#trans xenogender

[pplatonic]

Hey, for everyone saying xenogenders are chronically online: Today in psych class we talked about gender dysphoria and I got to illustrate my view of gender graphically. It looked like a venn diagram with four heavily overlapping circles - one of them was xenogender.

My class was ENTIRELY receptive to it. This receptiveness included a straight, cis, white, christian male who had never heard of it before. And he was totally cool with it! We even took two minutes going on about what our gender would be if we described it in xenic terms. My teacher said he'd be the point of a mountain that intersects with clouds in the sky. Another said a ball of lint. I said the ocean. Not one of us said it was "impossible" or "cringe" or any of that xenogender-phobic shit.

If you're xenogender you're valid. The world, the real, offline world thinks so too. What's "chronically online" and "cringe" is being full of hate.

[transmultiphobia]

“We need more weird queer people” Y’all can’t handle 90% of the ways multigenders label their sexualities

[castielfucks]

theres actually no rules to transitioning and youre allowed to want contradictory things for your transition. it's fine if you only want some of the changes that come with hrt and take preventative measures for the rest (like wanting bottom growth but not body hair or vice versa). you can want to have vagina AND a dick. you can be a woman and want top surgery, or wear a packer. you can be a man and want to have a pussy. you can change your transition goals one or a million times or not have any goals at all and just take things as they come or as they feel right.

there are no rules.

[genderqueerdykes]

you're allowed to love being trans if you:

just came out

havent transitioned and dont plan to

have known you are trans for years but kept it to yourself

don't want surgery or hormones

dont disclose your trans status or genders to other people

dont change your name

never have dysphoria

your transness is tied to your neurodivergence

your transness is tied to your nonhuman identity

dont feel like you have a gender or gendered experience

feel like gender isn't really that important

are intersex

are two-spirit, hijra, or have another cultural gender or expression identity, or "third gender"

are a person of color

are an afab demigirl

are an amab demiboy

have a complex identity

have a very simple identity

cant figure out your gender for the life of you

cross dress

do drag

present socially in ways that are "normal" for your agab

have crushing dysphoria

don't know how to pass

pass effortlessly

are a butch trans woman

are a femme trans man

are demigender

don't like to be reminded you're trans

have a very specific gender

have a gender that's specific to you and you alone

have hated being trans at one point

stopped transition and restarted it at some point

have had to change your gender, name, pronouns or presentation multiple times

change presentation a lot

have a gender that's hard or impossible to put into words

dont want to figure out what your gender is exactly

are plural/a system

are genderfluid, gnc, genderqueer, multigender, polygender, genderflux, neutrois, maverique or genderfuck

are xenogender

are a lesbian or gay

are transneutral

are transfemasc/transmascfem

..... are trans.

every trans person is allowed to love being trans. good day, love yourself today!

[pumpkin-magpie]

Don’t know why tf people have to be told this in 2024 but

Do not fucking call yourself a trans ally if you demonize or exclude certain alignments.

This means masculine-aligned

This means feminine-aligned

This means people who fit into neither

This means multigender

This means people who’s gender you may not fully understand

This means gender not based on traditional concepts

I can’t believe people still have to be fucking told this, but DO NOT call yourself a trans ally if you saying “I support all trans people… except these ones.” And I don’t care if you’re a trans person who pulls this shit. That’s disappointing.

[transonlyspace]

[morsobaby]

Actually trans people are allowed to call their body parts whatever they please. It's not "cringy" or "delusional" or "unrealistic". It's their damn bodies. If it gives them euphoria that's a good thing. It doesn't fucking hurt or bother anyone if a non op trans guy wants to say he's got a dick or if a flat chested trans girl refers to her tits or if any nonbinary or genderqueer person has weird or funny or made up terms for their body parts. It's not your damn business. Actually it's really dope and cool and also coming up with your own terms for your body to avoid dysphoria or cause euphoria? Fuckin awesome. Period.

