Loneliness can inflict a pain that silence amplifies, causing a slow and agonizing death. The only remedy is to embrace love, seek human connection, and find solace in the warmth of companionship.
Once upon a time, there was a solitary little cactus in the arid desert who lived contentedly under the blazing sun and never complained about his isolation. However, in a moment of introspection, he realized that there was a deficiency in his existence, that of affection.
He tried to make friends with the other nearby cacti, but they were spiny and suspicious, and refused his company. The cactus then resigned himself to his solitude.
But one day, a wandering bird flew up to his branch and sang a sweet melody. The cactus felt, for the first time in a long time, accompanied and happy. From that day on, the little cactus eagerly awaited the bird's arrival every morning to hear its harmonious voice.
The lesson of this story is that we all need affection and companionship in our lives. Even the most isolated being can find happiness in unexpected friendship. Therefore, do not confine yourself to the world, keep your heart open, and happiness will come to you.
In the words of Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg, “Young people are just smarter.”
Not so fast.
Zuckerberg wasn’t just being uncouth. He was downright wrong, at least according to the latest science.
A new study, conducted by MIT in conjunction with the U.S. Census Bureau, analyzed 2.7 million people who started companies between 2007 and 2014 and found that among the fastest growing tech companies, the average founder was 45-years-old at the time of founding. The researchers also found that a 50-year-old is twice as likely to have a massive success (financial, not necessarily personal fulfillment) —defined as a company that performs in the top 0.1 percent—than a 30-year-old.
luces a medio encender,
paredes pintadas con sombras,
silencio y lluvia que retumba en el techo.
Todo me parece desconocido, miro mi reflejo en el espejo y siento que soy una intrusa atrapada en esta caja de cuatro paredes.
Me desconozco y desconozco esta mentira llena de adornos, de deseos, de objetos, de colores, de abismos y de trampas sin identidad me he convertido en una más. En mi habitación me río de lo trágico y cómico que puede ser vivir, unos se anestesian con vendarse los ojos y escuchar lo que quieren escuchar, en cambio yo prefiero ir con los ojos bien abiertos sintiendo la oscuridad y a veces tratando de huir de las manos siniestras que mueven los hilos…
que eres parte activa del sol,
materia proscrita y lejana...
de las estrellas que nos miran.
hermanastro de la luz,
amante varón encendido
de la oscuridad "que repica".
Que eres... semilla
en mil gramos de fe
y conexión imaginaria...
de una fiera "primitiva".
que formas parte de mí
sin que te toquen mis manos
en el abismo hondo de la carne.
… ( Que formas parte de un dios
silencioso, en su ausencia de siglos ).
tierra removida sabiamente
por el arado de lo imposible;
que eres risa, llanto y dudas,
¡ intrínseco miedo y ceniza !
agua inmaculada y clara,
sol, tormenta, luz y semilla;
lo que nadie ¡ se explica !
Ousía Poética © Leandro Lojek.
"I no longer believed in the idea of soul mates, or love at first sight. But I was beginning to believe that a very few times in your life if you were lucky, you might meet someone who was exactly right for you. Not because he was perfect, or because you were, but because your combined flaws were arranged in a way that allowed two separate beings to hinge together."
"It's easy to lose touch with friends, especially when you live far apart. And sometimes the longer you've gone without speaking to someone, the harder it feels to pick up where you left off. However, a new study suggests that reaching out to pals—especially ones that you have not talked to in a while—is even more appreciated than initially thought.
“People are fundamentally social beings and enjoy connecting with others. Yet, despite the importance and enjoyment of social connection, do people accurately understand how much other people value being reached out to by someone in their social circle?” the study asks. To answer this question, the authors gathered 5,900 participants and put them through a series of experiments.
In one scenario, half of the participants were asked to remember the last time they contacted a friend they had fallen out of touch with, then estimate on a seven-point scale how appreciative the person was (with one being the lowest score, and seven being the highest). Then, the other half of the participants were prompted to recall a time when someone had reached out to them and assign a number to how grateful they were. When these two groups were compared, the researchers found that people greatly underestimated the value of reaching out to someone.
“Across a series of preregistered experiments, we document a robust underestimation of how much other people appreciate being reached out to,” the authors continue. “We find evidence compatible with an account wherein one reason this underestimation of appreciation occurs is because responders (vs. initiators) are more focused on their feelings of surprise at being reached out to. A focus on feelings of surprise in turn predicts greater appreciation.”
In another experiment, participants were told to send a note and small gift to a friend they had not interacted with for a long period of time. They were then asked to estimate on a numerical scale how thankful the person would be because of the contact. Additionally, the receivers of the gifts were asked to rank their feelings upon accepting the gift on the same seven-number scale. Once again, the gift-givers greatly underestimated how much their gesture meant to the other person.
The study concluded that reaching out to people—particularly those that you've lost contact with—is almost always appreciated. It can seem challenging to maintain healthy social interactions, especially due to an increased amount of people working from home and a lack of opportunities. But clearly, the evidence suggests that a little extra effort is worth it.
“For those treading back into the social milieu with caution and trepidation,” the study adds, “feeling woefully out of practice and unsure, our work provides robust evidence and an encouraging green light to go ahead and surprise someone by reaching out.”"
-via My Modern Met, 7/31/22