#spread kindness

[agirlunfilteredsblog]

VALUES TO HOLD DEAR AND NEAR

Hi girls!! These are some quotes that typically ground me when I have struggles adhering to my own moral code/values. There is nothing shameful in struggling with your inner-self, the shame comes when we refuse to acknowledge it.

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KINDNESS

“Kindness is free to give, but priceless to receive”

“Be the reason someone smiles. Be the reason someone feels loved and believes in the goodness of people”

PERSEVERANCE

“I will persist until I succeed. Always will I take another step. If that is to no avail I will take another, and yet another. In truth, one step at a time is not too difficult. I know that small attempts, repeated, will complete undertaking.”

HONESTY

“If you cannot be honest with yourself, there is no hope of being honest with anyone else.”

“If you are a person who won’t be honest unless other people can ensure that there will be no consequences for your honesty, you will never actually find the people, places, and things that you are actually compatible to. You are dooming yourself to a life of incompatibility.”

HUMILITY

“Humility is the mother of all virtues; purity, charity and obedience. It is in being humble that our love becomes real, devoted and ardent. If you are humble nothing will touch you, neither praise nor disgrace, because you know what you are. If you are blamed you will not be discouraged. If they call you a saint you will not put yourself on a pedestal.”

“Humility is the first step towards learning. You can't learn until you are humble enough to realize there is something for you to learn.”

So much love,

A girl unfiltered 💋

[thoselovelythings]

Happy World Kindness Day! Be kind to others, & yourself!!! ☺️👍🏻🫶🏼

[dumblr]

Normalize saying I love you. From your core. From your center. Shit don't always gotta be sexual, I am love and so are you. We need to hear I love you from each other more. I love you.♡

[wholesome-suggestion]

you are doing a fantastic job and i love you very much

[happy-place-for-sad-people]

relationships change, and that's not always on you. life gets messy, it forces people to grow, and that growing can break you apart. you become someone else, someone new, and the person you are now might not have a place in other people's lives. that doesn't mean you're bad, or you should stop growing in that direction; in fact, you shouldn't! you're meant to grow and to explore all the versions of yourself there are. those who leave were never meant to stay. those who can't support you at your worst don't deserve you at your best.

[ididoktoday]

How we get better: a decidedly nonlinear and varied process

Maybe that suffering will slough off us like a crispy sunburn, peeling away gradually in its own time, protesting a timeline faster than its own intention. But slough it will.

Maybe that suffering will cling to us until the last second it’s allowed, like a sucking leech, our humors leaking messily and causing a real scene, relief and vulnerability entwined to tease apart later. But we’ll have time and headspace to do that work.

Maybe that suffering will be ripped off us like a warm blanket on an early winter morning, snatched away by a guiding figure who knows that what we need is more important than what we want, a figure who sighs down with love at our shivering legs. That figure knows a warm future for us that our eyes are not yet mature enough to see.

We are birthed in all sorts of ways. Let us treat each other as gently as newborns.

[storyofmychoices]

Sticks & Stones...

I'm sure we've all heard the phrase, "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me". Little kids learn it to counteract mean words said at playtime. It seems logical, physical harm should hurt more than words, but I think we all know from experience, that's just not true.

I didn't want to address this. I learned years ago in this fandom that if you address drama or anons it never ends well. However, I feel like this has to be said not necessarily for me, but maybe for younger me who wasn't as strong.

I received an anon that told me to kill myself because they didn't like a fic I wrote (I guess). I deleted the message because it's not worth my time. But those words are so hurtful. I thought back to younger me. Middle school me. High school me. Even early college me... I don't think that version of me would be strong enough to delete that message.

That version of me would hold onto it, perseverate on it, and those words would swirl in my mind and the anxiety and depression would tell me that's what people think. That's what you should do. I know logically that's stupid and it's an anon, delete and move on. But mentally, I wasn't strong enough...

I know that version of me is not alone. I know there are people in this fandom who struggle daily with their mental health. I know how hard it is for them. I can't imagine one of them getting a message like that.

Using language that promotes harm, like telling someone to "kill yourself," is harmful in so many ways. Whether you actually mean it and think that person should die, or you think it's just a phrase you say when you're angry, bored, or wanting to start drama, it's not okay. I'd love to say choose kindness and don't send any hate but I know that's not the world we live in.

