them.
Why do you feel like you have to stop doing whatever it was you were doing when someone passes by?
Why don't you want to tell anyone how leisurely you go about your day, taking a nap, going for a snack, sitting on your phone playing games etc. because you know they will comment on it and even though it's not negative or mockery it's still feels like you've been perceived?
Why can't you make eye contact? Why can you do it only if the other person is looking away but the second when they look at you you stop listening and when you're the one speaking you can't bear to look at them because you know their eyes are on you and they are perceiving you?
Why don't you want to dress excessively or wear nicer clothes? Because you will stand out
People mistake you for shy because you don't speak often, but it's really the fear of drawing attention to yourself more than it is the things you actually say, isn't it?
Why do you hate overpopulated areas even when no one is speaking? BUT you still feel more comfortable when more than one person is in the room (but not too many!) so that the burden of being perceived is directed on someone else and you can safely lay back just observing the scene.
It's all a defence mechanism
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occaisonalshitposts · 8 months
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thelatestkate · 6 months
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bnyrbt · 2 years
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me: *is jokingly mean to my friend*
friend: *jokingly pretends to be hurt*
me:
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ssavaart · 1 month
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Ever since my videos on Youtube and TikTok started getting popular, people would recognize me out in the wild and then realize that I am SO AWKWARD in person.
I LOVE meeting people... but I never know what to say and I always feel like I've disappointed them afterwards.
So, a few months ago... I printed up cards that I could give to people I meet that has an apology inside.
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If you happen to see me, please say hi.
But be patient with me... I'm doing my best to "people" .
Sending Big Hugs from the Hobbit Hole. ♥♥♥
Scott
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me trying to make friends
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neurodivergenttales · 4 months
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Shoutout to all the people who...
Are always talked over in group settings
Rehearse what they are going to say loads of times in their head and still end-up with their words coming out jumbled
Take longer to process jokes/people's speech
Just get brushed-off when they ask people to repeat their jokes
Always feel like they are seen as an acquaintance rather than a best friend by others
Find parties overwhelming and feel boring for preferring nights in
Feel lonely but also don't know how to go about making friends as an adult
Feel embarrassed/ashamed for not having friends
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