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thewarmvoid · 7 months
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You won’t find much old literature about “girls who wanted to be boys” bc the ppl who would have written them were more often than not institutionalized & the books that have been written have often been recontexualized as feminist lit about “women divesting from gender norms”.
Dreaming of a world where people see transmasc erasure not as transmascs + men complaining about not being popular online and more about the deliberate and intentional burying of our history and existence as a whole.
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thewarmvoid · 7 months
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It is very important to love the transmascs + men around you very genuinely + loudly simply bc it is a good thing to do but also, and forgive me for not sugarcoating it, the boys are killing themselves out here at rates that should be a lot more alarming to a lot more people
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thewarmvoid · 4 months
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“Thought that was a beautiful butch lesbian but it’s just a man” did you know these things aren’t mutually exclusive
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thewarmvoid · 5 months
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most people actively hate trans men more than they hate cis men and it’s 100% bc they can project all of the things they project onto cis men onto trans men and punish us for those projections without any consequence or pushback
And a lot of trans men both accept this treatment and encourage other transmascs + men to bc “if you were a good guy / real feminist you would understand that no level of mistreatment you can suffer is the same as how devastating misogyny and patriarchy is for women”
Being a Real Man™️ means accepting you can Never be hurt Like a Woman Can and somehow this is not Toxic Masculinity but instead True Feminism
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thewarmvoid · 4 months
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I’m not sure how so many people believe that trans people who pass who must hide that they’re trans in order to experience normal treatment from other people around them are experiencing privilege rather than being in an inescapable hostage situation.
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thewarmvoid · 7 months
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The sooner everyone accepts that all trans people are always going to be Schrödingers gender, the better off we will all be. Transmascs and men are seen as women when it’s convenient and men when it serves others. Transfems are seen as women when it’s convenient and men when it serves others. Non-binary people are seen as trans when it’s convenient and “cis adjacent” when it serves others. Intersex trans people are seen as a strange deviant third sex when convenient and as quirky brainwashed cis people when it serves others. There is no box they won’t put us into to achieve their goals. The goal is to be right, regardless of how contradictory the path is that led them there. It doesn’t matter what you really are. They will see us as whatever they want that reinforces whatever narrative they’re trying to spin about us at the time. There is no such thing as transphobia, misgendering, degendering, ungendering that only one kind of trans person suffers from. We’re all Schrödingers transgender.
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thewarmvoid · 4 months
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It's actually terrifying how often I have to tell transmascs + men that tell me about how much it hurts then when their partner(s) constantly talk about how much they hate men, that it's actually not something they have to tolerate. "But they've been hurt by men" — so have you, man
and you've been hurt by women, and other trans people. If you constantly talked about how much you hate one of those groups, people would be rightfully offput by it. Why is it okay to do to you?
It's not. Somebody who cares about you won't gaslight you into tolerating it.
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thewarmvoid · 4 months
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for every antitransmasc person that exists who chooses to spend their time making life worse for transmasculine people i will spend more of my time loving transmascs and men and people with transmasculinity as a part of their gender expanse and I will listen to them about the things they are worried about and afraid of even harder and i will work to stamp out the things that hurt them even more staunchly
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thewarmvoid · 8 months
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I acknowledge, respect and feel connected to trans people who’s transition “begins and ends w changing pronouns” for a lot of reasons but one is that I have watched countless queer + trans ppl be disowned, made homeless, abused and even killed for asserting a change of pronouns.
Social transition comes with countless consequences, which now definitely includes the fact that if someone doesn’t immediately work to physically transition other queer and trans people will start calling them a fake trans predator desperate to steal oppression. Lol.
Personally I want to live in a world where all kinds of trans ppl are allowed to exist comfortably. I embrace what’s called “contradictory” because it shouldn’t be. Be a bearded trans woman getting vaginoplasty. Be a trans man getting 800cc silicone breast implants. I want it all.
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thewarmvoid · 8 months
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Never let anyone make you feel like you’re doing something wrong bc they can’t tell what gender you were coercively assigned at birth. You’re actually *allowed* to make it deliberately confusing if you want. It’s nobodies business. Some confusion is healthy for us all, actually.
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thewarmvoid · 1 month
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this website is cooked because ill log on and see vague posts like "we need to chill with all the discourse" and then I dig a little and see this discourse is a gaggle of transmasculine people begging to be heard, to be believed, to be cared for, to be seen as kin in any way that matters, to be acknowledged and I get really sad that we are so disconnected from each other that we call things like that "discourse" so I log off again
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thewarmvoid · 9 months
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Many people will be like “I don’t care about what’s in your pants or what your agab was” and then start pissing and throwing up if you use a label for your gender or sexuality that they don’t perceive as being in alignment with the genitalia they’re projecting onto you
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thewarmvoid · 1 year
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Thinking about “the transmasc urge to be the most helpful person in the space”
Thinking about how many transmasculine trans people and trans men internalize all of the terrible things we hear about men and then desperately claw at any and all chances to be the opposite of that, so you aren’t bad and dirty and scary to the people around you. 
Thinking about how cis people and other trans people will demonize us for refusing to assimilate into this cycle. Since the correct way for a transmasc and/or trans man to exist is understand your position as a privileged potential time bomb, and to be sorry for it.
Act like you’re always doing or about to do something wrong, that everyone knows better than you about what you have done and should be doing. Make sure everyone knows you live to sacrifice and never ask for anything back.
Thinking about how if we don’t constantly apologize for taking on the sins and the rewards of the patriarchy, we then can’t be trusted. Bend ourselves out of shape desperately trying to show that we don’t mean danger, while nobody protects us. Do it forever to be a good man. If you don’t do this, it’s your own fault for not having community.
I hate this.
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thewarmvoid · 1 year
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Transmascs/men: there are tons of other trans people who absolutely hold individuals in their complex humanity w/o assumption & that uninhibited love and openness being given to you will reveal how cruel it is that anyone ever tried to make you resent yourself for being you.
Half-love feels gross to me now that I know what it’s like to be loved in my full complexity as a manwoman, a guy, a trans person, an intersex person, a disabled person, a gnc Black woman, a transmasculine, an abimegender man, a shapeshifting fairy trans person, by other trans people. You’re literally a gift you deserve enthusiastic connection. I mean it. You can have it, too.
You don’t have to accept “ugh unfortunately I’m attracted to men” bullshit from anyone. There are queer + trans people who will write poetry about how much they love the way you move and live and love as a man, how joyous it is to bask in the splendor of said manhood. Promise. Transness is a gift. It is divine. Transness that includes the expanse of manhood and masculinity is included in that and always will be. You are divine, in all of your forms and in your infinite complexity and there are so many people who will see it.
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thewarmvoid · 6 months
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In my latest piece “Irl we just kiss” and other unhelpful reactions to things that only get worse when people are punished for talking about them, I cover the dynamics of reward vs punishment for talking about antitransmasculinity, blatant fallacies and intentional obfuscation of the reasons why antitransmasculinity theory exists in the first place, the perception of antitransmasculinity as a reactionary politic and how this further reinforces bigoted behaviors between trans people & more.
And an addition I made on twitter:
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thewarmvoid · 6 months
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Excerpts from my essay “Not transmasc invisibility, but erasure”
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