However phrases like "kill yourself" are beyond the line. You cannot predict the mental state of the person you're sending it to. How would you actually feel if that person went through with it? What if their death is on your hands? Would you be okay with that? Would you be okay if the police came to your door and said you led to that person's death? (Don't think that happens? It does, the state police and FBI do investigate digital threats. I know because I work with kids who make and receive threats and have had to deal with the FBI investigating them... and anon doesn't matter the FBI will track the IP address). I don't want that for anyone here. So please, choose your words wisely.

If you are in a bad place and lashing out is all you have, come talk to me or someone else in this fandom. I know that it is hurt people that hurt other people. I know if you are sending words like that you've been hurt. Let's break the cycle together!

This post is not targeted toward any one person. Yes, it was motivated by the anon I got, but I really hope that anyone who has ever used that phrase might read this and take it to heart.

Please choose kindness or nothing at all. Our fandom is small enough. I don't want to see other people leave because they feel pushed out or leave because they did something they can't take back.

Oh, and to anyone who has received harmful words like that. You are not alone. You can come to me or others to talk. Please don't believe those words. You are stronger and better than that!

I'm not sure how to end this so, here is a cute picture:

[hushedhippie]

I’m genuinely confused why you would want to be a shit human being in this day and age when hatred is running rampant. We can all agree life isn’t what they promised when we were in school. It’s quite bleak most of the time, leaving us to fight for our peace and happiness.

Kindness costs nothing. But being a cunt will cost you your karma. And what you give, always comes back around.

[arise-children-angel-is-here]

Doing a kindness thing :3

[sotwk]

Friendly reminder that with the cold weather and winter blues fast approaching, Comfort Fics, Fanwork, and Blorbos are more important than ever.

Writers keep writing, Artists keep drawing, Gifers keep gifing, Readers keep sharing/reblogging, and let's spread the comfort around to help each other cope with the inevitable seasonal blahs!

[chaoticbloodmoon]

Vent Ahead

So listen; everyone has all sorts of f/os that people self ship with. Not all are the typical "hot anime guy or girl type". Some people self ship with characters such as The Simpsons or from SpongeBob etc and that isntotally valid.

I had someone tell me that my love for Ra's al Ghul which is this guy here, is so gross and nasty. Like they said "Why Ra's??? Just why?!!" I then proceeded to tell them I have friends who also adore Ra's in a romantic way. They then sent me some youtube link and said "Listen to this and it will fix your madness!"

That made me upset and I just blocked. Like look, Ra's is not everyone's cup of tea but I love him and that is enough for me. So please, don't go harassing or telling people that their f/os are gross or whatever negative things. These are our loves. They mean the world to us, and what they see in them is very important to them, even if you don't understand why.

Thank you <3

[agirlunfilteredsblog]

Can you expand on how to create a Happy Routine? That's a new concept to me.

I would love to!!! And don’t worry, the idea of a “Happy Routine” is only something I started implementing as of recently too!!

Honestly, I would say a big part of this concept is acting intuitively. Often times, we are so conditioned into doing what others expect us to do or implementing habits that don’t accommodate to our bodies. A Happy Routine is a routine that rejoices your body in all aspects: physical and mental.

Start incorporating habits that you enjoy doing. Reflect deeply on what actually brings you joy and things that you THINK bring you joy. Stop caring about what people have to say about the things you enjoy doing. All-in-all, I’d say a Happy Routine is simply implementing things that nourish your body, your energy, etc. Think of it as removing things in your life that actively drain you!!

I hope this helps and if you have any other questions do not hesitate to let me know!!

A girl unfiltered 🩷

[readychilledwine]

"What do you want to be when you grow up?"

"Kind."

[mascfemmewhatever]

Thank you everyone who died in the service so Hannibal lecter could dive in the cervix

[wholesome-suggestion]

there will always be better days.

im sorry if today was not what you were hoping for, or if you are sitting at home filled with unexplainable sadness.

this feeling will pass and you will be happy again.

[happy-place-for-sad-people]

in case nobody told you today, you're doing a great job, whether that is having a successful career, fighting for your dreams and goals, or simply managing to get out of bed every morning. whatever it is that you're doing, i'm proud of you. i know what it takes sometimes to choose this life, and it's not always easy, so if you're still here willing to see what life has in store for you, sweet soul, you made it! keep the good work going, and don't forget to rest every now and then. i'm rooting for you.