[your-rutherfurr]

Just a wee reminder that the first recording of neopronouns was 1789, one of the oldest noted examples of neopronouns were 'thon'! And also remember the key word 'recorded' so that means neopronouns could've existed even WAY before that

(Edit! Thon was actually created in 1858! And in 1789 it was 'ou', sry for not updating that quick enough 😅)

[residenttransguy]

Someone going by neopronouns (even ones you don't like) does not mean that you use they/them pronouns instead!

It means that you use the person's pronouns!!

[shmaroace]

if you support aspecs but you think microlabels are "weird" or "niche" then you don't actually support aspecs 👍 hope this helps!

[plushipaws]

“Dragon, I am not sure that I am a prince.”

“Of course not, you are my beloved pet.” “No, I mean… gender-wise.”

“Oh. Are you a princess?”

“No, I don’t think so.” “Alright, dear. Then, what are you?” “I think- well I’m not sure I am allowed.”

“You can be anything you want to be, my darling.”

“Well- and please don’t laugh- I think I’d like to be a dragon. … Like you.”

The dragon purred and wrapped its long neck around the smaller being and nuzzled its nose on their head. “Then a dragon you are, my love.”

“But I’m worried I’m not qualified to be a dragon. I don’t have scales or wings.”

“Dragons come in all sorts of kinds. Many are scaleless or wingless.”

“And I’m rather small and weak for a dragon…” They sighed. “I mean, I am already fairly small and weak for a human.”

The dragon studied the being who was now a smaller dragon for a long time before speaking rather gently. “I am rather small and weak for a dragon too you know… It is something I never told you, and you couldn’t know because you have none other to compare me to.” “What? But you’re so big and strong! You fly ten miles a day to hunt for us and you defend me from nosey knights who try to ‘rescue’ me!”

The dragon nodded. “Yes, but other dragons can fly for a thousand miles a day and hunt for an army, and they could fight off an army too. After fighting a single knight I become quite tired… This is why I live alone in this cave, away from other dragons. They harass me for my weakness, and try to push me to do more… they say what I am is not enough.” With this, the dragon lowered it’s head, seeming to feel ashamed. 

The smaller, human shaped dragon kissed the larger one on the snout. “Well, you are certainly enough for me. You might not be able to fight or feed an army, but your hunts keep us both full and your claws keep us both safe. And I always look forward to curling up under your wings at the end of the day. You don’t have to be alone anymore.” They frowned, their brow furrowing. “It makes me angry how you were treated.”

“It makes me angry how you were treated! That is what drew me to rescue you. I could see your society was treating you the same as mine was… Pushing you to do too much when you were tired, not appreciating you for who you are… but I appreciate you. You always know how to make me laugh, and all your little faces are so cute. I always look forward to feeling you press against my sides at the end of the day.” It nuzzled them. “You are dragon enough for me, better than any other dragon I have met. You are enough.”

The smaller dragon nodded. “We are our own sort of dragons. And that is enough.”

[fiapple]

as a bisexual with a complicated gender identity, i just think that's so sexy and intellectual of me actually. if you are also a bisexual with a complicated gender identity just know we should be sharing a nomination for a nobel prize rn.

[genderqueerdykes]

given how alienating and dehumanizing the trans experience can be, is there really any question as to why so many of us identify as nonhuman? come on, now

[that-bisexual]

We need better queer representation in shows movies and books

We need queer POC

We need people who don't want to label their gender or sexuality

We need trans people who's transition goals aren't to look cis

We need queer people with diverse religions

We need queer people who use pronouns that don't "match" their gender

We need aromantic and asexual characters

We need disabled queer people

We need queer people who use multiple labels for themselves

We need queer people who's entire personality isn't being queer

We need queer people who aren't just there because of romance

We need real and diverse queer people in the media

[aces-and-anime]

[vurrart]

6-page zine I made explaining xenogenders to someone who might not understand them!

download a printable copy and/or support me here!